Psychology - July 2007

recurrent intrusive memories and snapshots in my head of my father....who o'd 2 and a half yrs ago.
please help I am really suffering.

2007-07-29 17:24:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm a spontaneous person and i am looking for some new cool hobbies
I am open to almost everything, so tell me all your ideas.

i was thinking, maybe painting, but i dont have very steady hands or images in my mind.
is there some other affordable way to speak my mind and express myself through a hobby?

Any ideas?

2007-07-29 16:43:51 · 7 answers · asked by Claire=] 2

I am too cool and nice to others and I end up agreeing to anything and I forget about myself . When I finally think about myself and realize that Iam not doing or being nice to myself and others are taking advantage of my coolness, I get angry. When I get angry, I think about myself and do the right thing about myself and I stop being cool to others. How do I balance between being too cool and nice and being angry .

2007-07-29 16:37:32 · 2 answers · asked by INVENTOR 2

How can I do this?

2007-07-29 16:17:58 · 10 answers · asked by mindyworlow 1

An older wiser person once told me people who talk to themselves or at inanimate objects are borderline nuts.

2007-07-29 16:10:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm worrying about myself again. What I really need to do is stop fantasizing about this BDSM activity because it's scaring the **** out of me. Ok, I was on this femnization site. There were pictures of women on there each with a message about feminization. Basically they were trying to get men to call for feminization. I started masturbating to one of the pictures of the women. As I felt the *** coming out, I think I accidentally thought while looking at the picture: "I like to suck ****". Now I'm a little worried about myself. I've been heterosexual my whole life. I've always only fantasized about being with women.

2007-07-29 16:04:05 · 5 answers · asked by Samuel R 1

I read the whole book last night by Nicholas Sparks and yearn for the kind of love that Noah & Allie had...is this kind of love really even possible?

2007-07-29 15:57:31 · 11 answers · asked by thatgirl90 2

I want to be a cook now ,
but I am deeply worried that I am too old to start now ...
I dont have any experiences ...
any one who works in this field can give me some
practical suggestions or analysis of the real situation ?

pls help me .... tks a lot.. you're saving a drowning person ...

2007-07-29 15:56:09 · 11 answers · asked by DONJUAN 1

I know it is linked with "out of body experiences".

2007-07-29 15:45:40 · 3 answers · asked by XL0rd 1

When I met him, he was 27 years old living at his dad's house and had just lost a job working as a night auditor at a hotel. We dated for a while then I found out he had an 8 year old son from ex-wife of 4-5 years, which I was attracted to because I wanted to have kids someday and he seemed like a good father and not scared of marriage. He was a nice people person, always helping out and doing romantic things for me. He even started saving up for my engagement ring after only 4 months of us dating then surprised me with it about a year later.

When we met, I was working as a cocktail waitress at bars and drinking couple times a week and he didn’t like it and almost dumped me so I quit drinking to prove I wasn’t an alcoholic (which I wasn’t) and even quit the job so he wouldn’t get jealous and it was just a fun job for me to make extra cash with anyway; I didn’t care about it.

I’m 22, he’s 29 and we’ve been living in MY house for about a year. Now we’re expecting a baby boy next month and I’m not working (I quit my job as a poker dealer because they had no business so it wasn’t worth my time) and he just started a job a month ago as a graveyard cook at a restaurant. Before that, he took his first semester of college and I pretty much did his work for him and tried to explain it to him. I’m not saying I’m a genius but I’ve been to college, tech school and was always head of my class.

He was in the Coast Guard when he was my age, married and taking care of his ex and their son working 2 jobs. He was also in a band doing small bar gigs when I met him. This all sounded good to me but now I’m questioning our relationship. I’ll leave out the other problems we have but my main concern is with money. We both want to start a business and I WILL but I don’t think he has what it takes. Today he told me he wants to quit his job because it’s too much with the 11 hour shifts and he has no time to spend with his son and I, and I would be fine with that but I know he’s not going to help me out as much as I need him to get this business started so we don’t have to worry about money and finding crap jobs.

