I would like to know if he should be the ring bearer or stand up with me during the ceremony. He is my son, not my fiance's. His mother is out of the picture and he lives with his grandparents. I want him to feel special and like he's part of the family. Thanks!
2007-02-15 09:55:00 · 19 answers · asked by Kenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Anything that you, your finace and son decide would be great. He could be the ring bearer, one of the groomsmen, or even the best man if you want him to.
2007-02-15 10:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be your best man! That would make him feel special. I totally think you should have him stand up with you instead of being a ring bearer. You don't have to have a ring bearer. Just give the ring to him right before the wedding so he doesn't lose it and have him give it to you in the ceremony just like your best man would. That would be really sweet.
I know when I get married, 7 year old son is going to walk me down the aisle. They feel so much more important when they are given a big role like that. It will be something he remembers forever. You are a good dad to be thinking of him like this.
2007-02-16 03:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are getting married in October, his oldest son will be the best man age 16, his other son will be a groomsman age 15, his daughter is the flower girl age 7, my sons ages 7 and 10 will also be groomsmen (or grooms boys however you want to look at it). I think that the children are a very important part of the wedding and they should play a special roll. At age 9 I think your son is a little too old to be a ring-bearer, but defiantly include him in the ceremony!
2007-02-15 10:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, not sure how much this will help; but here goes. I went to a wedding one time for a family I nannied for. The wife had 4 kids (2 from previous, and 2 from the man she was with) and was re-marrying her husband (the 2nd husband). Her 2 older sons were involved like this: the oldest(12 at the time) walked her down the isle (which made me cry), and the 2nd oldest (10 at the time) was the best man. The 2 boys she had with the man she was marrying (ages 5 & 2) were the groomsman and ring bearer. May not be the most idle for your situation, but I think I'm going to have my son (who is currently 11) walk me down the isle on the day of my wedding.
2007-02-15 10:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jaysgirly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An 8 year old boy does not want to be a ring bearer - that's for babies. And a "best man" has to be legal age as he signs as a witness but if you want to have your son love you to pieces and think you're the best dad EVER - ask him to be one of the groomsmen. When I was 13 I was a "junior bridesmaid" alongside a 14 year old male relative who was a young groomsman and boy did we ever feel special! I am a little sad to read you want him "to feel like part of the family" though. He IS your family and it is your fiancee who is becoming a part of that unit. Don't EVER forget that and if your sweetie even HINTS at your son not being part of the ceremony, run like hell in the opposite direction.
2007-02-15 10:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a little old for ringbearer, why don't you make him your best man. Let him stand up with you under the circumstances it is not only appropriate it will create a special bond with you and your son and make him feel very special because you thought he was so very special. It will be something remembered and talked about in your family forever. How could he not feel a part of it when you trust him with such a role. He is old enough to stand and to hold the ring just let him make the toast with ginger ale instead of champagne. Congratulations and best of luck.
2007-02-15 10:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he should be your best man or at least your best little man! Look at the following resources. They have a lot of information about including kids in the ceremony. Remember this is his marriage to this woman too. Some people even exchange rings/necklaces with the child and have them take a "vow" as well. It will help his know that he is stillyour number one and a big part of the new family.
http://www.geocities.com/weddingwordsmith/children.html
http://weddings.about.com/od/yourweddingceremony/a/kidswedceremony.htm
http://www.a-weddingday.com/planning/kids.html
2007-02-19 01:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sara K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever role you feel is best. My cousin has a ten year old son. Her fiance named him the best man. (He has even planned the bachelor party, which will be at Chuck E Cheese.) Ring Bearer is a traditional role for a child that age, but incorporate him however you feel is most appropriate.
2007-02-15 10:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by rosekm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen some families that do a ring exchange with the children as well as between the bride and groom. It shows a uniting of the whole fmaily not just the bride and groom and also makes him feel special and part of the event.
2007-02-15 11:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't understand why people want their children to be part of their wedding ceremonies anyway, but if you feel you want to give him a role then I believe ring bearer is more appropriate than in a groomsman capacity. Or maybe you could just get him to hand out the Order of Service for the ceremony (if you're having an OOS) Of course he's special to you all, but you don't need to feel obliged to find a role for him unless he really, really wants to.
2007-02-15 10:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