Other - Family & Relationships - 20 October 2006

Okay, my boyfriend's mother is very over bearing. She wants call my boyfriend out of work tonight, because his sister got married today at the justice of peace and they are having dinner tonight. He told them he had work tonight, but they insist on calling him out telling his supervisor that it's a family emergency. My boyfriend is really unsure about what to do, he doesn't want to disappoint his family but can't afford to get into trouble at work/maybe get fired, or points on his record. He really wants me to make the decision for him, but I tend to stay out of it, and tell him that he needs to do what's best for him and his job.

They don't seem to understand that he told them he had to work, and they know he works nights, so I'm so put in the middle. They want to me rally with them to get him out of work and I just can't.

What would you suggest? Should I take a stand and tell him to go to work?

2006-10-20 07:00:05 · 22 answers · asked by Amber M 1

me and girlfriend been having some issue, i just want to do something special with my family. Any ideas?

2006-10-20 06:58:40 · 6 answers · asked by savage_linx 1

Without obtaining a lawyer does anyone know a cost effective way to be awarded visitation with a grandchild?

2006-10-20 06:57:38 · 3 answers · asked by Joni D 1

My boyfriend and I have recently moved from illinios to california. he has warrants in illinois and cannot go back there without facing alot of time in prison. illinois however will not extradite him back to illinois and hes working a great job at an electric company. i just found out i am carrying his baby and we have been together for only one year but we do love each other very much. my family wants me to go back to illinois to have the baby and support me. and i feel bad for leaving my boyfriend. he also is willing to be a responsible dad and support me. i feel so confused and worried that there's no right decision that i can make. please help me. if you were in my shoes were would you live. back in illinois were your family is and where you grew up or in california where you and your boyfriend could live a life together?

2006-10-20 06:57:01 · 22 answers · asked by mbme_3 1

My boyfriend and I have recently moved from illinios to california. he has warrants in illinois and cannot go back there without facing alot of time in prison. illinois however will not extradite him back to illinois and hes working a great job at an electric company. i just found out i am carrying his baby and we have been together for only one year but we do love each other very much. my family wants me to go back to illinois to have the baby and support me. and i feel bad for leaving my boyfriend. he also is willing to be a responsible dad and support me. i feel so confused and worried that there's no right decision that i can make. please help me. if you were in my shoes were would you live. back in illinois were your family is and where you grew up or in california where you and your boyfriend could live a life together?

2006-10-20 06:56:06 · 7 answers · asked by mbme_3 1

i got my tubes tyed like 2 years ago and i have 4 kids yes all by the same man but i have fallin in love and i want to give this man a baby so baddly i cry at times it costs 10,000 to get it reversed like ill ever have that kind of money.. im so damn sad and mad at myself i just thought at that time no one would want me with 4 kids and love them as there own so i did it.. and this man loves my kids and treats them as his own but i want to give him a baby.. im sad i need cheering up....

2006-10-20 06:54:19 · 11 answers · asked by Diana K 2

she said she was drunk and high

2006-10-20 06:50:55 · 16 answers · asked by john 3

I am a female, and I have a male friend that I was at one time intimate with. We have remained friends through the years. He never initializes emails, but is happy to get mine.
I wonder if I ignore him for a while will he stop taking our friendship for granted?

2006-10-20 06:46:29 · 5 answers · asked by samanthashane1122 1

Read Chat logs from him and he's asked to meet these women for coffee...some of them did not know who he was...he'd chatted with them on dating sites. He has told them he goes to work and home and he's lonely?? I've been living with him since the 1st Sep 06 and he comes home from work has supper and goes online and chats anywhere up to 3 hrs having 3-4 different women online at a time. Should I trust him when he says they are "FRIENDS"!!! How do I confront him that this bothers me without him getting upset for checking the chat logs on the computer? I've found emails also that women are asking him to return their things and pay them back, this concerns me as well with trusting him. Should I pack it in before I get burnt and hurt?

2006-10-20 06:41:46 · 24 answers · asked by dreamifudare67 1

2006-10-20 06:35:27 · 13 answers · asked by Ahmet T 2

well my boyfriend said he dint call his ex but she insists that he keeps caliing and that she doesnt want to answer but i want to believe him but at the same time i believe her whom should i belive.

2006-10-20 06:31:52 · 15 answers · asked by esmie p 1

I dont know how to reply to post..but i agree to what someone said..you could be the most put together and they still will not be satisfied..I take good care of myself..get my hair , pedicure, manicure and I am very attractive..I just dont think that I need to wear a 5 inch heel to work..If I wear slacks then I wear it with my boots which is about 2 1/2 inc high or I wear it with jeans..I KNOW HOW TO DRESS..thats the thing..I have alot of bags and shoes and accessories ect... I dress in seven jeans which is $140 and I wear mac makeup..I have kenneth cole bags, apple bottoms chinese laundry the list goes on...I am a girly girl..who believes that a woman should carry herself a certain way..
but like I said I agree with the post...they will never be satisfied.

