in hopes of 'stealing' him away from his wife and family? Or do you get involved for just the sex and know he'll never leave his wife for you? And if you get involved for just sex, why do you do that? What has his wife and family ever done to you to deserve that? I'm just curious how the "other woman" thinks. No, I am not the other woman. I am the wife and and my husband had another woman. She said she never wanted anything 'complicated' out of it. Friends with benefits, was what she said. I have a hard time buying that a woman sleeps with a man at his beckon call cuz she dont want nothing from him.
2007-02-15 09:52:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry to say but she (the other woman) told you the truth. Okay years ago in my wild years I was the other woman. I will tell you how it was for me.
Short answer:
Why: Sex.
Future: I knew there wasn't one w/ the man and I was glad of it.
Wife/Children: Distant concepts that didn't really exist. .
Long answer:
I was not ready for a long term relationship when I was young (18-20) and a married man was the answer. It was exciting, new, and they knew what they were doing in the sack. We didn't want to talk and share feelings, we just wanted sex.
I didn't even begin to delude myself that he would leave his wife for me, and I never even hinted that that would be ANYTHING I would ever ask for. In fact one man offered, and I asked if he was serious. He said he was and so I dumped him.
Concerning the wives. All the married men I was with were far away from their wives. Out of sight, out of mind. (sound familiar) I would like to say that of all the married men I was with before we went passed to point of no forgiveness I reminded them that they were married. (that way they could not say it just happened) Only ONE man ever backed down. (I still talk fondly of him, he was a good man.) This small action of mine did NOT make it right, but I felt at the time it was important for some reason.
Conclusion:
So that is how it was for me. That was when I was young, years before finding God, and truly growing up. So you can hate my past, but it isn't who I am now. People change, people grow. Even the lowly home wrecker can become a better person.
2007-02-15 10:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know why women get involved with a married man on purpose (sometimes men lie about their marital status).
I have heard that some women do it because they do NOT expect the man to leave his wife/kids and therefore they just get benefits and his best treatment, without any responsibilty.
Personally I'm with you, you and the kids don't deserve this. And your husband needs to either straighten up or get kicked to the curb.
For me, married men are off-limits.
2007-02-15 10:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by Single4Good 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OUCH.... It has happened to many different women and men. Where they meet the other person they seem nice. Conversation starts to happen, then family is discussed, favorite subjects, then WHAM before you know it sex is in the topic.
Some people aren't very honest by mentioning they are married, but then you have the one's that are honest. Sometimes people do it to experience something to build there self esteem,or experience something that is lacking in the relationship, to later find out, by hiding lies, hurting your spouse, and family, that the affair wasn't the answer.
I feel that there are two people to tango...and if there both willing to then sex will happen. Then they'll both have to pay the consequences. REMEMBER TWO TO TANGO...
2007-02-15 10:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by Lo Lo G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do, because they have no self discipline, pride, or respect. Some do it, because they like the thrill of knowing they can make a married man forget his vows. Some do it because they know there will be no strings attached. Some just are a few fries short of a full Happy Meal. But, it does happen. You need to let him and her both know this won't continue, and him still be with you.
2007-02-15 09:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each and each and every of the three activities are responsible. As a spouse, you are able to not continually be too impressive on your hubby. no longer all husbands will savour what the spouse has done for them. adult men loves excitement. at the same time as a guy leaves the kinfolk, there must be a reason except excitement. Mistress take position to comes through on the right time. I pity your pal. Emotionally she is susceptible and needed someone to convenience her. that is her decision. She has to face the outcomes herself. basically make certain you stand through her then. No lecture needed. that is what pal ought to do isn't it?
2016-12-04 05:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a woman sleeps with a married man because she can get good sex (what the wife usually isn't giving him) and the gifts and send him home to you without the trouble
2007-02-15 09:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do. He's my husband.
He's sleeping with a married woman.
2016-12-01 17:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I slept with a few married man and it was usually thoughts how I was better than their wives because they wanted me not them.I wanted something more only once,not at the beginning,later I fell in love with him and I had broken heart,as I deserved.It was pretty stupid but I was very young and I wanted different experiences.
2007-02-15 10:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by HPA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably has low self esteem and it too stupid to realize that he is using her for sex. In the end his wife and kids are the ones that really count.
2007-02-15 10:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by Simone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sleeping with a married man and I am just doing it for the sex. I am happily married myself so it can happen!
2007-02-15 09:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