He doesn’t seem to think long term about things, he gets frustrated, and he’ll enthusiastically help out anyone who asks him which uses up most of his time but when I ask him for help, I get an attitude, it gets done half assed or not at all. He doesn’t have common sense sometimes and I’ll end up having to do what I asked him to do anyway.

When I was on my own, I had plenty of money for my needs, enough space in my house where it wasn’t hard to maintain and it was much easier overall. This guy doesn’t pick up after himself and thinks if he cleans the house once a month I’ll be satisfied. I do almost all housework. He has tons of clothes and the laundry is ridiculous. He’s a packrat and I need an organized clean home to run my business out of.

I’ve always been a generous person and I split everything with him and go out of my way to do things for him. Last week, he told me his paychecks were going to start going into my bank account, then today he grabs all the money and says he’s holding onto it.

We broke up once before because I let his friend stay with us which I thought was for overnight and turned into a month. I finally kicked him out because it was causing problems in our relationship and I’m not supporting an alcoholic grown man 10 years older than me. Fiancé was complaining about how much money he spent on me when I never asked him to do it and I spent just as much, if not more, on him.

Fiancé was offended I asked his friend to leave and one night when I got home from my poker job, both of their stuff was gone and a couple of my things. I actually came home early that night and caught him moving the rest out and he claimed it was an accident and returned my stuff. Two months later he begged for me back and I gave him a chance. I’m sure it’s better living with me than his parents.

I do love this guy and don’t want my baby to grow up without a father, but he’s really holding me back and I can’t take his little toddler temper tantrums when he’s asked to do something. I will have enough of that with my new baby and I need some support by my side, not another kid I have to look after. I’m just writing my thoughts here and wondering if it would be better for me to raise this child alone and work on my business since I doubt he’ll be of much help. I’d never deprive him of seeing his son and hope we could be friends or at least civil with each other.

I might add that I don’t have a family myself except for my grandmother but she will be gone any day now. My mother is a psychotic *****, seriously. She’s even going to mental health court and was on drugs over 10 years. I’m not really allowed to see my younger siblings and they live far. Never met my dad and don’t talk to any other relatives. Will the love of my child be enough to keep me strong to make my dreams come true and our lives better without any other support or help?

2007-07-29 14:43:10 · 21 answers · asked by Holly Berry 4

a couple of months ago i went to an asperger's clinic because my mum thought i had it. so i went along for an hour, i was asked to sit outside and look at poorly black and white photocopied facial expressions and choose from a list of what they were eg. suprised, shocked, happy. i did this outside while my mum talked to the lady. anyway i went back in and she asked me about my childhood and because from grade 6-8 my best friend was asian (she was australian born - not just some immigrant that couldnt speak english) that that was a sign that i had asperger's and also the fact that i prefer other races to white people (i am white myself). I also suffer from depression. And after years of being bullied at school - (for being 'ugly' not 'different') i find that constantly being scared of people calling me ugly is what makes me hold back in social situations - i haven't told anyone this because im ashamed. however on that basis do you think that my diagnosis was fair?

2007-07-29 14:29:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

sigh, i dont really have friends...but thats bcoz im busy..but i noticed i rarely have engaging conversations...never been in a relationship either...there would be mutual attraction but the conversation just goes flat, so it doesnt work out...is it me or is it just normal to connect with only few people...i feel lonely sometimes.

2007-07-29 11:03:44 · 10 answers · asked by vincent m 2

I am 25, and considering a career in psychology. I don't know where to begin. What classes to take? What school can I attend? Are there on-line classes? How long will it take? Questions like that. Also, I'm from Texas.

2007-07-29 09:45:39 · 3 answers · asked by stina 1

I mean the same life you have now...

2007-07-29 09:45:09 · 23 answers · asked by Darla 5

A lot of self-help material always state waking up early as one ingredient to success. But why?

2007-07-29 09:33:00 · 6 answers · asked by Sara * 3

why ? why me ?