2006-10-20 06:30:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

between the actions of a man who has feelings for you (not love, but at least emotional connection) and a man who just wants to get it on with you?
How will he kiss you?
How will he look at you?
What kind of compliments will he give you?

2006-10-20 06:29:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok well my b-day was just the other day and my husband didnt foget about it but however he did not get me ANYTHING! not a card not a happy birthday NOTHING!!!

i got upset about it and he told me that it was nothing to get upset about. but however we have been together for years and he has only gotten me one card ever. he dosent get me things on v-day or anything.

he just dosent get it....how can i make him get it nd relize that it really does mean alot to me when he gets me things wheather they are small or just a simple " happy b-day"

2006-10-20 06:26:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

fed up with same old thing usually go to the pub or to see friends but want to do something just the two of us

2006-10-20 06:24:41 · 12 answers · asked by little miss 2

i really miss him but i dont kno if he still likes me. but i'm not sure if i'll be able 2 call him b/c of my mom

2006-10-20 06:24:25 · 13 answers · asked by wHiTe & NeRdY 1

My bf of 2 months has a text messaging problem. He tends to say things via text message that should be said while we are physically together so we can talk about....but I think he might be somwhat intimidated by me because I am blunt and upfront about everything (maybe I am too aggresive?)

I have a bad temper. It rarely comes out but I want to get a few things off my chest to my bf before it gets to a boiling point but it becomes hard to express myself in words while I am feeling anger.

2006-10-20 06:21:50 · 9 answers · asked by akiastatz 3

Well I fill this way cuz everytime I call its like hey i'll call you later. Or like he doesn't wanna hang out with me! N also hes also always with other chicks! What should I do? Could he be cheating?

2006-10-20 06:21:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-20 06:15:25 · 23 answers · asked by kaz 2

2006-10-20 06:14:53 · 9 answers · asked by dave 1

to make a long story short, I was having an affair with an ex, Iam married with 2 little ones. It all blew up in my face. the ex was threatning he was gonna tell my hubby, I broke down told my husban, he forgave me, but I don't know how I started talking to the ex again but the ex said he was never really gonna tell my hubby he was just threatning, now he says it can just be our lil seceret, so I did sleep with him last week, and I know I shouldn't of and now he is saying that maybe we should just stop, but it's so hard to just let go, do I love him or is it the sex, is it lust? What the hell? Can someone please help!!!

2006-10-20 06:10:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

last halloween i got raped. i snuck out with a group of ppl like an idiot, not thinking anything would happen and i was drinking but i never intended for anything to happen cuz the guy i was with said that he would watch out for me and stuff and there was a bunch of ppl so i felt alright. but then he took me in his car and took advantage of me... i tried fighting him off but he was too strong. he just held me down. i had bruises on my arms. i screamed but no one cared and no one would help me. people that are close to me tell me that it is my fault and it hurts so bad to hear that from them because i tried so hard to fight him off and it hurt me so bad i was a virgin and everything... do you think it is my fault?

2006-10-20 06:08:56 · 39 answers · asked by kitty 2

a guy i dated in high school, whom i was totally crazy about has recently come back in to my life, as a friend. He lives near where i work and stoped by tonight only cause he seen i was working. we havent dated in like 12 almost 13 years, and and up until a few months ago it had been almost 8 years since i have seen him! he stayed and talked to me for a long while, talked about how our relationship was so good back then, and the problems we both have now with them, My question is, every guy that i have ever dated, once the relationship ws over i tossed all the memetoes.....but the pictures of this man and i, and letters and stuff from him, i have helt on to for now almost 13 years, and not really meaning to, what is the deal, i even forgot i had the stuff until i recently moved. tonight talking to him, all the love i felt for him so long ago, came back and was slapping me in the face, and now i dont know what to do!! Please help! he is single and so am i.....

2006-10-20 06:07:39 · 8 answers · asked by merrittmom03 2

well i would love to move in with my boyfriend. b/c i love him n i would love to move out. His mom is planning on moving out of state soon n hes going to be looking for anothor place to stay. ITs going to be hard on him paying rent by himself n it would make it easier for us to split. so i needed some suggestions on how to put the idea into his head. hes a very independent guy...sooo what do you think.???? why do you think he hasnt ask me to move with him.?

