Etiquette - November 2007

I am not trying to be rude or make assumptions, but I work in the service industry (servers/waiters, bartenders, etc.) here in the U.S. and typically when we get a table or bar guest with a UK accent, we groan because we know we are getting a bad tip. Do people from the UK tip like that intentionally (I know most of the world hates Americans) or do they just not know any better? Typically in the US, you are supposed to tip 15% of the total bill for average service and 20% for good service (even to bartenders). Is it different over there?

2007-11-26 03:09:24 · 35 answers · asked by FSM Raguru AM™ 5

My Wifes' good friend lost her Son over the weekend. This young man was in a bad auto accident. The viewing will be a closed casket. I am looking on views on taking children ( my Son is 4 y.o.) to this kind of event.

2007-11-26 02:11:49 · 14 answers · asked by ripken_hof 4

2007-11-26 01:41:39 · 10 answers · asked by Preston 6

Each day I come in, surf the net and do nothing. My boss is well aware of this but has nothing for me to do. Our company is merging with another next year and the redundancy word is being used a lot - I desperately want to move on but fear if I jump too soon I'll miss out - I've been in this job 10 years so the package would be good. If I suggest working shorter hours for a while then my boss will cut my pay, I could work from home but he's too scared to put it to his boss... I've even directly asked for the big R, but he just laughs it off... the merge is next spring, when do you think we will start hearing about redundancies ? or is my situation more complex - other people are still busy it's just that my boss has lost control of various duties and now is doing about 20% of the work he used to do, as I'm his PA it leaves me with zilch to do each day. which sounds great but is very soul destroying. HELP !

2007-11-26 01:38:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

When a girl wears something that makes her boobs look better than usual, another will compliment her.
When a guy wears pants that makes his bulge look mre noticeable than usual. How come no one says anything?

2007-11-26 01:15:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do people when its quiet wisper? even if its not in a place where we dont have to wisper.

I and im sure some of you find yourself wispering when it is not necssary just because its quiet

2007-11-26 01:11:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-26 01:07:52 · 32 answers · asked by huskerrickinfl 2

2007-11-26 01:02:35 · 13 answers · asked by akivi73 4

Im making my Christmas cards now. They are for all family and friends. Some are not religious, or not Christian. What would be a good greeting? I dont like the tired "Happy Holidays". I was thinking "Have a Magical Holiday", do you like that? Or, is it ok to write "Merry Christmas" since Christmas is also a secular holiday (Santa, etc.)?

2007-11-26 00:57:58 · 5 answers · asked by fizzy stuff 7

started working at present job over a year ago now.From day one I was victimised by a colleague.I said hi to her,smiled and she would just look away and ignore me.After a couple of weeks I gave up trying to speak to her and would just get on with my job.One night I was helping a customer and she yelled at me to get on with my work,all this was in front of customer.(She regularly chats to customers,colleagues and her friends that come in but nothing is said to her!!!).This happened to another colleague so we were told to go and talk to duty manager.We did and was told it would be confidential...she found out and for me life has got worse,much worse.The other colleague she talks to as tough nothing has happened.
In the end I couldnt take anymore and spoke to personel manager, he was fantastic and moved me away from her. he said I shouldnt dread coming in to work.The duty managar I spoke to previously had made no notes in our files about the complaint of this so was reprimanded and moved to different dept.(This was the final straw in a long line of mistakes)
A year on I am slowly being moved back over to work with her and she is physically pushing me now,shoving me out of the way,throwing things which catch me on the arm etc.
The final straw came a few weeks ago when I hurt my arm and couldnt do my job and asked to leave so I could go casualty.I spoke to both managers and they both said no...take some painkillers and get on with it. In the end I had to walk out as I was crying with the pain and was threatened when I left that I had better bring a sick note for the two hours or else!!!.
I had to go back in work the next night and found out that both managers had said I was a liar and there was nothing wrong with my arm and this was said to other colleagues.The thing is I have damaged the tendons in my arm and have been back to hospitol twice this week because of it.
I am overlooked for training videos,overtime hours for xmas shifts and now am called a liar amongst fellow colleagues. I dont want to go back to personel as it seems like I go running every time something goes wrong.I am writing a journal of everything that happens and my husband and friends want me to leave and go see a solicitor.I cant afford to leave for one but am getting so depressed with this job I honestly dont know what to do....any advice greatly appreciated

2007-11-26 00:48:14 · 17 answers · asked by Clare B 3

I spent the holiday weekend with a teen that I feel is arrogant & rude. Am I right or wrong? Here is the gist of what happened.
During most conversations this kid belittled at least one person, roller her eyes when someone wanted to go to a store that was beneath her, constantly interrupting people during conversations to insert how she and “her people” buy more expensive items or have a better football team, or how a this kid she knows drives this $100K car to school.
She had the audacity to ask how much I earn, a questions I would never dream of asking people I hardly know.
She also basically state (in not so many words) that she is better than us because she earns $10 an hour babysitting & can spend 300$ on a designer bag – keep in mind she is only 16 years old.

Am I crazy for thinking this kid is spoiled & ignorant? Or are kids these days raised to be this way or do their parents just not teach them the value of a dollar & manners on what is polite to ask/say?

