Family & Relationships - 19 January 2007

I do not want to hear from any of you perfect and "I would never cheat on my spouse" people....just your thoughts on a perfect but funky marriage situation. Lol.
Possible Scenario - perfect marriage(honestly!) except for one thing - sex life is absolutely non-existant and awful. That is really the ONLY bad thing. We are just completely sexually noncompatible with each other and we both know it. Found out she recently cheated, except the thing is I'm not actually mad. Maybe a bit hurt sorta, but I honestly understand why. Needs are needs, right ? When it is "just sex", should I really feel distraught and kick her to the curb over this or should I feel like this is finally my free pass to go cheat on her if I please ?? What the heck am I supposed to do now ??.
Please do NOT suggest divorce or counseling as they are not options in this case.

2007-01-19 03:20:59 · 41 answers · asked by Lexington 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My fiancee had asked me a question pretaining an important issue "financial".....When talking to him about what I have found out and how I have come up with a few ideas he stated getting irritated and then cussing at me,....he never talks to me like that and also said I'm getting off the phone later. He always says he loves me and at that never called me back that night . He did write me a1 sentence email the following morning saying he was sorry and then texed me that evening at 12:30 A.M. that he was studing and again he was sorry but the thing is?,.......he has not called and i do not feel that after being verbal abuses that I should call him at this time giving him reason to think of what he did and his actions. Mind you we are talking about a 34 year old. So I guess I am confuses why he hasn't called and tells me sorry in other forms?

2007-01-19 03:19:31 · 7 answers · asked by vcaring 2 in Marriage & Divorce

When i started secondary school i was fine. And then i got to know some of the people in my class pretty well. But then, out of all the girls in my class (it was a girls school), i thought that one was the prettiest:- jade** (not real name). I would often watch her, and look at her, not in a bad or rude way, but just stare at her, and i don't know why. She started noticing and was not very happy, about the way i stared at her, but i really just couldn't help it. i am now in college, and jade came on to do the same course as me, and for some reason, i still watch/look at her, in the same way as i did in secondary school. i think that there is something seriously wrong with me. Please help!! I don’t know what to do

2007-01-19 03:18:41 · 21 answers · asked by Xing Xing 1 in Friends

2007-01-19 03:17:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So here is my problem I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 5 months. The first 4 months were OUT OF THIS WORLD. I have never been happier, what I am starting to think was infatuation, obviously. 6 months before I started dating him I was in a TERRIBLE relationship with a man who brought out the worst in me. Emotionally abused me, etc. But here the problem lies, lately I have been dreaming about my ex and I don’t know why. Throughout our relationship I think I loved him but at the same time I HATED him. I feel like my love for him was stronger than my love for my current bf. Is it because it was a jealousy filled/hatred love? OR is it because I actually loved him more and still have feelings for the asshole? I want to be with this new guy 4ever. He makes me feel good about myself and I love doing nice things for him. Does anyone have any suggestions? Please anything will help! This is my first normal/non-dramatic relationship is that why? I just want my ex out of my head!

2007-01-19 03:16:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

When I get married I'm going to ask my cousin to be the Maid of Honor. The thing is, she's divorced with a little girl and isn't exactly looking for Mr. Right (more like Mr. Good-Enough-For-Right-Now) so I know she won't be married again by the time I get married. Since she's divorced is she a Matron or Maid of Honor?

2007-01-19 03:15:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

have your significant other ever hit you or punch you before. for what reasons, do u think that is acceptable. iam just curious. i have been with my man for 5 yrs and i feel it is very unacceptable. he hit me and i have many bruises and pain on my body. he got mad at me because i cursed him out for hanging out late, he told me that as his woman, he can do whatever he wants. i disagree. what can i do about this. i mean since this was the first time it happen, how can i be sure it won't happen again, what do u think. thanks.

