Family & Relationships - 15 February 2007

My ex and i seperated in 2004. we have 2 kids together almost 6 and almost 3. He didn't want to see them at all when he had friends a life and all that. He hasn't seen them in over a yr. I have sole custody of them and i know my oldest misses him so much and i want my son to know his father but with the track record of only comin around once every 6-8 weeks did more damage to my son than good. I am so sick of him treating my kid like c rap. He doesn;t even know the little one that is almost 3. He recently moved away to med. hat and then told me that he had moved there "to make a life for himself". Now that he has lost his GF and everything down there in medicine hat he thinks its ok to want to walk back in their life but the question "how long til the next visit will he be back?" pops into my head. His track record makes it very hard to say ok come and take your kids....does anyone have any advice on this?

2007-02-15 09:57:19 · 5 answers · asked by spacelee666 3 in Family

my boyfriend is telling me that he wants to marry our co-worker so she can get legal residence here in the U.S. first i thought he was kidding but now he is 4 real. he says that you make more money if your married and ill benefit him too. he says hes doing it just for benefit. shes my friend and now i dont know if i should start thinking bad. should I? i told him i wont accept it. what do I do? is he playing or just acting dumb? HELP!

2007-02-15 09:57:16 · 15 answers · asked by krzy_me 2 in Singles & Dating

I am in a new friendship with a guy who insists on us being a couple, I'm considering it, (it's been almost 2 months since we've met and see each other every other day).For Valentine's, I decided to be nice and bought him a really elegant ID bracelet. I had it monogrammed with the company name that he is about to start for motivation...when he looks at his wrist, he will feel the need to continue his path, it's subliminal...I gave it to him 2 days early, just to give him time to get a present for me, if he hadn't already,the next day he came and brought me a bunch of bananas and told me that was my present. I accepted gracioulsy, not knowing what else to do.Valentine nite, a few of our coupled friends wanted to go see a play and he declined the offer...he had some work to do..so I was by myself at the play..he wants to come over tonite to talk, but I have lost interest...am I being too hasty???Mind u, I don't even care about Valentine's Day, but BANANAS...my favorite fruit is mango!

2007-02-15 09:57:14 · 5 answers · asked by Nina 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-15 09:57:05 · 15 answers · asked by nora 1 in Weddings

i talked to men online that i didnt know and im not to proud of it. my parents found out and flipped, now im grounded from IMing and myspace. this was about 8 to 9 months ago.how do i ask my mom if i can go on again without her getting mad at me? not like im going to do it again. i just dont want ot loose my mom and mines close relationship.

2007-02-15 09:56:23 · 3 answers · asked by Nicole Marie 1 in Family

2007-02-15 09:56:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-02-15 09:55:51 · 16 answers · asked by Nicole 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-15 09:55:15 · 9 answers · asked by Cary 1 in Friends

The thought of meeting someone and going out on a date makes me feel a little uneasy. I guess its due to trust issues. I feel like I'm wasting my time when I date because I'll be thinking to myself...ok when will I see his true colors. My friend's fiance is trying to hook me up with his co-worker. I talked to him today on the phone but I'm thinking...how many other women are you talking to too. Am I going to be added to you harem of women? He seemed to be nice but I was like -- thats probably short lived. I guess it really doesnt matter at this point because we haven't went out on a date yet but even before I officially dated someone., I get a call from a girlfriend...so I'm at the point now that I'm like whatever. Although I'm 30 with no kids, never married, I do want to be married and have a family someday but I don't want to go through the unecessary drama of dating --- kissing frogs thinking that they will turn into princess but they don't.

2007-02-15 09:55:12 · 5 answers · asked by gloried 3 in Singles & Dating

I would like to know if he should be the ring bearer or stand up with me during the ceremony. He is my son, not my fiance's. His mother is out of the picture and he lives with his grandparents. I want him to feel special and like he's part of the family. Thanks!

2007-02-15 09:55:00 · 19 answers · asked by Kenny 1 in Weddings

There are times when I think it would be nice to have a companion. But then again I don't want to deal with all of the emotional baggage that comes with and in all relationships. Sometimes I think it is just best to stay by myself and live my life to the fullest without a mate? What do you think?

