what would u do if your husband hits you...?

Question

despite that you are the breadwinner, you do the household chores and you are the one working on top of your bed?

Answer 1

Stop provoking him to anger and criticising and demeaning him. You see if he is not earning a salary, he is riddled with guilt and feelings of failure and you are not helpling him by being disrespectful. Learn to put a guard on your mouth and to avoid confronting him. He is in a terrible place and retaliates because of how you speak to him and regard him. You have to respect him, for him to soften towards you and love you and tell you that he loves you. It will happen but its up to you. He is a broken man. Hurt people hurt people. Its a common way of reacting. Lifes not always fair and mostly people just are not nice any more. Everyone thinks only of himself or herself and no one looks out for the other person any longer and thats sad. Turn the tables around. Apologise to him if you have been rude. You married this man for a reason. FInd that common ground again but now change the way you are approaching things and dont dangle your salaly in front of him. Operate with forgiveness, understanding and accountability. How would you have felt if you were the bread winner and you could not bring in a dime!!!! Men dont reason as women do. Women are emotional. CHOOSE to be accountable and sensible and wise. DOnt lend out your ears to negative friends and dont whatever you do run the man down either to other people. He feels pushed into a corner and stuck there. Rather help him out than push him harder into the corner. Think about how you react. Think about what you say and how you say it.

He hits because he is cornered and you are doing the cornering! What does a snake do that is cornered or a cat? Back off and give him space and treat him as you did when you met him. LOVE AND RESPECT HIM UNCONDITIONALLY. This is very very important if you want to save your marriage! Things can and will improve but itsup to you.

People smack people for a reason. Women smack men if they say things that they dont want to hear, but dont let a man smack a woman when she does that. Its all about love and respect my girl and its missing in your lives.

Did you know that God commands men to love their wives UNCONDITIONALLY and women not only to love but to respect their men. When that happens it makes the crazy cycle stop.

Get the book LOVE AND RESPECT by Dr Emerson Eggerichs. Not only does he speak to you about love and respect but he shows you what to say and what not to say to your partner. Its brilliant and has saved many marriages.

I hope things change for you an you also grow stronger and wiser. God bless you both!

Answer 2

Honey I would divorce the bagger at the brake of dawn . If somebody hits u they dont really love u even if they say they do ,they don't. I know it's easy for me to say that 'I would divorce the bagger at the brake of dawn " cause I'm not married , I'm not in that sutuation but for u it's hard bacause u probably love that man . To tell u the truth this man doesn't deserve your love .First of all he doesn't appraciate what u do for him ,u work for his *** ,u feed his *** ,u chlothe his *** as if that isnt enough u come back and do household chores whils't his doing what ? sitting on his *** . Lady u deserve better than this u need to find somebody whose going to be a real partner ,somebody whose gonna appriciate u and give u the love and respect u deserve not somebody whose gonna make u their punching bag. God didin't create u to be some loser's punching bag , u just have to open your eyes and see this man for what he trully is .

Answer 3

The BBC website has loads of helpful information on dealing with domestic abuse. Here is the link to the main domestic abuse web page:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/domestic_violence/

There is info about getting help for yourself and your partner as well as info about all your options.

The whole section is really helpful and even has a ‘practical issues section’ http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/domestic_violence/practicalhh_index.shtml
with information about everything from leaving home temporarily, leaving home permanently, staying in your home without your partner, what your financial situation is, emergency benefits available for those who leave because of domestic abuse and your legal rights etc. It also has info on how to plan leaving so that you and any children have the best possible start.

I hope you manage to sort things out. Good luck!

Answer 4

Domestic violence. You dont have to put up with this at all. Notify the authorities and send him a message that youre no ones punching bag and arent going to put up with it anymore. He probably knows very well what the consequences are if you filed charges. Your position in the marriage has nothing to do with this unless he is envious of you and is trying to change it, then he needs professional help to deal with his feelings. If this continues, then you have to decide whether youre better off with or without him. Good luck

Answer 5

Leaving an abusive husband is hard, I know, but really when you look at it, it's a no-brainer. File charges and kick him out! If he doesn't want to leave, get a restraining order and the police will drag him out. That worked well for my sister.

Answer 6

Call the police and have him arrested. Then see a divorce attorney.There is NEVER a reason for violence. He may say "Oh I love you and I'll never do it again". Without professional help to stop being violent he'll keep on doing it to you. Over and over. You can obviously do better than this violent and useless little boy pretending to be a man.Good luck to you. Tell him (from me) to have fun living in that cardboard box in the alley. KICK HIM OUT!!!!!

P.S. Have the locks changed

Answer 7

You Hit Him Back And You Tel Him Never To Hit A Woman. And Tell Him The Other Stuff He Has Done Wrong.

And Go File Charges

Answer 8

Get the hell out of there. He is not going to change and he is just a bully and a Muppet to put it mildly. It takes more guts to leave than it does to stay there and be his punch bag. Get out now. Oh and before you leave buy a base ball bat and give him a few hits with it see how smart and brave he is then.

Answer 9

Next time he hits you call the police. Plain and simple. There is no excuse for any one to hit anyone. The call your lawyer because from the sounds of your question this is not an isolated incident. Dont let any man abuse you. Dont ever hit him back because he may kill you.

Answer 10

My ex-boyfriend, out of the blue, hit me. I stood up, smiled, then cracked his nose in two. Needless to say, I threw him out that night.

I guarantee you he will try the "I'm sorry" method. He might even buy you flowers or some other guilty gift to pacify you if he thinks you are going to leave. Don't fall for it whatever you do.

If you're concerned about leaving because of children, you have to think of it this way: if he could suddenly hit you, who he's supposed to love and protect, who's to say he won't do the same to the children? Also, even if he never lays a hand on them, what example are you setting for them by showing that you are putting up with physical abuse. It's your job to protect them AND yourself. Good luck to you. :)