2007-11-26 00:33:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-26 00:28:26 · 11 answers · asked by thehumancruton 1

2007-11-25 23:55:38 · 11 answers · asked by mjdoran2 1

I'm looking to spend about $50.00 each. One is in her 50's and is retired in Florida. The other is in her 40's and lives upstate New York. Helpl

2007-11-25 23:42:32 · 4 answers · asked by Patricia H 1

2007-11-25 23:31:10 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

can u suggest a polite way to approach my employee to deduct her salary because i no longer need her to do a certain job......she's also quite close to me n' i'm afraid that it would be sensitive to her...thx!!

2007-11-25 23:06:28 · 13 answers · asked by Marijuana 5

I Have been asked on 2 Christmas meals @ work with 2 different groups, But they are both the same night?? The 1 Group are on my team and the other Group work in the same building.................How will i choose who to go with, Dont like letting people down

2007-11-25 22:51:14 · 9 answers · asked by Raj 2

Where I work, alot of people like to talk about me behind my back. My boss likes to go around the office and ask people what they think about my work, customer service and technical skills. They will get credit for talking about me and if a little made up personal gossip is thrown in, great.

It took me 5 months to get this job, so quitting right away is not an option. My boss will not tell me who is tattle telling about me but I can guess. What should I do?

2007-11-25 22:20:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-25 22:13:45 · 18 answers · asked by Janina 1

I will be alone and will not know anyone there; basically I emailed a Club secretary to enquire about membership and didn't hear anything so I forgot about it.

A month has passed by and I've got a reply out of the blue inviting me to the Club christmas party in London later this week. All I've been told is that it's black tie. The email says it's for me to meet everyone and view the Club premises in London.

I gather the secretary has done me a great favour by getting me a place at the party- but do I assume I'm there for what she says or am I the one being assessed? Also no mention was made of a price of a ticket or menu, or even drinks; do I assume that everything is 'on the house'?

Is it wise to take a gift for anyone or any description, bearing in mind they're all total strangers?

Any help welcome- cheers!

2007-11-25 21:52:26 · 9 answers · asked by DaveyMcB 3

Hello I don't think that I am a smart person because, collage it is not for me. I am on my early 20s & I want to be smart like Kennedy or Oprah.

I do know it is a dumb question to ask. How do YOU turn to be smart person?

2007-11-25 21:07:47 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ever since I moved here in July, the upstairs neighbors have done nothing but keep them selves busy with my personal life. They are the cousin to my close friend, who is a gay male. i am a married female. They have spread rumors of us having sex, me having sex with men other than my husband, who often works out of town. He is home now, and they dont like him either. He has a loud voice, the kind that sounds like he is yelling , but he is not. The last bit of gossip came from their children, who talk with our kids. They are not allowed to play with them,because they tell my kids all the gossip the parents conjure up. Well,now they have talked about calling authorities because they think my husband is abussive. We have never laid a hand on our kids ever! Because of his loud voice, they think he is always yelling at them. The woman sits outside my door in the hall, hears bits and pieces of talk, makes up a juicy story out of it,of which always comes back to me. How do I deal with this?

2007-11-25 20:52:54 · 10 answers · asked by It's me 2

Im not too fussy so anything thats nice to eat will do.

2007-11-25 20:37:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-25 20:30:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi, I work as an airhostess in a private airline and have a really short uniform. The skirt barely reaches upto my mid thighs. While it is fine when I stand, it becomes a real problem when I sit down. If I sit with my legs crossed, the side of the dress rides up and my panties show from the sides. Also If i sit without crossing my legs, my panties show. We have to wear white panties as a part of our uniform.

How do I sit without showing off too much? With all the pervs with cams around, how can I ensure no one can ups*kirt me??

2007-11-25 19:27:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a conflict (I guess you could call it) about tipping. I don't want to sound tight with my money but I don't understand why I should tip? Isn't it part of the job such as a waiter, hairdresser, nail technician, bar tender, etc to service the customer? Shouldn't the price be already included for their service and now they want tips too? I work hard for my money and feel that I shouldn't have to tip 20% or more (or even less) for lousy service. Nowadays, I feel that the service I recieve in these types of profession lack the professional services it should come with already and that a tip is automatically expected. Don't get me wrong, if I receive exceptionally great service, I don' mind giving a generous tip, but if I don't get the service I expect to receive, I have the right to hold my tip. What do you think?

2007-11-25 18:42:12 · 13 answers · asked by jayeli2005 2

I live in new york and ride the subway to work like over 2 million other new yorker. i swiped my metrocard to enter the station this was at 6:30 in the a.m. on sunday. no sooner i cleared the turnstyle i came to a complete stop to put my card away when a lady said loudly " excuse you" amazed at the statement i turned around and smiled as if to wait for some sign to indicate that she was only kidding. well there was no smile and even anger in her voice as she walked onto the platform. even though there were two other turnsyles she could have used, i know and recognize that i was in the way, but is it proper to use that term in an sarcastic tone?

2007-11-25 17:20:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

kids tend to be very honest yet while adults are constantly lying about everything, i meant everything. For example, if you see an overweight person, you can't honestly tell her (white lie) you constantly searching for polite words to express your feeling.

2007-11-25 16:31:44 · 12 answers · asked by compaccess1 2

I heard, when I was a teen, that there was a country where it was considered polite to belch after you ate, because it's telling someone the meal was good!

2007-11-25 16:19:32 · 10 answers · asked by Яɑɩɳɓɵw 6

I believe that criticism is a front for people being jealous of somebody else. Example, everybody likes to criticise successful people and look for the negative, but when it comes to complete losers everybody tries to find the positive things. What do you think?

2007-11-25 16:13:37 · 11 answers · asked by babyface 2