2007-01-19 03:15:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'd like to see a response to the question I've just posted on ''why bring children into this world... when history shows that the world is not becoming a better place?'', from people that are not selfish and only think of themselves... it disgusts me to read that people claim 'they have no choice in this world'. Yes, maybe you didn't have a choice but you have the choice NOT to bring children into this world. Why do people only think of their benefit as a parent and not the childs future life? It disturbs me when parents give the anwers 'you just have to do your best for them'.. did you think about this BEFORE you had kids??? I want the best for my future children (I would love children), so there for, I would not bring children into this world because they are not going to get the best because of the world we live in... but maybe you can enlighten me!

2007-01-19 03:14:56 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

do anyone have the same problem? and he holds his fork and spoon with only two fingers.. comments?

2007-01-19 03:14:39 · 4 answers · asked by clover 1 in Singles & Dating

When by myself or w/ buddies, I never get "looks" and "stares" from women, but when my boo is w/ me, it seems like all these women are staring. WTF are you looking at?

2007-01-19 03:14:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been married to my husband for 5 years and I am very concerned that he may be an alcoholic. It really bothers me because he has gotten physical with me. (pushed me around and he put his fist up at me, like he wanted to hit me) He doesn't drink everyday, although I think he would. The problem is when he drinks he can't stop. He has to drink until he is drunk. He has drink after drink with no pause inbetween. Last night he was drinking from 9pm until 4 am. I only know because I woke up to feed the baby at 3 am and noticed he was still up drinking alone. He doesn't think he has a problem and I am on the verge of leaving him. Any opions on what I should do??

2007-01-19 03:14:24 · 11 answers · asked by francesca e 2 in Singles & Dating

We all know that some men act more like a boy when it comes to responsibilites...

2007-01-19 03:14:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Did you see her again?

2007-01-19 03:13:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My friends name is Whitney and just the other day she wrote me and said things are really changing huh since you have a bf and i guess thats normal for them because its all about them until they break up you will see soon enough Then she was al saying when she started going out with her bf she always made time for me and im like what the hell shes got issues i use to write her all the time saying how she never has time for me and she never even calls me i have to call her and everytime i call her shes never there shes hanging out with her bf. or something she sits there and thinks that my bf is changing mine and her's relationship but hes not its her bf because believe me i know i went out with him and he regrets going out with me because i broke his heart and then i moved and then they started going back out. im like wow we became friends again then i started going out with my bf jake i wrote her back telling her its her bf and everything and how maybe she should start callin me Help

2007-01-19 03:12:49 · 8 answers · asked by Pooh Bear 2 in Friends

She says she loves me. She does things for me like buy me something she thinks I may like and she cooks but she is just turned off to sex. Am I expected to stay knowing the next time I have sex is when she wants a baby after we are married? She would probably do it (have sex) if I initiate it but she's probably only doing it to please me. Though that's a nice gesture, I'd rather her want to do it because she wants to. I get turned off knowing she only does it because she knows it's been a while for me. I've talked to her and she says she isn't interested in sex anymore. What do I do?

2007-01-19 03:12:39 · 17 answers · asked by famososystems 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am reluctant about my position in office please guide me to get
good suggestion.....................

2007-01-19 03:12:35 · 1 answers · asked by srinivasa r 1 in Family

and and my wife fight all the time she keeps saying she is going to leave how can i get help

2007-01-19 03:12:33 · 3 answers · asked by tyler j 2 in Marriage & Divorce

MY QUESTION IS SHOULD I LET HER MOVE IN WITH ME AND MY BABYS DADDY? EVEN THOUGH WHEN I WAS PREGNANT SHE HATED ME AND TRIED TO MAKE ME HAVE A MISCARRIAGE. MY BABYS FATHER SAY HELL NAW BUT I FELL SORRY FOR HER.

2007-01-19 03:12:01 · 19 answers · asked by shay16lips 1 in Family

I'm 5 and 1/2 months pregnant and not feeling very attractive. I saw my husband looking at some pictures and found a whole bunch of them stored in our computer. The women in the pictures are very far from my type (of course they're gorgeous) but what I mean is very different from what I look like (hair color, eyes, skin). My husband has been great overall during the pregnancy but hasn't really made me feel attactive, I don't really get compliments from him, ever, not even when I'm dressed up. I know pregnant women don't always look their best but I've been able to control my weight and try to look nice all the time for him, and as you know we need a few nice words once in a while. I guess the combination of these two situations made me feel terrible and I'm not sure if I should talk to him or just let it go...

