I am from London. My girlfriend moved to cornwall 8 weeks ago. i didnt go with her at first because my family and friends are here. i like cornwall nice and peaceful and i love my g/f but im worried i weel feel alone if i go. i will have my g/f but nobody else. but if i dont go i miss her and i will break her heart. i just dont no what to do im not the best at figuring out my feelings and whats going on in my head. any advice anyone? would be greatly appreciated.
2007-08-20 02:58:35 · 10 answers · asked by mylescutts1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u cannot have the cake and eat it too can u?
2007-08-20 03:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never revolve your actions or life around a girl.
I learnt the hard way not to do this.
Completely clear your mind and don't think. Try and feel what your impulses and heart and gut are saying. What are the natural tides inside your body telling you to do?
Do you feel more pulled towards moving there or do you feel like you want to stay?
I am not saying what you THINK you should do. I am saying what you FEEL you should do, when the mind is completely silent. Always go with that option for it is a far better guide then the confused, egotistically driven mind.
People live in an almost constant fear of moving into uncertainty, of the unknown. This is because we are controlled by our mind and our egos which will always inhibit you and make you lead a restricted life.
The mind is a tool for solving problems. That is it. It should never be used to make decisions.
2007-08-20 03:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you go down to Cornwall for a week or so and see how you feel and what job opportunities there may be, you don't have to commit yourself but at least you would have given it a try - nobody can ask more than that of you.
Good Luck.
2007-08-20 03:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by ffiondove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man should always be the man. We are the man, because God endowed us so well to be the head. Not the head that act blindly, but wisely.
We cannot live with our parents for eternity. Marriage is a good separating factor. We leave our parents and other loved one to join with our partner- in love. We form a new family. I am not talking boy/girl love here. That is ungodly.
If you are married to her, and you are convinced of her reason[s] to relocate, then you dont have a point in considering you relatives. Go and give your heart a peace.
2007-08-20 03:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by mikail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I so agree with The Taker. You really need to feel what
you want to do. What is your gut instinct? If you do not make
a rash decision perhaps you will feel better.
Stay where you are for now and just go visit. Your girlfriend
has only just moved there so it will seem like a holiday to her too until she really settles in.
You don't say how old you are, but perhaps you need to check
college/job opps too.
If you are thinking about it too much - perhaps you are not ready. Good Luck whatever you decide. Let us all know
how you get on. Take Care. Minxy.
2007-08-20 03:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your gf and think you will miss her alot. then I advice you to go. Once you get marry, you will move out from your family's place and live on you own with the person you love anyway. So think of it as like that. You're family will always be your family and true friends will always stay as true friends.. but you're girlfriend? distance might break your relationship if you dont follow her right now
2007-08-20 03:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by tin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its early days yet depends on your age and the reason for her move.Maybe arrange a meeting for the weekends for now.
2007-08-20 03:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by RAINBOW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart
2007-08-20 03:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relatioships suck and are very hard....just move if you really love her...your family will understand.
2007-08-20 03:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay home and find a new girl friend
2007-08-20 03:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by robert x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