I've been married for 5 years now and I hardly go anywhere, but my husband goes out when he wants and thats often, I may go out once every 3 months, but when I do he gets mad. I really don't have a social life, and not that many friends, but for my birthday which is Feb. 3 her took me to dinner with one of my friends and her husband, it turned out very good, but after that day all hell broke loose, and he really hasn't spoke to me, I don't even know what I did. But sunday is aunt came over and asked me to go with her to get her nails done, so I got mine done to, but when we came back he said dam it took you a long time, dam are you a dike, because I think my aunt is. she doesn't seem that way to me.
2007-02-15 09:51:26 · 8 answers · asked by Nice isn't it 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well my dear believe me many are the man that give themselves a right & take it from their wives, just try to sit with him & tell him that just as he needs some time for himself to see his friends & stuff you do need this too & that this will only strengthen your relationship. Good luck my dear & wish you all the best...
2007-02-15 09:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by kitycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is having a double standard and he should have that pointed out to him. He is being silly to think that he should be able to hang with the boys and not have you do the same. But then I for one never could see why people get married to then turn and try to act like they did when they were single. If you get married, you have made a choice and should spend as much time with your mate as possible, at least in my view.
Now, why do men often act this way. Here are a few of the reasons that I have come up with.
He might be doing wrong or cheating and he is projecting that upon you.
How many times have you found that you ended up in situations that you never would have imagined being in and certainly had no want or thought of getting into? Things do happen and he is simply realizing that.
He is a man, so he knows how guys are. He knows that simply because you dont intend to do anything, there is a chance that a guy might have other thoughts. Under the right circumstances, things do happen. I mean, you had to meet your husband the first time someplace and it is likely that when you left home that day, you didnt think you would meet that man you would marry, right? Plus you gals will often say how you got talked into things or got pressured. We do listen. So dont get mad when we take what you say and think it might mean something or be pertinent.
We as men do realize just how a group of women can be. Dear, frankly, you do have to admit that a group of women can lead a happily married women to start to find things about her man that she doesnt like or that she suddenly starts to hate about him. You have seen how a group of women will start to suddenly pick their men apart, and some women have started to creep toward affairs that way.
It could have to do with the freinds you have. An example: Again, you have to admit that their is some truth that a divorced or scorned women can help lead some other women toward divorce.
Now, I am sure that all your sisters will claim that he is controlling or mean or immature or anything else. But then maybe it is also just that he is realistic about how the world works and knows how things do happen at times. You women hate this, but to a point, we do claim a bit of ownership of you as a wife. And honestly, if we didnt you would say we dont care or dont love you or you would think we arent interested in you. You cant do what comes naturally to you all so often, that is having that double standard and expecting to it to play well, any more then you wish to allow us to do so.
2007-02-15 18:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Am.
If I were you, I'd ask him why is it a problem since he goes out so much. 'Cause it's not like you're going out to see guys. While things may not go well, at least he'll be thinking about it. Freedom and love go together. And trust makes it all work.
2007-02-15 18:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by pertinential 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he's jealous and controling, you'd better be careful and do something before it gets out of hand and you're not allowed to even answer the phone!
2007-02-15 17:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Twinkle♥Toes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an Idiot, in time this will be the end of your marriage, better tell him to grow up now,or his insecurities will get worse
2007-02-15 17:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by shane s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a jerk. He may be married to you but he does NOT own you, you are free to do as you darn well please, (just as he does). It's time you ask yourself are you better off with him or without him.......
2007-02-15 17:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems jealous & probably wants to control you.
2007-02-15 17:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by Death Girl Am 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is jealous and he does not trust you
2007-02-15 18:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