2007-07-29 09:30:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

GRRR!!! I am too nice. I know it's not necessarily a bad thing, but it definitely has it's downs. Strange how being nice to other people can hurt yourself. Well, I'd like to know your opinion on this.
Please :O)

2007-07-29 09:18:42 · 14 answers · asked by Momiji-chan 2

I spent the night with my ex-boyfriend because I had to be somewhere REALLY early and he lives really close to there. He made me my favorite dinner, brought up fun times we shared, and suddenly hugged me and told me it was good to see me again, it had been a long time ( it had only been a few months). He did a lot of small but special things for me, too.


He also apologized for being a jerk lately, too, when I didn't bring it up or act like anything mattered.

Do you think he wants to get back together?

2007-07-29 09:07:33 · 3 answers · asked by ♥Ashley K. 5

I have seen this question http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AuQ6sYpStSPeNRc1PBaKo_Lsy6IX?qid=20070729062401AAmLq2D

and I answered it. As I thinked about, it made me truly sick...I get my last meal out.

How can I be still so affected by that years after ?
I know I should go to see a specialist but I am really afraid of the possible effect that a bad report from a psy can have on my career in the armed forces.

2007-07-29 08:39:55 · 8 answers · asked by ColdWarrior 3

This is a sincere question, I am in my early thirties and have realised recently that I am going to die, in my twenties I think I didnt really acknowledge the fact but now the thought that I am definiately going to die and I dont know when or how totally spins me out. I spend far too much time thinking about it and obsessing and frankly im terrified. Does anyone else get spun out by this or do most people accept the inevitability?

2007-07-29 07:49:54 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-29 06:11:26 · 3 answers · asked by jeht_black1 3

i always have a lot of things running through my head, a lot of different things.. and then i always always feel confused, and i just don't know how to deal with some things. i get annoyed & lash out at everyone a lot, especially my family. I also have repeated mood swings.. i will get upset even at the littlest things, and then a little while later, i'll be really good. i also feel depressed & i don't enjoy a lot of things anymore. i just don't know, what could this mean? is there anything wrong with me?

2007-07-29 05:55:52 · 12 answers · asked by brooke 1

When I see or meet people on TV or in reality who's personality attracts me I wanna be like them, dress like them, and act like them and over the years I forgot who I am. I would think it would be in the morning when I just wake up but I'll react to things differently and talk to people differently depending on who my latest hero or idol is.

2007-07-29 05:35:47 · 10 answers · asked by Ganon 2

if you analyze a few-words-person you'll notice that he/she actually is not "few words" but doesn't want to share with others because have been growing introverted and doesn't want to socialize that easily, so that person have many words, the problem is that he/she needs extra-trusting for take them out,
That's why you see these people talk many-words with his/her most relative (parents,siblings,best friends).
So then a few-words-person is actually not few-words?

2007-07-29 05:28:45 · 7 answers · asked by Cranberrydude 3

My problem is I have been really emotional for a few weeks now. I have been crying alot, and i mean alot. Over nothing most of the time. My question is for anyone..... why do i feel this way? I know people have emotional problems but right now everything in my life is good. I just have the urge to cry over any little thing. I don't want to feel this way but i can't help it. any answers will help. thanks in advance.

2007-07-29 05:25:07 · 14 answers · asked by kristydonaldson 1

Perspectives from parents and non-parents are welcome.

2007-07-29 05:17:47 · 6 answers · asked by Subconsciousless 7

what is validity? Does it have to do with the truth of an arguments conclusion?

explanation please?

thanx

2007-07-29 05:15:47 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I grew up as a dyslexic in a family of quality spellers. So i was often taunted by them becasue of their superior skills.

As i grew up the problem went away (maybe i was just a slow developer) But the scar remains. Why do some people feel it necessary to taunt others for simple mistakes. People come on here to ask questions, not be put down for simple mistakes.

So why would someone deliberately look for errors and ignore the actual question?

2007-07-29 05:15:14 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-29 05:00:43 · 8 answers · asked by Rehma A 1

http://ca.news.yahoo.com/photos/ss/235

It's just uncomprehensible.

2007-07-29 04:13:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous