Gradually find that he's not "good enough". What do you think?

Question

I'm with him for almost half a yr.Sometimes I think we have diff values.Like,I care about my work.Last time I didn't get the promotion I wanted and I got very depressed and a bit snappy but he was not considerate or being understanding.He even asked me what's so bad about not getting the promotion?Also,I went to Starbucks with a male coworker after work,he got pissed off...oh hell no half of the population is men geez!!!Initially he got pissed off when I went for an one-on-one dinner with a guy fd.I explained we have no common fds and we are purely fds.I compromised and promised I wont do that again.And later I couldnt even go grab a drink at starbucks with a guy coworker....things just seem to get worse and worse.I feel very stressed in everyth I do.Even I went for annual dinner for my company he got pissed off coz I didnt text him to say I miss him or sth.He always wants me to swear this and that.Now Im worried that Im gonna break those promises.Sometimes I just think we dont match.

And he's super paranoid.He got pissed off and paranoid when I turned my cell to vibration and didnt hear it while I walked my dog...I thought of breaking up and actually said it,he went crazy and almost did sth to harm/hurt me!When he was with his ex, he was totally anti-social(liking didnt even have his own cell no).I can anticipate that he's gonna be like that too which I find it quite disturbing.When I went out with my gal fds he was mad coz he said I didnt try to cut the time short and spend more time talking with him on da phone.I went to my best fd's BD party he got worried coz he was worried that I was gonna meet some new guys at the party...What can I do

Answer 1

This guy has MAJOR TRUST ISSUES and is also a CONTROLLER. He doesn't trust you when you reassure him that grabbing a cup of coffee with a coworker is simply that and nothing more. He needs to know where you are, what you are doing, and who you are with every minute of the day - very controlling. You need to let all of your friends and family know so that they can support you and look out for you and you need to break up with him. He should probably go for counseling and learn how to deal with his issues.

If you don't leave him now, things will only get worse. When you break up with him, do it in a public place and not at home alone - you already said he freaked out before and you were afraid he might harm you physically.

Answer 2

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