well i would love to move in with my boyfriend. b/c i love him n i would love to move out. His mom is planning on moving out of state soon n hes going to be looking for anothor place to stay. ITs going to be hard on him paying rent by himself n it would make it easier for us to split. so i needed some suggestions on how to put the idea into his head. hes a very independent guy...sooo what do you think.???? why do you think he hasnt ask me to move with him.?
PS we have been together for about a year and ONLY serious answers plz...
2006-10-20 06:05:13 · 7 answers · asked by pisces_dreamer06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Appeal to his sense of entitlement. Tell him that you'll not only pay half of everything, but he'll get regular sex AND you'll most likely take over the cooking, cleaning, shopping and laundry. In fact, you can assure him that shacking up with you is like being married but without any responsibility and commitment!
Assure him that marriage is highly unlikely because 85% of those who live together before marriage breakup. If he still balks, tell him that overall, the risk of divorce after living together is 80% higher than the risk of divorce after not living together, so it's not like he'll be stuck with you forver!
It's possible he hasn't asked you to live with him because he has better morals, or thinks you're more than just an unpaid concubine, but I could be wrong.
2006-10-20 06:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask. Say something like, "What do you think about us getting a place together?" Be direct. You shouldn't beat around the bush with things like this; it will only drive you crazy. Besides, guy are not good at picking up hints.
Maybe he hasn't asked you for several reasons. 1) Does you guy think that a girl shouldn't live with him unless he is married to her. Maybe he wants to make a honest and decent woman out of you. What would his mother think about the two of you living together. 2) Maybe he wants to be a man and be able to support himself. It means a lot to a guy to be able to take care of himself without feeling like he is being rescued by his girl. That often makes a man feel like he is being mothered by his girl. 3) Perhaps he doesn't think that you would want to move in with him. Or, maybe he wants to maintain his own space. It can be difficult for two independent people to live together. or 4) Maybe the thought just simply never crossed his mind.
First, think long and hard about what you will be getting into. Think long and hard about what it will mean for you. Then, just bring it up to him and see what he thinks about it and respect whatever his feelings about it are.
2006-10-20 13:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready to move in with this guy, then be straight forward about it. Don't try to "put the idea into his head" Tell him you want to move-in together. First because you love him, and second, because it would be a good arrangement for both of you. If he doesn't want to, don't push the matter, but start thinking seriously about your relationship. Is he ready to be in a committed relationship like you are, or is he just 'killing time' Good luck.
2006-10-20 13:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by baby_girl_8881 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really serious about your relationship, you should tell him outright that you think moving in together would be a great idea and that the timing will soon be right.
If he does not respond in kind, he may not be ready. In which case, you know him and your relationship better. Either way you do best to be open with him.
Take care and Good Luck,
Troy
2006-10-20 13:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm actually having the same problem. I'm wondering when my boyfriend will ask me to move in. Especially since we spend almost every night together. I would wait until he asks you. Also, don't move in because it will be easier financially. Make sure he has intentions of staying with you and marrying you. My bf and I have talked about marriage, kids and living together. I'm just waiting for him to ask me. Wish me luck!
Good luck to you too! I'm sure he'll ask when he's ready as will my bf. Just be patient.
2006-10-20 13:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you start off helping with his bills, you will be expected to from then on. How can he get his own place and not be able to afford it?If you have to convince him to let you move in, then he doesn't need your help.He may like you but not want the commitment of you living in his house.Look before you leap..
2006-10-20 13:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say baby why dont we move in together, remember he is not psychic so he cant read your mind
2006-10-20 13:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