Grade-Schooler

My 5-year old behaves perfectly at school, just as he/she used to at home. He/she has always amazed friends and relatives with his/her easygoing disposition.

But now that he/she's in school, every morning starts with a defiance-than-screaming session. And about 3/4 of all evenings include a "won't come to dinner because I prefer to scream in my room for 15 minutes first" session. Every night also includes meltdowns about homework. And the kid also won't stay in bed at bedtime, which never used to be a problem.

Having read a half dozen books on behavior modification and having a friend who teaches parenting skills in the community, I know that school is a tough adjustment for kids. I am also using all the typical techniques: token economies, praising the good, taking valued toys away for punishment, etc. with little effect.

But two months into this sudden and unexpected hell, I'm wondering how long this adjustment period is going to last.

Been there?

2007-10-24 04:16:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

We don't have any family friends with kids, but I would really like him to get to have guests his own age at his birthday party (he's turning six). So far, all of his birthdays have been just family, and the only kids have been my niece and nephew.

Do you take your child to a birthday party of a kindergarten classmate? Or is it pretty much just family friends?

If we invite some of his classmates, are we obligated to invite them all?

How far in advance should we send out the invites (it's on November 10, a Saturday)?

In the way of background information, you should know that where I am (Texas), things are very laid back, I am not spending hundreds of dollars on his birthday party, and regardless of whether you ask for an RSVP, 90% of the people don't do it.

2007-10-24 00:53:54 · 14 answers · asked by CrazyChick 7

I have a 5yr.old girl & a 6yr. old boy who are both driving me crazy to watch a scary movie! Any suggestions on some semi-scary flicks that hopefully won't induce nightmares???

2007-10-23 16:16:46 · 11 answers · asked by Rach 2

2007-10-23 16:09:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is sorta embarrsing but today, in study hall, I was working with some guy to finish a project. We were talking and laughing (no tention) but by the end of it I felt like I was going to throw up. I got embarrsed when I looked in his eyes when he was talking. What is wrong?? (grade 7)

2007-10-23 11:13:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

if so how old are they and how much???

2007-10-23 10:32:32 · 22 answers · asked by Steph 5

I am throwing 2 Halloween parties this weekend for my daughters. I need inexpensive craft ideas for girls that are 10 and 7 years of age! We are having a fortune teller read their palms and a donut eating contest.... any other ideas to keep them entertained (cash is tight so the cheaper the better) would really be appreciated!!! Thanks!

2007-10-23 10:30:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 5th grade teacher was reading this paper one day and she said something about this thing and that you can earn $200- $500 if you win this thing, and a boy commented that you have to be 18 or older to spend it, can a 10-14 year old spend the money, and if not, why are they even doing this??

2007-10-23 10:23:43 · 8 answers · asked by ♥Heather♥Lee♥ 1

2007-10-23 10:18:20 · 17 answers · asked by Tracy H 2

My son is quite possibly afflicted with ADHD and almost definitely has another disorder known as Oppositional Defiant Disorder. We are having this theory checked out tomorrow by his pediatrician. I'm sure we'll be referred on to someone else as well. The problem is, I'm wondering what to say to him when he asks why we're going to the doctor. He's not sick, and it's not a checkup. He's extremely easy to get angry and I don't want him going into a tantrum about it and feeling like I'm putting him down or disciplining him. I love him so much and I want to help him through this but his self-esteem is very fragile right now. Any thoughts how to explain what we're doing and why?

2007-10-23 08:59:16 · 19 answers · asked by pookiemct07 5

His doc says it is either his bladder isnt large enough and he needs to hold it before he goes, or that it is stress related. Well, I took him out of football to help with stress, and I make him wait a couple min b4 he goes, but nothing has changed? And suggestions? We have bed wetting issues often.

2007-10-23 08:49:22 · 11 answers · asked by Sweet_Bama 2

My daughter is 5 and she has her first loose tooth! How much did you give your kids for their first tooth?

2007-10-23 07:14:53 · 18 answers · asked by BimboBaggins 3

give consequences that relate to the bad behavior ? For example; A child grabs a toy from another child even if you have taught the child to use his words. A dirct consequece to the unwanted behavior should be telling the child to leave the area.

VS

Punishing a child or making him hurt wheather it be taking away toys or TV.

Which of these teaches the child to take responsibility for their own actions?

2007-10-23 06:24:32 · 14 answers · asked by liliana 4

I think she is still a bit young, although she is smart and mature for her age. My 11 year old thinks we should tell her because "she needs to know". What do you think is the right age?

