ok well my b-day was just the other day and my husband didnt foget about it but however he did not get me ANYTHING! not a card not a happy birthday NOTHING!!!
i got upset about it and he told me that it was nothing to get upset about. but however we have been together for years and he has only gotten me one card ever. he dosent get me things on v-day or anything.
he just dosent get it....how can i make him get it nd relize that it really does mean alot to me when he gets me things wheather they are small or just a simple " happy b-day"
2006-10-20 06:26:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would just flat out tell him. I mean just explain it to him as you just explained it on here. Tell him it doesn't have to be romantic it doesn't have to cost anything, just tell me and that will mean the world.
2006-10-20 06:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get him anything he is an a** and even though its easy to say leave you have to look at the fact that it's a little to late to complain when you have put up with it for so long thats why he said don't get upset but the A** could have said happy birthday. So from me Happy Belated birthday.
2006-10-20 13:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Drea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH SWEETIE!!!! I feel so bad for you..i completely understand the way you feel! Gosh!
You need to talk to him asap!!!
Since I dont know YOU nor HIM nor YOUR TYPE of relationship I can just tell you what I would do in your position.
First of all, I wold stop doing all the little things I do to take care of him...for example, making his dinner..washing his clothes...ironing for him..bringing him a glass of water etc...I wolud tell him that those stuff I do for him,because of love) for you, those little romantic and loving details are the same..and mean the same for you..they are a demonstration of your love.
If he does not react..I would do someting bad.jeje I would send me flowers....like if I had a secret admirer or something..so he would see how happy those details make me..even if they are from a stranger...and then say soemthing like.."wow,these flowers really made my day! do you imagine how happy would I have been if these flowers were from the person i love the most...YOU???"
He needs to understand that love is a plant you have to pur water everyday......
YOU DESERVE IT! Any woman does.......especially on their birthday!!
If he wast your hubby...boy would I tell you to leave him girl!..but you chose him..for the rest of your life..he obviously won your heart doing something good..didnt he??
2006-10-20 13:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by mswildsexycool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two views on this: My hubby and I don't give on traditional gift days either. We feel every day is special and we can give anytime. But if it's very important to you, you might want to give your man a huge hint a couple of weeks before your big day! And tell him how much it means to you for him to do something special just for you. If that doesn't work, go out and get yourself something expensive and then show him what "he" bought for you...!!! You be good to yourself he he neglects you and he'll get the message. Godloveya, girl.
2006-10-20 13:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to sit him down and explain to him that these things are important to you. Ask him how he would feel if you did not acknowledge his birthday.
Be prepared for him to say that it would not matter. In that case, if he is responsive to your needs then he will comply. If he is not then you have to decide if you can be happy without that response.
Take care and Good Luck,
Troy
2006-10-20 13:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does materialistic things matter so much in a relation young lady?
understand a man, he doesnt believe in telling u always that he loves u, coz he really loves u, and thats aa man's love. men are liek that, u should be happy about ur man, rather than being so self centered,
if he does, good enough, if he doesnt, what big deal,, enjoy ur relation, dont find excuses to invite troubles,
take care,
2006-10-20 13:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by Friends Forever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your husband has always been like this. You need to talk w/him and tell him that even though this may not seem like a big deal to him, it is to you. Part of a healthy relationship is extending oneself beyond the comfort zone and what is one's preference. He needs to love you in the language that you understand. I hope that he will be considerate of your feelings. You might want to seek some counseling.
2006-10-20 14:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by hopscothchbunnies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gald you wrote this. I have the same problem. It's stupidity or laziness, not sure which. He needs to understand how important it is. It will surely get to him if you let him catch you crying. It's a dirty trick but it will be better for both of you in the end.
2006-10-20 13:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by justaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happily married men who adore their wives don't "forget" things like this. I think you might want to look at how you've been treating him all these years. Are you usually nagging, critical, disinterested, self-centered or dismissive?
You can "make" hm realize it means a lot to you by treating him how you want to be treated. Do you?
2006-10-20 13:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunnie if my man forgot my birthday it would be the end of the world!!its totaly disrespectful and he should feel horrible. I would be very distant to him and he will realize it. im sorry happy birthday anyways!
2006-10-20 13:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