2007-02-15 09:54:57 · 5 answers · asked by kawmort 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and i weren't dating that long but a few days ago things just started getting bad. we argued all the time and like i finally told him that it didnt seem like it was mutual and he told me that he had a lot to think about and had a lot on his mind. so i asked him where that left us and he said he was sorry but that was one of the things he needed to think about. Then i come to find out that on Valentines day while im sitting at home missing him and thinking about him, he is hanging out with his ex girlfriend who he is like obsessed with but she has a boyfriend. His friends tell me he still likes me so how do i get him back to me?

2007-02-15 09:54:08 · 3 answers · asked by LilChicklet 1 in Singles & Dating

Have any of you been in a marriage with someone who already made you feel bad about yourself, but then when it came to sex, it felt like that's all it was : sex? You never felt like they were making love to you, that it had nothing to do with their love for you?
I'm just curious, I just left my emotionally abusive husband, and I only slept with him once in the past three months because of how he treated me. But it always seemed that sex was nothing special for me, it was just about him getting what he wanted from me? Any personal experience with this?

2007-02-15 09:53:42 · 10 answers · asked by .*AnNa*. 3 in Marriage & Divorce

This new exchange student came in September, as the new second semester began in high school he (17 year old male) and I had the 2 of the same classes.... For the first time we actually got to talking!!! :)
The next day of the semester i offered for him to sit with myself and 2 other people in a group and he did! we talked and laughed! and my friend asked him on the internet messenger what he thought of me and he said that i was "sweet". Since this day 3 weeks passed and he always waits for me after class, he stares at me during class..... he also sits beside me every chance he gets and tries to talk to me when we are together! My other male friend is always with me... and sometimes i feel that he is trying to compete.... but I am not sure if he is competing for my friendship??? or something more.....?

2007-02-15 09:53:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anna G 1 in Singles & Dating

I had known a friend for 5 years.One day she invited me to the christening of her baby.After the christening her mother turned to me and told me that I was the godmother.I was shocked that she didn't ask me.I did not even know what a godmother was.I didn´t say anything at all as I felt it would hurt her feelings if I declined.I visited the baby once a year and gave him presents,but she wanted me to come more.She compared me to the godfather,saying that he visited her son a lot.She started to become clingy and would make me feel guilty if I didn´t come as often as she wanted me to.Her husband would say bad things about me and she would agree with him.It was like now that I was the godmother I was obligated to visit her.I started to pull away as I felt she had an ulterior motive for making me the godmother.I felt
trapped and stressed.I haven´t spoken to them in three years and
I feel made a mistake by accepting to be the godmother.I feel really guilty but they made me feel bad

2007-02-15 09:53:39 · 11 answers · asked by marmac 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband and I usually get along fairly well until recently when his ex-wife now allows my husband to spend as much time as he wants with her son (the kid was my husband's STEP son) Now every week night and weekend he is with the kid She will call up last minute at night and ask him to watch the kid until she comes home (somewhere usually close to midnight). When it's not the kid, he's with his family, which I think is good, but his umbilical cord is attached so tightly that I can't convince him to move more centrally in the county we live in to be closer to both of our jobs! Then to top it off, Valentine's Day was a day I had been looking forward to and turned out to be one of the worst days ever. He got me flowers and all the mushy stuff. We get home and are there for 30 mins when there's a knock on the door and the landlord wants to come in to fix something that should been done weeks ago.....he lets them in and they stay for 1hr! Then he sits on the pc for 2hrs! Nite over.

2007-02-15 09:53:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My step-son moved in with us in July 2006 and has lived with us fulltime since then. His mother and my husband were never married and never had any formal custody papers written up. Can we also claim him as a dependent for 2006? What is she claims him too?

2007-02-15 09:53:01 · 11 answers · asked by MeriGator 1 in Marriage & Divorce

in hopes of 'stealing' him away from his wife and family? Or do you get involved for just the sex and know he'll never leave his wife for you? And if you get involved for just sex, why do you do that? What has his wife and family ever done to you to deserve that? I'm just curious how the "other woman" thinks. No, I am not the other woman. I am the wife and and my husband had another woman. She said she never wanted anything 'complicated' out of it. Friends with benefits, was what she said. I have a hard time buying that a woman sleeps with a man at his beckon call cuz she dont want nothing from him.

2007-02-15 09:52:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have a friend with big and I have heard my guy friends talking about them quite often. I was wondering are the only things guys notice or do they notice too? I have a fairly flat chest, but a really nice atheletic bubble butt.