2007-10-23 03:50:09 · 54 answers · asked by mikegreenwich 4

FOR WEEKS SHE WENT TO SCHOOL WITH NO PROBLEMS, THEN SUDDENLY SHE STARTED TO CRY EVERY MORNING. SHE SAID A LITTLE BOY WAS BOTHERING HER. WE ADDRESSED THAT PROBLEM. HE DID NOT THINK POPPING HER ON THE ARM SHOULD BE A PROBLEM. ANOTHER BOY TAKES HER SCISSORS OR PAPERS. WE THINK THIS PROBLEM IS RESOLVED. SHE HAS TO HELP THE OTHER KIDS OFTEN ON THEIR CLASS WORK. SHE SAYS SHE IS SCARED, BUT REALLY CAN'T SAY SCARED OF WHAT. AND HER THROAT HURTS HER. THE LOUD NOISE OF THE OTHER CHILDREN SEEMS TO IRRITATE HER EARS. WE HAVE TAKEN HER TO THE DR. AND HE CANNOT FIND ANYTHING WRONG. SHE IS AN ONLY CHILD AND HAS A VERY LOVING FAMILY AND HAS BEEN RAISED BASICALLY IN A BUSINESS OFFICE AND IS MENTALLY ADVANCED FOR HER AGE. HAS BEEN POTTY TRAINED BY HER OWN INSISTANCE SINCE 17 MONTHS OF AGE AND HAS TALKED IN SENTENCES SINCE ABOUT 20 MONTHS OF AGE. SHE HAS ALWAYS BEEN A VERY HAPPY CHILD AND MOSTLY PLAYED ALONE OR WITH ADULTS. CAN WE HELP HER ADJUST AND NOT BE SO SAD.

2007-10-23 02:42:40 · 11 answers · asked by ROSIE 1

My daughter is 6 and yes i know absolutely nothing has happened to her but when she takes her showers in the morning she locks the door. Which I guess would be fine but she is the sort of kid that still needs help rinsing out ALL the soap and she also has to be pushed along a bit as she will take an hour long shower if let her. I asked her why she locks the door and she says because her little 2 yr old brother will come in if not which I understand it is cold here if the door gets opened but I told her knock it off and explained it too her that I still need it to help and I am not sure if she is just grumpy cause it is morning or what but now I am mean????

2007-10-23 02:41:05 · 20 answers · asked by ღKrissyღ 5

My 8yr old 3rd grader is not shy. Talks easily to anyone new, can carry on a conversation well. Sometimes we've had neighborhood kids come over for playdates, and they also go for swim, dance etc together.
But, she does not make any "close" friends. Plays alone at recess, hardly talks to anyone more than needed. Does well in group activities in class, participates, and is pretty good in academics.
I feel I've done what I can, exposed her to different friends, activities, playdates, going to parks. She just doesn't seem to want to bond with anyone particular.
She is happy and an active child with a great imagination and good nature/attitude.

I am not worried. Think friends will happen when they will. But, her teacher seems to think it odd that she doesn't have any friends, doesn't talk about any friends at school except her little brother.

is this something to be worried about?
What else can I do?

2007-10-22 19:21:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm curious, I went to lunch with a friend who just moved back to town and she brought along her eight year old son. He couldn't cut his own food (it was a waffle, not a steak or anything like that), refused to use silverwear and even ate part of his mothers salad with his fingers and wouldn't use a napkin (she had to clean his hands). Then he just wandered off to sit at another table by himself and play with the table setting. Then another table. And another. It made me very uncomfortable since he seemed too old for this kind of behavior and his mother just accepted it as how he should behave. I'v been avoiding going out with her because of this. Is this normal? Am I just out of touch from kids today?

2007-10-22 17:27:48 · 27 answers · asked by Todd S 1

hi, I have 3 boys, ages 14,11 and 9. When they are in chlorinated pools for an extended period of time...ie when on vacation, their skin on their face and neck, sometimes on their arms becomes very red and blotchy and when I apply sunscreen it stings!!!!! This usually happens on about day 2 or 3 of our vacation after prolonged exposure to the pool water. Any suggestions for any barriers that could be applied to their skin to prevent the initial problem from happening or any suggestions at all!!! thanks.

2007-10-22 17:03:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am lost for ideas for my daughter for Christmas. She is the only girl with 3 brothers and is mostly into video games (wich we are all tired of only buying games) and drawing ( which she has everything imaginable for that. Anyone have any suggestions?

