Rude and arrogant teen?

Question

I spent the holiday weekend with a teen that I feel is arrogant & rude. Am I right or wrong? Here is the gist of what happened.
During most conversations this kid belittled at least one person, roller her eyes when someone wanted to go to a store that was beneath her, constantly interrupting people during conversations to insert how she and “her people” buy more expensive items or have a better football team, or how a this kid she knows drives this $100K car to school.
She had the audacity to ask how much I earn, a questions I would never dream of asking people I hardly know.
She also basically state (in not so many words) that she is better than us because she earns $10 an hour babysitting & can spend 300$ on a designer bag – keep in mind she is only 16 years old.

Am I crazy for thinking this kid is spoiled & ignorant? Or are kids these days raised to be this way or do their parents just not teach them the value of a dollar & manners on what is polite to ask/say?

Answer 1

Yes, I agree that she is rude and arrogant and devoid of any "class." But she is also 16 years old, and although she attempts to appear worldly and affluent, she is, in reality just another ignorant adolescent groomed to be a shallow consumer and little more.

A very guarded prognosis for happiness, particularly as much of her foolishness is probably compensation for feeling inferior, intimidated by life....all things typical of adolescence.

I know several girls like this. They;re scary, because after all that shopping and doing what they please while simultaneously believing anyone over 25 is a moron, they are empty and morally illiterate individuals, little more than consumers, of products, who could never be trusted to "step up to the plate" and do the right thing.

Let me guess: she's a fellow American.

Answer 2

This girl is just plain spoiled by her parents. Regardless of how much some parents claim that they have installed good behavior and morals in their kids, if they don't do it then they haven't learned it. A spoiled brat is a spoiled brat. You can sugar coat it any way you want or you can blame the people she hangs with or the environment if it make you feel better but if your kid cant do the right thing then something is wrong.

"shadow Kat' reminds me of one of those parents who, when their kid does wrong it not their fault, its someone else fault.

Some parents are like that, not all, some know their kid and wouldn't put it pass them for being rude and disrespectfully and doesn't know how to keep their mouth shut. , but still will make excuses for their kid to show their solidarity for the brat they raised.

Answer 3

I think that killzero is pretty spot on. It's largely immaturity, as these girls generally focus on their immediate world rather than the future. They become engrossed in the now, focusing on popularity, particularly internet popularity. I have a scene friend who is now 20, and she has thousands of MySpace and Facebook friends, plenty of Tumblr followers, but she's the most insecure, mole-like loser I've ever met. She spends most of her time 'modelling'....which is what she calls it to impress scene guys. Realistically she just sets up her digital camera on a timer and photographs herself naked smoking bongs. I think that for her, her nature is largely a result of the fact that she hasn't been able to find her own identity. She conforms to what she considers to be 'cool', covers herself in tattoos and pierces everything just to feel like she belongs. Just to feel loved. She is extremeley arrogant, quite rude but not really all that obnoxious. Everyone is different, but I have found that arrogance and rudeness from scene girls is generally a result of thinking that they're awesome and their sh.t don't stink. Being obnoxious is one good way to draw attention to yourself, so realistically, it's all attention-seeking.

Answer 4

That is some rude kid that's for sure! The parents should have taken the kid aside and given them a talking to about manners!

Answer 5

I strongly disagree with the " its all the parents " bullshit. As a parent I teach my kid manners and how to behave in company but they also see whats going on around them and adapt the attitude of the people they associate with on a daily basis. I try to make sure my kids are not rude but I simply can not be with them every second.
Its possible that this girl is used to talking openly with her parents and assumes other adults can be open also. Perhaps you could have simply told her the questions were rude and let it go.

as for the money thing, I personally think a 300 dollar handbag is ridiculous and would never buy one, but the girl is 16 she works for the money and has no bills so I don't see why she isn't entitled to spend a bit on a luxury item . I can't assume she has no idea of value maybe she saved for a goal.

Answer 6

I would venture to guess that she was spoiled by her parents who didn't bother to teach her about manners. This seems to be a common trend. It's disgusting isn't it? From the day my daughter was born, I was sure to set an example for her. I always said please and thank you, and we talked A LOT about what is polite and what isn't. I now have a well-mannered child. What is even more amazing is that it really didn't take much effort to teach her this! She learned most of it by my example.

Answer 7

no just spoiled....with no home training....that's her parent doing....for her being the way she is......and she doesn't buy a $300.00 designer bag....her parents do.....and I wouldn't call $10.00hr for babysitting a real job...to some kids it is...but for this girl.....I don't think so...I have a cousin like that....very clueless as to what really goes on....sad thing is ..when they are grown ..they wont know how to handle things....due to the fact everything was giving and done for them....it all goes back to the parents...

Answer 8

yup, spoiled and ingorant, but not necessarily her fault, the parent obviously allows their child to behave with such disrespect... look to the parent before completely faulting the child.

and shadow kat, sometimes the parents dont teach the kid to respect and that it is ok to interrupt etc!!!!! so you can thumbs down all you want, it is a matter of opinion, you have yours dont you????

Answer 9

It's very rude but even if their parents teach them values, All they see on tv and in print is Paris Hilton types, kids getting $500,000 supersweet sixteen parties...It's all about the rich kids who do nothing and get everything these days...
It's insane! i know they all hope to marry rich but the boys are doing the same thing so...?

Answer 10

One word describes that teen: stupid.
And the parents are at fault too for letting her get away with that attitude. Too little parenting + too little discipline = rude, obnoxious, know-it-all, stupid teens and kids.