2007-02-15 09:52:11 · 6 answers · asked by Kayte 3 in Singles & Dating

okay theres this guy and he and i always get really close and cuddly on the couch at parties and he walks really slow around me and he smiles when we talk and he notices small stuff about me...does he like me or not? because it's realllly annoyin

2007-02-15 09:52:10 · 1 answers · asked by Whatsername 2 in Singles & Dating

she says she likes me but then she "likes someone else" but wants to be with me. she wants me to tell her what i feel 4 her but i dont want to over the fact that i don't want to be lead to the wrong path but why does she want to know what i feel for her she is "making up her mind" on who she wants to be with but why is she wanting for me to tell her what i feel?

2007-02-15 09:51:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

For years I have searched for new methods of humiliation ranging from minor chat online to public shows for up to 8 females at one show. Most of the humiliation is done through various methods of corporal punishment. Yes, the pain hurts and in often unbearable but the sight of those females enjoying themselves allows me to overcome the extreme pain and of course come back for more later. What is your thoughts on why someone would allow this to be done to them? And were should the line be drawn?

2007-02-15 09:51:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This can relate to anything in your life....

I am so good at anything i turn my hand to...and you?....let me hear ya.

2007-02-15 09:51:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been married for 5 years now and I hardly go anywhere, but my husband goes out when he wants and thats often, I may go out once every 3 months, but when I do he gets mad. I really don't have a social life, and not that many friends, but for my birthday which is Feb. 3 her took me to dinner with one of my friends and her husband, it turned out very good, but after that day all hell broke loose, and he really hasn't spoke to me, I don't even know what I did. But sunday is aunt came over and asked me to go with her to get her nails done, so I got mine done to, but when we came back he said dam it took you a long time, dam are you a dike, because I think my aunt is. she doesn't seem that way to me.

2007-02-15 09:51:26 · 8 answers · asked by Nice isn't it 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have no friends at school, i constantly hang round with my twin bro. The guys dnt like cus, bcuz we apperently act hard. The girls dnt like us bcus wer no longer funny and got better grades. What do we do. Do u think i shud start fresh in uni, how do i mke ppl like me im not in 2 football either. Wat do i do im so annoyed and depressed i wish ppl wud like me. I dnt no if im 2 arrogant or ppl get jelous.i need advice plzz help!

2007-02-15 09:51:26 · 15 answers · asked by gareth khaajgie 1 in Friends

there is a girl i like in school and i try to talk to her, but i always freeze. Whats a good pick up line or what should i say to her, to ask her out?

2007-02-15 09:50:41 · 16 answers · asked by PISTONS BALLN 2 in Singles & Dating

me and my fiancee' have been together for 4 1/2 years...we haven't had sex but maybe 4 times in the last 5 months... I don't know what to do... yesterday(v-day) he woke me up with a dozen roses chocolate and a card....so i thought good things were to come... i had previously bought a really cute lingerie outfit to wear for him and come v-day night... nothing... i'm not going to cheat... i would never mess up what we have by doing that but i feel like i'm on the verge of leaving... i love him very much but he has been treating me like a child and not bieng intimate with me.... he's with me ALWAYS so i know he isn't cheating i just don't know what to do... and to top it all off we bought wedding rings and are waiting for them to come in....but does he really want that? and should i marry him if it is going to stay this way for the rest of our lives?

2007-02-15 09:49:53 · 2 answers · asked by Sam Fisher 3 in Marriage & Divorce

im trying to get pregnant. my boyfriend uses drugs (pills, cociaine and weed). will this effect his sperm and therefore cause our baby to have problems? or will the baby only be effected if i myself use drugs when pregnant? thanks

2007-02-15 09:49:50 · 6 answers · asked by meoi 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

she always talks to me we play she gives me parts of her lunch she likes it when i spike my hair And she always askes for my help
I really like her but do you think she likes me

2007-02-15 09:49:31 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well my frined is ignoring my gutz! she doesnt want to talk to me anymore and she doesnt want to hangout with me anymore. and wenever i try to talk things out like why are you mad at me she'll say im not madd im tired in an annoyed voice. i olny ask her like once every day and its not wrking i hav nevver said anything bad about her and she hangsout with this ashley girl thts dating her brother and my friend is ditching me for her! im so mad and worried at the same time wat should i do?? help plz

2007-02-15 09:49:29 · 4 answers · asked by Answers_everything lol 2 in Friends