2007-10-22 15:40:06 · 19 answers · asked by Football mom 2

2007-10-22 15:31:59 · 10 answers · asked by ♥cutemamma♥ 6

My daycare provides afterschool pick up for my son from his elementary school to the center. He is 7 yrs old and he is being transported in an 8 passenger chevy van of some sort. They have 6 children with the one adult driver. Since all the children are young/elem. school age, they are all in booster seats. The problem is that there is not room enough for each child to have a booster b/c the width of the seats won't accomodate 3 across. How can I find out what New York states requires with regard to seat belted children in a daycare van? The daycare is now asking me to write a note of permission for them to transport my son in the third row of the van with only a lap belt. He would be between two booster seats and the seat in front of him is high - similar to a school bus. What are your thoughts on this? Where could I find out if this is even legal for them to do? I know school buses only have lap belts but don't they have different regs? Thanks for your help.

2007-10-22 15:02:18 · 4 answers · asked by abcdpepe1122 2

Two of our boys wet the bed. They are 6 and 11. I am using youth diapers on both of them. The 11 year old was using goodnites, but recently they started causing him problems so we switched him over to his brothers tena diapers and we haven't had any problems since.

Here is the problem though, tonight my husband and i are going out and our sitter is coming over. Our six year old has no problem with the sitter knowing about his bedwetting but our 11 year old is sensitive. We are planning on being out past 1AM and I have no desire to be cleaning wet sheets when I get home. I was planning on just having a diaper on both of them when she comes over tomorrow at 6, but it might be a little early. Does anyone have any suggestions? The sitter knows they both are wetters.

I was given the suggestion to just have the 11 year old put the diaper on himself, but we tried that a few times and it leaked all over. Normally I just put one on him before bed like our 6 year old.

2007-10-22 11:36:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-22 11:34:55 · 17 answers · asked by TB 1

He is a Sports Crazed Fan Kinda Kid.
I got Him A Guitar for his 9th,And a Drum set for his 10th.This Year,I want to make him have the best 11th Birthday Party Ever.Tommorow,It's Only Me and My Family.(Cousins,Friends,ETC.)Friday,His Friends are coming for a sleep-over.He is at our Grandma's Right Now,And we are going to the Mall at 4:00.Any Ideas on what to get him?



His Personality:Rocker,Soccer Fan,Shy,Loves to shop at Gamestop,And He loves to be around family.And loves Video Games.


Me:I'm 13.
Him (Jacob):Is 10 (almost 11)
and my little 4 Year old sisters name is Jaylen,And her's is November 28th.

2007-10-22 08:35:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a 16 year old Grandaughter that up untill this year was an A student and now she is failing most of her subjects.
She is allso skipping school and her life has become Sex Drugs Rock and Roll first and the hell with everyone else.
I dont think she is on any hard drugs but she has been smokeing cigarets and drinking Vodka. I have been praying for her aswell as the rest of my family.
The School offers little help and beating a child is against the law ,back in my day beating was the in thing so what is left "Boot Camp" at a last resort?
Does anyone know of any good boot camps or places to help these kids near Pittsburgh Pennsylvania.
Thanx in advance

2007-10-22 06:33:15 · 4 answers · asked by doc_holliday1863 7

Ok, so I'm planning a 13th Birthday party for my little sister. She's wanting a BIG one! lol. And she isn't telling me what she wants the theme to be or whatever. What kind of questions should I ask her? What kind of theme and ideas should I bring to her?

2007-10-22 05:53:59 · 16 answers · asked by dityz_blond_chic_08 2

My daughter started kindergarten in August. She seems to have become very clingy since then. We thought this was normal since she had not spent much time away from me or her mom before. Now the mother of on of her classmates has died about 3 weeks ago. Since then she has been worrying about me and her mom dying. She doesn't want either one of us to go anywhere without her. When we went to the grocery store last week, we all had to go as a family. We have tried to talk to her and reassure her, but it doesn't seem to help. Is this a problem we should seek help with or will our reassurances eventually help?

2007-10-22 05:39:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

dye my hair (highlights too)
wear make-up
have a boyfriend
get contacts
get a nose piercing
and get a upgraded cellphone

i want all of that!

2007-10-22 04:07:26 · 26 answers · asked by cyndi :D 2

My son and his friends told me this weekend that they are not allowed to talk during lunch at school. I am planning to talk to the teacher about this this afternoon. I think the boys are probably exaggerating and have just been told to keep quiet in there, but I was curious to know if other schools do that. I think it is rediculous not to let the kids talk on their lunch break.

2007-10-22 03:26:43 · 23 answers · asked by kat 7