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ok.. so my boy and i have been together for nearly 2 years... we broke up for a bit then got back together...at that time he had been sleeping with another girl (apparently not cheating on me)
anyways, when we got back together the condition was that he would be different i.e sorting himself out..he enrolled in a course..but never has finished it..its only a cert 3 too
so now he has decided since he has been working heaps lately that he wants it to be about him now that i have to come to his house, be with his friends and do what he wants.. i feel like it is a totally conditional relationship now. he hardly has friends and he decided he doesn't want anything planed.. yet he still wants to marry me! i don't know what to think of this sudden change. he suddenly has gone all like..im sick of coming to you and doing what u want. but its only like that cause have more to do or that we are going ou with my friends. b/c he wants to too. i have stopped so much for him. i walk on eggshells.

2007-03-19 22:33:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

just some extra info - i know i have tried to make it work.. i believe it is 50/50 but everytime i tell him that i want to end it he is like fine do it...instead of wanting to talk... i find that i say it as an empty threat. he wants me to gain weight so im perfect for hiim..even though when we started going out again i had lost 10 kgs... and now ive put it all on and then some. i feel like he wants me to be unattractive. he hates me talking to guys (fair enough) seeing my male friend who i have known since i was 12 and asks who texts 24/7 tells me to tell my friends to leav me alone etc. he always accuses me of cheating and playing him. he always tries to buy my affection. but u know now he earnt so much money this week and he bought himself all this stuff but wouldn't buy me dinner when he used to all the time. then said he needs to save. do u think it sounds suss at all? i question him now because he does it to me all the time. and now i am the one feeling insecure because of him

2007-03-19 22:47:00 · update #1

my condition was anger management class.. he has an anger and jealousy problem

2007-03-19 22:48:32 · update #2

6 answers

So you got back together on your conditions, and now he has imposed some conditions and you are not happy. Seems a bit hypocritical to me. A relationship should be 50/50, but is it all about compromise. You can speak to him and come to an arrangement, leave him, or put up with the conditions.

2007-03-19 22:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcasma 5 · 0 0

get out, now, and fast!

this man seems very controlling to me, a relationship should always be 50/50 and yours doesnt seem so, you took him back, he swore he'd change, you have given him the oppertunity and yet he hasnt done, so at least you gave it a go, there are plenty of men that will treat you like the princess you deserve to be treated like, so leave him, good luck, you'll have a blast!!

2007-03-19 22:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by alaniss2 2 · 0 0

Girl, If he is really planning to marry you, tell him to give you a call on the day that he is marrying you. If you abide by that rule, it can boost his ego and feels like he's God's gift to women. It seems to me like a one way relationship. Can't you find another guy that can love you unconditionally?

2007-03-19 22:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by alain 2 · 0 0

It sounds like he is giving you a taste of your own medicine.
You two need to meet half-way or no-way. Otherwise you two are going to be fighting a lot.

2007-03-19 22:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mista R 4 · 0 0

He doesn't sound like much fun. I wouldn't want to be with someone like that. Please dont' marry him sounds like it would be awful.

2007-03-19 22:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by beatch38 4 · 0 0

he'll get even more psycho.

2007-03-19 22:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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