i fell out with a guy friend because he has a tendency to make disrespectful remarks about my appearance. in the past, he has apologized but two months ago was the last straw and i distanced myself from him for a while. a few times he called me but i didn't pick up the phone. after a few days, i cooled off & decided to call him and explain to him that the statements he makes really hurt me. whenever i would call his phone no one would answer, and i found that odd considering he lives in a house with 8 other people and usually somebody answers the phone.
the two of us share a mutual friend. i told her the situation and she never gave me any real insight..the only thing she would say was that i shouldn't get mad over something so 'petty' which alarmed because he said some really nasty things to me. anyway, whenever me and her would get on the phone she would tell me that he called her, or that she called him and they spoke. it became very clear to me that he was avoiding my phone calls. sometimes i would call the day that she spoke to him and no one would answer. so after a few tries i completely gave up.
i asked my friend to tell him to call me because i'd like to speak to him about the situation. she would say all right. only to have her call me the next day 'teasing' me about how she spoke to him and that she completely forgot to tell him to call me. there has many occassions where she has told me she spoke to him only to have a bunch of excuses pouring out as to why she can't get him to call me. one of them being was that his phone is not working and that he calls her from different cell phone numbers that are not his, and he's not easy to reach. another one is that when they talk it's usually very brief and she is busy doing something else so has no time to 'talk about me to him'.
i spoke to someone else who knows this guy, and this person told me that he has been calling her from the same phone as he usually does.
so i often wonder, if my so called friend is lying to me about something..I'd really wish she'd be honest with me and let me know the REAL reason why he won't speak to me. I'd be fine as long as I KNOW why he is avoiding me. But it appears to me that she is being conniving and I'm wondering if there is some backstabbing going on that involves her.
Also, she is lying about how the two of them don't talk about me to each other. I know they do. Not to long ago, my friend wanted me to attend her sister's bday party, but when the day came I couldn't go because my mother was sick in the hospital that morning. I called her and let her know why I couldn't make it. Several hours later, the guy friend (the one who doesn't speak to me) called MY MOTHER, asking her if she is fine on her cell phone.(my mother told me about this) Now why did she have HIM call my mother? Why couldn't she have called herself to see if she is fine? She never mentioned this situation to me, and i kept quiet about it to see if she would at least bring it up . She never did. I think something shady is going on..
what do you guys think?
2007-08-20
03:41:03
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