My boyfriends best friend, i will call him BL, has recently moved into our small apartment. His wife left him in early January for another man and took all of thier possessions, he wanted to start a new life a few hours away and we told him he could stay with us till he found a job. We both had no problem with this at first cause BL was cleaning dishes, taking out trash etc. So after 6 weeks of staying with us we realize he has not done a thing about finding a job, we spoke to him about it, he made a resume, but only sent it to two places and has not heard a call back. We are tired of him sleeping on the couch till 1pm and then getting on the internet the rest of the day. We feel he should be out knocking on doors trying to get a job. He says he has no way to get around(she took the car) but the bus runs about a block away(we live in the city). the only other option he has is to move in with his parents and start from scratch again. do you think he is mooching or did we cause thi
2007-03-19 22:35:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anne W 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell him time is up he has abused your hospitality and if he wants to maintain friendship, he needs to move out as you can no longer afford his sponging butt ,nor can you tolerate his parasitic attitude, or his excessive remorse at the loss of some slutty whore
2007-03-19 22:40:01 · answer #1 · answered by chazzn101 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It is no wonder his wife left him. The way you describe him.
Since it is your b/f friend. He should be the one to tell him that when you invited him to stay it was an offer till he found another place. It was not to be his permanent residence. The apartment is to small for the three of you, and my g/f feels uncomfortable. It is effecting your relationship.
If he does not get the message, which he most probably will make believe he doesn't understand that you want him to move out immediately. Then your b/f should tell him to go to his parents. If he still stays let your b/f pack his things, and put it by the door. If your b/f does not want to do this then, your b/f is taking advantage of you, UNCONSCIOUSLY THE ONLY DIFFERENCE IS, IS THAT YOUR B/F IS NOT DOING IT TO YOU CONSCIOUSLY, he feels like he is in-between. Who asked for advise you or your boyfriend. He really means well, but............it is still his friend, not yours.
I noticed others told you to give him 2 weeks to get a job, 2 weeks to bring home a pay check. IT WON'T WORK. HE WILL SEE THAT YOU ARE STILL GIVING HIM A CHANCE, AND KEEP TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOU . YOU ARE NOT THROWING HIM OUT ON THE STREET ALL YOU ARE TELLING HIM IS TO GO TO HIS PARENTS.
2007-03-19 22:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 05:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Establish a timeline, from this day fourth he has 2 weeks to get a job, doesnt matter what job, just a job, then you will allow him an additional two weeks to take his first check, and move out. If he doesnt have a job in two weeks, he goes back from whence he came!
2007-03-19 22:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tough love, baby. He's had his chance, he's had time, you've done your part to help him now it's time for him to move on. You have to use tough love to save him from himself. Give him 10-14 days to make other arrangements. In two weeks he has to go regardless and you cannot give in no matter what or you might as well get used to him forever.
2007-03-19 22:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to be with his parents because you didn;t take him to raise. Tell him your landlord has complained or just tell the truth that he is a man and needs to start acting like one. Sure his mom wouldn't let him sleepthe day. That is depression and by letting him do so it is most likely making it worse.
2007-03-19 22:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by gvemethreesteps 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
help him find a job so he could go on with his life and move out.. give him hints like shooving him the classified ads section of the newspaper.
2007-03-19 22:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by lolita p 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems to me that you are the only one complaining about this troika-maybe, just maybe, your boyfriend and BL have something more than friendship?
2007-03-19 23:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by Rene B 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
pretend your parents rang and asked you if you want to go on a holiday then he have to leave
2007-03-19 22:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Suductive-bayb♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