Read Chat logs from him and he's asked to meet these women for coffee...some of them did not know who he was...he'd chatted with them on dating sites. He has told them he goes to work and home and he's lonely?? I've been living with him since the 1st Sep 06 and he comes home from work has supper and goes online and chats anywhere up to 3 hrs having 3-4 different women online at a time. Should I trust him when he says they are "FRIENDS"!!! How do I confront him that this bothers me without him getting upset for checking the chat logs on the computer? I've found emails also that women are asking him to return their things and pay them back, this concerns me as well with trusting him. Should I pack it in before I get burnt and hurt?
2006-10-20 06:41:46 · 24 answers · asked by dreamifudare67 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hate to be the one to say it honey, but he's using you - just as he is every woman he's talking to on-line. If these woman want things returned, or money owed - that right there tells you these women are more than friends. Meeting for coffee? Yeah, and he's dipping his donut!! He's got the best of both worlds right now - you are living there, providing him his needs, and he gets to fool around on the side too! I know it hurts to come to this realization, but yes, get out before you get hurt worse. He's a snake, he's slime - you can never trust someone like him. I've been there, I wasted a lot of time with scum like him. I'm 36 and happily married now - don't wait until you get old and bitter. LEAVE, forget him - it will hurt, but it WILL pass. Good luck. (I hope your already packing your things!)
2006-10-20 06:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've been dating for 2 months and moved in with him over a month ago? Had you only known him a couple of weeks at that point? What possessed you to make such a HUGE move with someone you hardly know?
No...you should not believe they are "just friends" he's chatting with...I can't believe you even felt the need to ask this question, as if you were unsure of what's going on...
Get out now...he's not (currently) a one-woman man...
2006-10-20 06:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's just down right insane. I don't think a situation like this is worth giving another chance becuase this is the type of thing that he would still continue doing. I say consider moving out and breaking up with him. He most deffinatly can't be trusted. Who knows what he does with these women while meeting up with them. Get out now. Good Luck.
2006-10-20 06:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by LilSo1287 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I just read a book about a guy who was always owing woman money. That book turned out by saying he was married to God knows how many woman and was put in jail for embezzlement and fraud. He also killed his own children for their insurance money. This was a true story as well. But anyways let your heart guide you. If you feel this guy is lying to you then leave. If you feel he is being truthful then stay. Although I wouldn't lone him any money and if you leave don't forget anything. Plus if he was happy with you you would think he would leave the Internet to the real lonely men out there.
2006-10-20 06:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think in your heart you already know what you have to do. This guy you gave your heart to sounds like the poster child for user/player/manipulators. I realize it may be difficult to gather the courage to pack up and get out, (or put him out), but in the long and short run you will never regret it. But you'll probably always regret rushing into living with a guy you didn't really know. Chalk it up as a tough lesson in learning from your mistakes and slow down in the future. Good luck!
2006-10-20 06:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by vickysisterbear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL! Of course they're friends- he hasn't been dating them long enough for them to be anything more-- yet.
Your so-called boyfriend is chatting with and dating other women-- and lying to you by calling them "friends". No- he's dating.
Move out- when you boyfriend is dating other women, it's so over.
And a man who truly loved you wouldn't be on the computer hunting for other women. Don't be stupid. And stop being such a little weakling, cowering in the corner so "afraid" to upset the little *******. Sheesh!
2006-10-20 06:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first off if he's your boyfriend and he is happy with you then he should not go looking for conversation in other people. you and only you should always always be enough. Talking to women by speaking hi is being friendly, going looking for them to say hi is cheating whether it be physically, mentally, emotionally, or cyberally. It's cheating and no you have no reasons to put your trust into him until he stops! Confront him let him know his conversations and "coffee" dates bother you and it's either you or coffee if he chooses you trust him if he chooses "coffee" leave him. it takes TWO to make a relationship. you and him not you and THEM!!!
Follow your heart but trust your mind!!!!
2006-10-20 06:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by brwnladi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely... he's addicted to online cheating. Stay away from them.. they're dangerous. I was with my ex for 7 years and cheated on my soo many times like that. He always told me that they were friends, and that he'll break off connections. Never happened, and always found more girls online. Its not good especially he has women asking him to return their things and pay them back. Thats almost sick. Please get out ASAP, its a red flag. The longer you stay, the more this @ss will hurt you. You deserve so much better!!
2006-10-20 06:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by Jenna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he is your boyfriend? He kinda sounds like a GIGOLO, Lady's man (or he tries to be anyway!) Personally I could not live with that. You an either stay there to have a place and accept the cheating or move out or stay and cheat yourself just share the house per say.
2006-10-20 06:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl i went through EXACTLY The same situation. Drop him now! My ex talked to girls online all the time, until i finally caught him. he woudl tell them he was single and whenever he got mad at me, he would actually meet them. This is not right. If he has you as a girlfriend, then he needs to be w/ just you. if he wants to be talking to all of this other girls and meeting them, then he needs to be ALONE. THis is a trust issue, and is not going to change. I thought it would after giving him many changes, but it doesn't honey. u will always wonder who's he talking to. there's tonsof guys outhere and you will survive this.
best of luck hon,
LATINA!
2006-10-20 06:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by A_Latina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