Does age really make a difference when it comes down to a relationship?

Question

Even if its a 12 yr. difference.

because im 21 and shes 33 .

Answer 1

Depends. If its a 45 year old guy and a 33 year old girl.. probably not.

But people who say "age is just a number" are naive.

If a 18 year old girl dates a 30 year old man.. they are likely at very different maturity level and times in their life and it will likely cause big problems.

And well.. if either is younger then that... well its not only illegal but wrong as well.

Answer 2

It depends, 12 years would be alright if we are talking 30 and 42 year olds but wrong if it is a 15 yr old and a 27 yr old. If the age gap is too large then all sorts of things get out of whack. If you are not born in the same generation then the history you lived through is different. If for example you were asking " Remember when the Berlin Wall came down" or "What were you doing when JFK got shot" and the other person wasn't alive yet then you can't discuss it. Or something like music, one of you could be reminiscing about an artist the other one has never heard of or old t.v.ads etc., the list is endless. It gets inappropriate after say 20-25 years or when one partner is the same age as the other ones parents. I know someone who's girlfriend is the same age as his daughters boyfriend! This I think is too much. Hope this helps you out

Answer 3

It really depends on the individuals. And remember, even though things work fine early on in the relationship it can change as you mature and get older. Here's what I mean: my hubby and I began dating when I was 24 and he was 34...we hit it off well, and had common interests, etc. Now, 16 years later I have found that we no longer have a lot of common interests. My husband is only 50 but he acts much older...he's an 'old' 50 and I, on the other hand, am a 'young' 40. I like dressing up and hitting the town where he is totally satisfied staying home. So be careful... just because the age difference works right now, it might not always work.

Answer 4

I think I'm the right person to answer this question,because I got married to a man that is 11 years older than me.I'm 20 years old and my husband is gonna turn 31 soon.At first I thought that the age difference didn't matter,but it totally does,since there's different interests.For example I will like to go party like almost everyday and that's what people of my age does,but my husband in the other hand likes to chill out,watching TV or playing video games.Since I already prepared myself before I got married and I knew this was gonna happen,I guess it doesn't matter so much to me.I think that my husband understands that I'm interested on things like that and he always tries to satisfy me,but is not what he really likes to do.As long as you know that you both will have different interests and that the couple is willing to satisfied each others interests,since they're not the same.The most important thing that it will overcome anything is love,that's the only thing that will overcome the age difference.

Answer 5

Well I know people who are 22 years apart and get along great. Like any relationship, if the other person has similar interests and have the qualities you like in a person then it can work. Sometimes its tougher when there is a big age gap because you wont have similar interests and you are just at different points in your life. But if you both are wanting the same things out of life and get along great then everything will be okay. Age is only a number. But if there is a real connection between the two people then love is love no matter who you are.,

Answer 6

there are problems.. as many noticed here usually lives are at a different steps. As you get older things even out so even a 15 years gap for people over 30 isnt that big deal.

Having said that.. it's all about personal compatibility, I am about to marry a 18 years old girl, 17 years gap ( I am 35).. that is HUGE! And it does effect the relationship, and it will keep effecting the relationship for years to come. It's part of the game, sometimes it is age, sometimes it is social status, sometimes it is religion.. there are endless examples of relationships with big obstacles that were overcame succesfully.
But you need to be prepared.. unlike the girl that married the 9 years old guy and then she complains he is immature.. HELLO?? ANYBODY HOME???

It'd be like me complaining my gf is childish or her complaining cause I dont bring her to club dancing... it'd be dumb.. very very very very dumb.


If you are bothered by the ppl looks or ppl comments dont even start on this... but if you have real feelings and you are a strog character go for it... u surelly would have an easier story with somebody that is ur age/culture/religion/nationality/political minded and so on.. but love isnt that easy to control you know?

Answer 7

If you really love someone then no, age does not make a difference when it comes to a strong relationship. My husband and i are 5 & 1/2 years apart in age, him being younger than I and it makes no difference to me because I love him that much. I've seen people 15 to 20 years apart in age and are very happy together. It all comes down to how much you love and care for eachother. That's all that really matters in the end after all.

Answer 8

Yes and no. Maturity and goals in life make a great difference in a relationship, and these are often related to age. Relationships with any range of age difference can work or not work; it's true compatibility that matters. But chances are if you are dating someone a great deal older or younger than you, your maturity and life experience will be very different, which might not be best.

Answer 9

It all depends on the maturity of the people. If say the guy is the younger one but he is mature beyond his years then it could work out. But it may be tough cause the two people may have different tastes in music, movies, etc, just like most people 12 years apart would, but then again, there are young people out there that like old music and such, and vice versa. It just really depends on the people in the relationship.

Answer 10

Yes it does. Whats legal and illegal and a maturity level. If both are grown and up in age, then not that much. But alot of good and bad things come along with dating someone with such a big age gap. For one probably # 1, is security and confidence. Usually the older one is more insecure and doesn't feel that confident. Oviously because of their age but if you make your partner feel secure then that part should be ok.