My 5-year old behaves perfectly at school, just as he/she used to at home. He/she has always amazed friends and relatives with his/her easygoing disposition.
But now that he/she's in school, every morning starts with a defiance-than-screaming session. And about 3/4 of all evenings include a "won't come to dinner because I prefer to scream in my room for 15 minutes first" session. Every night also includes meltdowns about homework. And the kid also won't stay in bed at bedtime, which never used to be a problem.
Having read a half dozen books on behavior modification and having a friend who teaches parenting skills in the community, I know that school is a tough adjustment for kids. I am also using all the typical techniques: token economies, praising the good, taking valued toys away for punishment, etc. with little effect.
But two months into this sudden and unexpected hell, I'm wondering how long this adjustment period is going to last.
Been there?
2007-10-24 04:16:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
i am there also two months in and mine has just settled in at school, he had a hard time sharing attention.
do homework when your child first gets home have dinner at 5pm and bedtime at 7pm sounds like your child is over tired. sleep should help. if your child wants to scream instead of eat go put him (her) to bed at that time. your child is testing you and pushing the limits get firm and consistent.
a five minute time out in the corner could work too
it fixed my son real quick
2007-10-24 04:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter also had a very rough go of Kindergarten. She would go to the nurse 2-3 times a week and never want to go to school in the mornings. This lasted all year. Going into first grade this year I thought she would have the same problems but she really loves going to school now. I would talk to your kids teacher and see if she has any idea why he is not adjusting. Maybe he is having problems with other kids, the teacher, or just having problems being homesick. Good Luck!
2007-10-24 11:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's feeling like he's not in control of his life - things are changing & he hasn't got his feet safely under him yet.
Try reading 'Parenting with Love and Logic'.
Then, let him be part of the planning for his life. Let him decide when homework gets done (within reason - it's got to be done & it can't interfere with other family needs). Let him plan how he's going to get out of the house in time in the morning. Let him choose the method of making bedtime work for him (again, within reason & without making other people in the family uncomfortable).
See how things change when he feels like he is a valued individual, instead of something that's being controlled.
2007-10-24 11:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time. Hopefully your child will adjust soon. Some kids just take longer than others adjusting to change.
I must say I've been very fortunate in that my 4-year-old couldn't wait to get away from me and go to school. I practically have to chase her just to give her a hug when I drop her off.
I hope things get better for you.
2007-10-24 11:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by bye bye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you spell TIME OUT? Time out should never be in their bedroom at that age. It should be in the room you are in or the kitchen.
2007-10-24 11:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by tysdad62271 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read, understand, follow:
http://www.loveandlogic.com/
http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/0380811960
2007-10-24 13:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by TryItOnce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RITE AWAY THEY LIKED IT
2007-10-24 22:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by famousbayon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