Family & Relationships - 19 March 2007

he is a loving n caring guy... the best among my exes... however im elder than him 2 years... but he act so much mature than me.. which is good to me..

However, I keep on thinking about marriage already... I know its too early for me n him... some more he is not financially stable as he is jus a salesman... but to me... he is really a good yet hard to find type of guy... i dun wanna lose him...

The problem is im scare... wat if im already 30 and he stil doesn't earn much for starting a family? He once told me tat he wishes to hav his own car & own house then only he can give me happiness in life... but he could not buy a car n house in juz few years time... at least he must hav more than $100k...

If tis really happen (he stil unable to settle down with me)... wat should I do? Im already 28 - 30 years old, should I wait?

2007-03-19 22:52:24 · 3 answers · asked by WaiYee 2 in Singles & Dating

ok their is this boy i fancy he goes to my youth club, and we never tlk to each other but my mate said she spoke to him and that he said he was going to ask me out, now when i got there his mate said to me oh you know its never meant to be between you two and he said in front of the boy i fancy and then the boy started smiling and he turned a bit red, then his mate said why dont you just talk to him, his mate keeps on trying to get me to talk to him and he is bothering me about it and it is only that particular boy. also this boy i fancy is shy around i think and he knows i like him but he didnt tell me to my face his mate told me that we are never meant, to be do you think i should move on or do you think the boy i fancy, fancies me back. or what does his mate want and why does his mate keep on botherig me. by the way im to shy to speak to the boy i fancy so we just avoid each other. i dunno why his mate keeps on bringing it up randomly. sometimes this boy say he doesnt fancy me.

2007-03-19 22:51:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am with my gf for about 3 months now and we always argue about the stupidest things, its usually about me asking her questions because Im scared that she doesn't or won't like me. She has said that I am pushing her away. What can I do o stop these thoughts from taking me over. I have a low self esteem btw...and I dont want to lose a good person bcuz of something I never learned to take care off.

2007-03-19 22:50:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am talking women that are like a size 16 plus.

2007-03-19 22:50:11 · 2 answers · asked by Black Mamba 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm with him for almost half a yr.Sometimes I think we have diff values.Like,I care about my work.Last time I didn't get the promotion I wanted and I got very depressed and a bit snappy but he was not considerate or being understanding.He even asked me what's so bad about not getting the promotion?Also,I went to Starbucks with a male coworker after work,he got pissed off...oh hell no half of the population is men geez!!!Initially he got pissed off when I went for an one-on-one dinner with a guy fd.I explained we have no common fds and we are purely fds.I compromised and promised I wont do that again.And later I couldnt even go grab a drink at starbucks with a guy coworker....things just seem to get worse and worse.I feel very stressed in everyth I do.Even I went for annual dinner for my company he got pissed off coz I didnt text him to say I miss him or sth.He always wants me to swear this and that.Now Im worried that Im gonna break those promises.Sometimes I just think we dont match.

2007-03-19 22:49:59 · 2 answers · asked by Lisa C 1 in Singles & Dating

should i give it time before i start being friends with my ex again or should i totally shut her out my life for good.As she hirt me. She said to me the last thing she wanted to lose is my friendship.

2007-03-19 22:49:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I love my special someone so much and I would like to be his wife. I'm just afraid someday he will found out that I dont have my Time deposit bank account ever since. It will really show my dishonesty. I know he will understand it but i cant tell him the truth just by now. I have my pride that I'm taking care of. He just taught I'm good in savings although I have savings but not as big as he think..and he likes me for that "save money for the future characteristic". I dont know where he got that idea that I have a Time Deposit bank account. But its my bad when he asked me do I really have that, and I said yes. Ever since, I didnt tell him any stories that is a lie, only that thing that he knew I have that Time Deposit acct. So, sometimes I think that I rather let go of him just for that pride.

2007-03-19 22:49:18 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I met one girl more than a week before infact she works in the hotel where i live in Israel. And even i am not that kind of guy who falls for girls easly. but i fall for her on her first looks. there is somethign in her eyes which makes me atracted towards her
Well let me come to the point here. Well i started speaking to her and she too started speakign with me. In between she told me she is dating some one(oh i forgot to tell she is israeli and i am indian) Well i ssaid ok but i thought let me try my luck well i tried to spend more time with her in hotel when i get time i got a feelign she became comfortabel with me in conversation.
But i use to ask her can i drop her home she always use to say no sweaty its ok.yesterday when i again askd her she siad no please i like to go home alone. i know when a person fall in love he do crazy thing and he or she really dotn want to loose a person .is she avoiding me because i am not jewish?

2007-03-19 22:49:05 · 13 answers · asked by vikas_dellcomputers 2 in Singles & Dating

but he want my child 'iqrma but i dontwant this iqrma b.d.-17/04/2005what i do?

