to make a long story short, I was having an affair with an ex, Iam married with 2 little ones. It all blew up in my face. the ex was threatning he was gonna tell my hubby, I broke down told my husban, he forgave me, but I don't know how I started talking to the ex again but the ex said he was never really gonna tell my hubby he was just threatning, now he says it can just be our lil seceret, so I did sleep with him last week, and I know I shouldn't of and now he is saying that maybe we should just stop, but it's so hard to just let go, do I love him or is it the sex, is it lust? What the hell? Can someone please help!!!
2006-10-20 06:10:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you are acting like a selfish ho! your husband forgave you so you take it like a free pass! what if he got mad and left you and took your kids??? are you kidding me?!?!? grow up! act like an adult! it is not your right to treat your family like this. your kids are more important than that! do you love your family, or are they just there to to give you an excuse and a reason to come home? do you love your kids, because if they are too little to see what is going on now, they will see it soon enough and do you want to teach them that it is okay to ruin a marriage for the fun of it? wouldn't it be nice if they could grow up in a loving stable enviroment?
2006-10-20 06:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not lust, nor love its plain exploitation! your ex is taking advantage of you. let me tell you something interesting about sleeping with an ex especially when one or the other is involved with someelse. There is always that ONE person that falls in love while the other person is enjoying the temporary ride! You claim that you are in love with him. well get ready because you could find yourself alone. the truth always comes out sooner or later your husband is going to find out. and what are you going to do run after your ex? trust me once he realizes that the fun in the game is gone (someone is caught) you are not going to look exciting anymore. so you will be seperated from your husband and dumped by your ex. how do you know that your ex wants to be with you anyways? does he bring you flowers, listen to your problems hug you when times are rough? better yet does he even get along with your children? if there is a no to any of these questions then i am afraid that you are the only person that is in love with this person because he could care less about you. you need to leave that man alone and concentrate on your family. that is why they call it husbands because they are suppose to be their to the end. try and make your marriage work. go see a counselor
2006-10-20 13:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question, both me and my ex on holding on to each other. It's hard to stop contacting each other, and I think it's lust with me and my ex, cuz the sex is the best I've ever had. Try to break away, cuz you know it's wrong, you're married. Just try to cut him out your life before lust turns into love, then you'll be stuck. Good Luck. P.S. If your forgiving husband was to do this to you, how would you feel?. x
2006-10-20 13:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the more important question here is how you feel about your husband. If you keep straying then something is wrong in your relationship with him. You need to figure out if he is really the man you still want to be with, or not, whether there is someone else or not. If not, you need to tell him and end it. If so, you need to sever all ties with the ex, and work on figuring out what is wrong at home and fix it. Either way, when you figure it out, you need to disguss it with your hubby. Good luck.
And no one here on Answers can tell you what you feel. Sorry, can't help you with that!
2006-10-20 13:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called making a MISTAKE, if you said you were sorry to your hubby, then go on.Anytime a man threatens you in anything, he's a sorry dog.If it's sex you want ask the hubby, he'll help you out. He sounds like he loves you, do you LOVE him? Think on that for a while.
2006-10-20 13:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like the exitment of the afair with the ex give you a rush because you might get caught. its hard to give up because it makes the sex more interesting. it comes down to lust. And trust me if you love your hubby it aint worth it.
2006-10-20 13:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by Imortal D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about all the puritan bla bla bla. You possibly are living something still rare in our society: polyamori. Is the situation when you love more than one person at yhe same time. It is still a tabu it is still very dificult to handle (because of our stupid education and false moral principles) but it is scintifically and psychologically acceptable as normal. Try to read and learn about it.
2006-10-20 13:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by Guru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just want him for the sex, it's exciting knowing that you did it once and never got caught, it's like a rush that your addicted to... you should learn quickly to let it go before you realy start hurting your and losing you family. Just think of what is more important in your life. Think of What and Who..and you should think of all the consenquences it may lead to. and from there you should know what to do. Everything depends on you.
2006-10-20 13:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by maria U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so stupid. You are going to ruin your marriage and you have kids to think about. Break off the affair and never see the jerk again. He made a threat, remember? He wants to ruin your marriage.
2006-10-20 13:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by draws_with_crayons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but you are just plain stupid. thats messed up...you have children. You need to grow up or get a divorce. You're husband forgave you and then you turned around and did it again...have you no shame woman!!!
2006-10-20 13:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by SuperChic3955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