PS we have been together for about a year and ONLY serious answers plz...

2006-10-20 06:05:13 · 7 answers · asked by pisces_dreamer06 2

i'm tryinh to lose weight my doctor told me to not eat after 7:00 incase it is a fruit or salad no fried foods and pasta bread etc starches i stared yesterday and i lost two pounds i ate 4 apples a salad workout on my treadmill and orange juice and breakfast.

2006-10-20 06:02:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last year my boyfriend cheated on me. We are in our 30's and live together and stayed together. Tonight I am going out with some girlfriends from work to Applebees. He does not want me sitting at the bar. This really bothers me because I feel he is a hippocrate. I can be trusted and am going out with my friends and not to pick anyone up. Does he have the right to request this of me?

2006-10-20 06:02:11 · 32 answers · asked by briandjoesmom 2

this is really something im having a lot of trouble thinking about.
bascially to cut a long story short, someone sent a letter to my house.addressed to my dad and not written in english.but in my other language which i do not know how to read or write.my dad didnt open it my mum did.it bascially said to my dad that im [his daughter] and my name was written, i am going around with some guy and it named most of the places we apprently went to.it says ive been to his house [was this guy standing on the streets all day waiting for me to into the house] plus my bf lives in a quiet area where no one is really around so how did this person see me go into his house plus doesnt my bf have family around...he lives with his parents so what if i went to their house hes got a sister my age., letter also said i was at the west end and along with few other places.the letter was almost detailed account of what i did.and the worse thing is how does this person happen to turn up at all these places and whats it got to do with this person.if sone one is so concerend about my whereabouts, wouldnt normal people just come up to and talk to me, or even tell my dad face to face, why write a anonymous letter im really shcoked.......im 21 for gods sake and i wasnt even doing anything wrong....how dare this person who i have no idea who it is, why are they doing this.dont otehr people do this.i know a million people go to a kmillion places everyday i just cant see why this happened to me.the letter bascially said that my dad should have more control of me and that i was going out with some bloke [and i shouldnt be...]letter said that my paretns are really good peole and how cold i bring a bad name to them,/it was writeen in a sympathetic tone towards my father but that would obviously make it look believable.
the letter said i didnt want to tell you to your face as it would embarses my dad
but writiing a letter? that wouldnt make it worse?how could someone be so cunning...i just dont get it..why someone would do it....wouldnt writing a letter cause more grief?
AND APPenrently everyone is talking about me....probly saying `oh look at so and sos daughter the slag` even though i am not.....
im sscared as someone might be follwing me or i have no idea whats going on....its making my life a nightmare.....
whats going on
i havent showed my dad yet mum said it may cuase more bad than good...what shall i do...
] the event they spoke of happened more than 6 months ago....so they all mentioned these things
2] it was written in another language...i dnt know anyone my age who can write in that language excpet someone my dads ages.....like an uncle
3] i just done understand why someone wud write a letter home.why not just tell my dad to his face...are they being cunning or doing something they think is for the best

2006-10-20 05:58:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my boyfriend are being stalked by my ex boyfriend. He has threatened my boyfriend with physical violence and will not leave me alone. He knows my boyfriend's name and has now made a yahoo account under it. I have told him to stop emailing and calling me. He has followed us around in public, and followed my boyfriend to his truck to get his licence plate number. I know this because he called me and informed me on a message. I am still in high school and he knows where I go to school at, and where I live. I have no clue how to get him to stop, and as I have said telling him to leave me alone did not work. Thank you for all information. I am sorry if this seems like the wrong category, but they don't have one that is much better.

2006-10-20 05:57:23 · 9 answers · asked by punk_rocker_chick09 1

Okay finish the sentence but be creative.. The most creative answer will get the 10 point prize, and it could be about anything.

2006-10-20 05:56:57 · 15 answers · asked by Batman has left the building 3

I know this is probably in the wrong section, but I can't find the 'right' one, so I will put it in one of my favorite sections. Anyway, I have been having a strange dream. The first time, I talked with my fiance and didn't think twice about it. This time, tho, it really upset me since it's the second in a week like it.

In the first one, I was really upset because my fiance had to go away for the night. I told him that I don't sleep well when he isn't there, which is true (we live together and he is home nightly). This time I had one where he got ready to leave and said that he would see me tomorrow. I was busy cooking and was shocked. He didn't tell me about it (in life, this is not like him). In this dream he ws dressed in some type of uniform, such as for the military. I got mad and was slamming doors. He said he thought he told me, but he never did. After awhile, he came back to me and said he was sorry, told me where he was going and why, and we made up.

2006-10-20 05:55:24 · 8 answers · asked by honey 6