2007-03-19 22:45:05 · 5 answers · asked by sumi s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was dating a guy for 4 years who I'd fallen in love with. I've now broken up with him and have met someone else who I really like. My new boyfriend says he's fallen in love for the first time and wants to marry me. I haven't fallen in love with him however and I'm wondering (after 6 months!) how many people out there would continue the relationship? Give it time maybe?

2007-03-19 22:43:27 · 12 answers · asked by sky 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-19 22:42:36 · 22 answers · asked by A True Gentleman 5 in Singles & Dating

despite that you are the breadwinner, you do the household chores and you are the one working on top of your bed?

2007-03-19 22:41:18 · 33 answers · asked by kristine-ave 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Please help me to realize why my bf just leaves and I never know what happened why he leave me without any arg
My problem I don’t know why my bf leave me and I never know what wrong I did to him. I call him many times but he never answers the phone. Last time we talk on the phone everything’s good a couple days I call him not answer either I’m so compose why he leave me? And he never told me what mistake I did?
Why if you love someone just leave you alone even you never make mistake you never cheat on him you always honest with him? Is not right to be good as a gf that’s why bf just leave you alone without any argument .what should I do? I send many message to him say please answer me and tell what I did to you ? And tell me you don’t like me no more? I just want know if he don’t like me no more he had to tell me so I didn’t disturb him anymore! What should I do please?

2007-03-19 22:40:51 · 7 answers · asked by carla 1 in Singles & Dating

I love my bf with all my heart, I want to marry him and give him children someday, he feels the same. When he looks at porn when I am gone, I just feel bad because it feels like he is looking elsewhere to satisfy his needs because I'm not doing it 100% I am trying so hard to understand and be ok with it. So I have some questions okay?

If I where to masturbate to porn alot like that it would be because I wasn't satisfied with my bf.

If you find nothing wrong physically with your gf, you two have never had a fight, and she is legitimately your best friend even before you two were together, what are your reasons for watching porn? Do you compare the girl's bodies with your gf's and wish she had a body like that? Do you imagine that YOU are having sex with that girl? Do you get more aroused by porn videos or your girlfriend? And lastly, how do you view porn and the girls in it.

2007-03-19 22:38:48 · 20 answers · asked by Secret Bubblegum Agent 1 in Singles & Dating

what is the best way to handle a child with mild autism in a way that i don't let my other children feel left out by giving much attention to my other child?

2007-03-19 22:37:48 · 5 answers · asked by lolita p 1 in Family

It's been nine months since we broke up but not formally but within those times i had stayed loving him in my heart. Now we are starting to chat throught text. I got the feeling that with my hidden feelings for him i would be trapped again, should i stop communicating with him? Should i let him know my fears, if i fall in love again i am sure i would only be hurt, what should i do?

2007-03-19 22:37:14 · 4 answers · asked by angel blue 1 in Singles & Dating

It's been nine months since we broke up but not formally but within those times i had stayed loving him in my heart. Now we are starting to chat throught text. I got the feeling that with my hidden feelings for him i would be trapped again, should i stop communicating with him? Should i let him know my fears, if i fall in love again i am sure i would only be hurt, what should i do?

2007-03-19 22:36:20 · 3 answers · asked by angel blue 1 in Singles & Dating

i've known him for 8 months now. we rarely go out or talk over de phone. but we text each other almost everyday. and when we go out, it'll be on occasions. i understand that he's busy workin and i'm busy studyin. and on occasions too he would say things like 'i miss u', 'i love u', and 'i want u to be my gf'. but i find it hard to trust him.. what should i do??

2007-03-19 22:35:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriends best friend, i will call him BL, has recently moved into our small apartment. His wife left him in early January for another man and took all of thier possessions, he wanted to start a new life a few hours away and we told him he could stay with us till he found a job. We both had no problem with this at first cause BL was cleaning dishes, taking out trash etc. So after 6 weeks of staying with us we realize he has not done a thing about finding a job, we spoke to him about it, he made a resume, but only sent it to two places and has not heard a call back. We are tired of him sleeping on the couch till 1pm and then getting on the internet the rest of the day. We feel he should be out knocking on doors trying to get a job. He says he has no way to get around(she took the car) but the bus runs about a block away(we live in the city). the only other option he has is to move in with his parents and start from scratch again. do you think he is mooching or did we cause thi

2007-03-19 22:35:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anne W 6 in Friends

I m very upset now.I fell for my bf in july,2006.He wanted to sleep with meand told me tat he will marry me.SO I sleept with him.After 3 months,i know tat he has a gf in USA.I m very agry with him.He gave many reasons tat he dont really love her.Now he went to Malaysia.I know tat he is now contact with her gf in USA.I told him tat dont do this again.BUt he didnt obey my words.Now we r split up.My heart is broken.I love him so I even gave him my virginity.BUt he dont value my love.I dont know..
I want to know how to get his love again and how to make his gf and he will be split up.
P.S His gf dont know tat he and I was living together!!!

