2007-10-23 10:18:20 · 17 answers · asked by Tracy H 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
thank you all very much some interesting answers..
i am new to this but think im goin to be a regular..its very good!!
2007-10-23 10:28:20 · update #1
That must be so hard for you both.
Have you asked your son why he thinks you won't come back? That might be a place to start. You could also ask him what he thinks needs to happen so he worries less. What about asking him to look after something of yours, making sure he knows you'll be needing it back when you come to collect him?
If it's difficult for him to say what's worrying him, it could be helpful to ask him what sort of things his favourite toy might be afraid of or worried about if he/she/it had just started going to school. That used to work really well when my daughter was that age. I discovered so much through her toy cat, Stripey!
Another idea might be talking to his teacher who may have suggestions.
I really hope things start improving for you both soon and that he gets to enjoy school. Good luck to you both.
2007-10-23 10:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Making "real" sure that you're there at the same time every single day. He's going to cry...it's expected and I'm sure he's seen someone else do this. He must have heard or seen a child waiting for his parent and they didn't come. Maybe someone told him that their parents left them. You never know when it's this age. Just reassure him that you are going to be there and start having a "treat" in the afternoon when he acts like a "big boy" in the mornings. He'll be fine.
2007-10-23 17:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His fear is a very rational fear that most 5 year olds have. The best way to help him is by talking about what he is going to do that morning in school. Ask him questions. Do you think you are going to paint today? If you do can you paint mommy a picture to put on the fridge? id really love that! Are your teachers going to read a book to you today? I wish that somebody would read me a book today, you are very lucky!
After school reaffirm all the positive things that happened today.
For instance:
What a great job on the drawing you did! Im so proud of you, I think I will take it to work to show it to all my friends!
Did you play any games in school today? What Book did you read today/? Did you like the book? Do you think we should buy the book or would you like to see what else your teacher reads to you this week before you decide?
Purchasing your child's favorite book of the week is a great way to bond with your child, encourage him or her to read, and to show your child that you take a pro-active approach to his or her life. Books are the one thing I tell parents that they can never over indulge their children in enough.
2007-10-24 05:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Moral Guardian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps if you try to encourage new friends - maybe invite one or two other children over then he will see faces he knows when he gets there.
Are you sure that this is what is upsetting him? He may have worries which he cannot express. You maybe need to talk to the teacher - find out how he is later in the day, ask her to spend some time getting to know him and to help you
2007-10-23 17:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by Em 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get him a little cheap watch and show him where the hands will be when you come to get him. So then he can keep checking his watch. Then when he knows that you are always there for him at that time, he will soon get used to it. Tell him that you love him and that you would never ever forget to pick him up. Let him know that he has his friends to play with at school who also leave their mummies! Good luck it is hard, I got more upset then my youngest on his first day at school.
2007-10-23 17:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa T 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When my son started school he was very scared,and i found that by leaving a few keys on a key ring with him he was fine, he always got the car keys when we were going out and by having the keys he did not think i could go far.Maybe you have something you can leave with him,Good luck
2007-10-23 17:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by heather d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's fine, tell him you love him, send him to school, and always be there to pick him up. The same routine, the same schedule, the same encouragement.
Thats what makes children feel secure. He'll be scared for a while, but soon the school day will become routine and he'll feel safer.
2007-10-23 17:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It might sound cruel
Leave him to it ,the teachers have seen it and dealt with it before they do know what they're doing
My wife took our son on his first day she pampered him so much she came home with him
I took him next day just turned around and left him he loves it now !
2007-10-23 17:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by deane c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very good question....Alot of parents like myself have gone through the fear of watching their kids go off to school crying and thinking that we won't be back....but thats why they have teachers so they can explained to the kids that we are going to be back......its very normal for the first 3 weeks............
if after 3 weeks he is still crying,,,,,talk to him...console him,
tell him that is ok and that you are always going to be there for him........encourage him to play with other kids...............
2007-10-23 17:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by MrRight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to build up slowly, leave him downstairs and go upstairs saying you'll be back in 5 mins.
Then build it up to going outside and leaving him for 7-8 mins etc etc...
You have to earn there trust, and once they believe you build it up even more.
2007-10-23 17:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by Chuck Norris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