2007-01-19 03:12:01 · 29 answers · asked by chubbytkf 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My best friend and i been friends since we were kindergarden.. she have a boyfriend, i been know her boyfriend since i was 13 years old right now i'm 16 years old. she's getting more upset each time i told her that he been texting me. and now she want to break up with him because she think her boyfriend might fall in love with me instead her. please help me!! i didn't do anything! please help me. thanks to all of you! God bless!

2007-01-19 03:11:48 · 2 answers · asked by John Cena's BIGGEST fan 2 in Friends

i met up with a guy that i knew yrs ago, we both liked each other back then but i could't go out with him for reasons which are personal, anyway i bumped into him again in sept and we exchanged phone nos.
we met up a few times and txted each other during the week for about 3 mths, the only thing is he had just came out of a 3 yr relationship which he didn't end and i know his ex has moved on and is in another relationship he did not tell me this as he doesn't talk about the breakup all his says is that his had enough of relationships and never wants another. i pulled away from him sexually because i know his not over her and i don't want to get hurt but am happy to stay in touch with him, i am crazy about him. i txted him at xmas to see if he was out one nite and we met up but something happen to ruin the nite and he end up been upset, i txted him a day later to see if he was ok he said he was going away for few days and wld get me a txt sometime, should i give him time or what.

2007-01-19 03:11:25 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My Aunt and her boyfriend were together for 19 years and have 5 kids together, the youngest three are 11, 12, and 13. They recently separated and now he is not doing anything for his younger kids. My aunt filed for child support but now he is saying he wants a paternity test to prove that they are his. Doesn't he still have to pay child support if he has been taking care of them for all these years.

2007-01-19 03:10:25 · 3 answers · asked by precious 1 in Family

why do all americans think its ok to have more than one partner and cheat on them all the time???

2007-01-19 03:10:19 · 8 answers · asked by BscHons 6 in Singles & Dating

I quite enjoy the Yahoo Answers and Instant messenger chat I get from here, I was just wondering have many others made e-friends in this way.

2007-01-19 03:09:48 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

we're really close but sometimes he says that i don't treat him special enough. but i mean i pay almost if not all of my attention to him, i call him and we talk for hours. but i'm not always sure on what to tell him to let him know how special he is to me. it seems like the things i do are things he doesn't notice. i need help!!

2007-01-19 03:09:40 · 16 answers · asked by baby_toiger 1 in Singles & Dating

if you were to describe ur mom using only one word
what would it be

2007-01-19 03:08:32 · 14 answers · asked by emont_1029 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

My boyfriend hates the fact that he could be possible whipped. And I need to know how to not really trian him but have him be a little more constriet with out him feeling/know that he could/is whipped? Because my boy friend is kinda mocho like, you know what I mean?

2007-01-19 03:07:36 · 7 answers · asked by 1 confused chick 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok I am a girl who (so I am told) is pretty attractive. I hang out with mostly guys because I click there and I have a few girl friends but I find most girls petty and annoying. If you had a friend like me what would you like her to do to get your attention and seem less intimidating (that is what I am figuring it is)? I dress feminine I am known for not going many places without heels on. I have even asked a few guys out (they disappeared). What am I doing wrong and what do you think I should do?

2007-01-19 03:07:26 · 14 answers · asked by Erin B 2 in Singles & Dating

My bf used to smoke pot and he has started back but onnly like once in a while how can i make him quit?

2007-01-19 03:06:51 · 12 answers · asked by livin4life08 1 in Singles & Dating

Lately when we are sitting watching tv Amie has been resting her hand on my crotch. Sometimes she will even try to undue my pants. The other night I was wearing sweatpants and she even put her hand down them. She has also moved my hand so that I am touching her.
She doesn't say anything during this time. When I ask her about it she avoids answering the question or leaves the room. This leaves confused. I know she knows what she is doing.
Could this mean that she wants to take our relationship to the next level could this mean she wants to sleep with me?

2007-01-19 03:06:41 · 6 answers · asked by Jerrie's Daddy 2 in Singles & Dating