2007-03-19 22:33:42 · 14 answers · asked by dim m 1 in Singles & Dating

ok.. so my boy and i have been together for nearly 2 years... we broke up for a bit then got back together...at that time he had been sleeping with another girl (apparently not cheating on me)
anyways, when we got back together the condition was that he would be different i.e sorting himself out..he enrolled in a course..but never has finished it..its only a cert 3 too
so now he has decided since he has been working heaps lately that he wants it to be about him now that i have to come to his house, be with his friends and do what he wants.. i feel like it is a totally conditional relationship now. he hardly has friends and he decided he doesn't want anything planed.. yet he still wants to marry me! i don't know what to think of this sudden change. he suddenly has gone all like..im sick of coming to you and doing what u want. but its only like that cause have more to do or that we are going ou with my friends. b/c he wants to too. i have stopped so much for him. i walk on eggshells.

2007-03-19 22:33:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

whenever i see a pretty girl at say the mall or at the park

if i go up to her and introduce myself and start talking to her, within about 10 minutes of that she says to me

"i know you are just going to try to get in my pants, you dont really want to be friends, i kno you guys and you tricks..."

no matter how i approach them they always say that to me.

why do girls stereotype guys as such assholes i would never abuse a girl and "use" her for sexual pleasure

im actually straitedge so sex is out of the question for me.

what are some ways to meet a girl in a mall or somewhere without them thinking im a pervert?

2007-03-19 22:33:08 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What are the stresses and burdens on families today that may make it hard for them to be “perfect”?

2007-03-19 22:32:52 · 6 answers · asked by Shan O 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I lived in the states for a while and then had a job transfer and my gf stayed in the usa to finish her MBA. We talk on the phone everyday and discuess everything. The problem started when she misses our intimate moments so i adviced her to user her hands and it worked out but now she is asking me to buy toys and this is scarying me? She is catholic and i was the first and only guy she ever slept with and we r planning to get married and she is very loyal so advice me on this matter on why is she chaning to watching movies and interested in toys?

2007-03-19 22:32:13 · 5 answers · asked by diliskies 1 in Singles & Dating

I know it's none of my business now, but after 5 weeks of separation, my soon to be ex-wife has moved another guy into our old apartment, and I just found out they are getting ready to get married and start a family right away.
It's not my place to be concerned, but hmmm, it seems to me that she may have been running around before I left her, or she is pulling something.
Honestly she was, shall we say, not nice to be with during our marriage, and when she went too far and got too mean, I left.
I am still concerned about her wellbeing, but at the same time, it is not my responsibility anymore.
Should I contact her now estranged therapist (estranged because the therapist told her what she didn't wanna hear)? Or should I just go live my life?

2007-03-19 22:31:19 · 15 answers · asked by fromorto12 2 in Marriage & Divorce

We haven't been speaking for about three years and my friend that work at CVS told me she saw him today and he asked her "have you seen soso around". What's your take on this?

2007-03-19 22:31:10 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay i'm a dude, 6'6'' 210 lbs, very large hands, and feet. Girls tend to jump the gun and think i am very big down below, but in fact I am very average. I feel they are very let down when they find out and it is causing problems. From your experience do all guys my size have really big ones with the exception of me?

2007-03-19 22:30:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

No I'm not looking for one.. I am just watching this show on HBO about this real life prostitute and people are just blowing her phone up and I was wondering how people get the number?

2007-03-19 22:30:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Brothers and Sisters havin sex!! OMG!! wat is this world coming to?? why is this happening? Is it beacuse they are attracted to each another?? Don these people know tat they are BROTHERS & SISTERS!!??

2007-03-19 22:26:17 · 7 answers · asked by sUnseT 3 in Friends

A year ago, i'd proposed a guy who's in my class.We were in 12th that time so he said he doen't wanna get distract&so he said'NO".I agree.Now i am still not able2forget him.I am madly in love with him.Its the very1st time.I never liked any guy b4&i dont think i would.I waited4him2get our exams over4one yr.Now we've cet exam in may.Dunno wat2do?Should i ask our common friend2tell him that i still have feelings4him,actually much stronger.Or should i stay quiet?Is it now his turn2make a move?I will even wait4the cet exams2get over if he says yes&then move with this relationship,but now i want2know atleast what he feels about me.atleast6guys pro me within this yr,but i said no bz i loved him(when i dint get2see him4 10mnths).I caught him starring at me once.As he's always with his friends around he never smiles at me(nor do i).But dont u think that by asking him out again i'll lose my respect(a a girl)?But still i dont care dear.Im ready2do anyting4him.So pls tell me wat do i do?I love him

2007-03-19 22:25:55 · 13 answers · asked by Z....... 2 in Singles & Dating