She says she loves me. She does things for me like buy me something she thinks I may like and she cooks but she is just turned off to sex. Am I expected to stay knowing the next time I have sex is when she wants a baby after we are married? She would probably do it (have sex) if I initiate it but she's probably only doing it to please me. Though that's a nice gesture, I'd rather her want to do it because she wants to. I get turned off knowing she only does it because she knows it's been a while for me. I've talked to her and she says she isn't interested in sex anymore. What do I do?
2007-01-19 03:12:39 · 17 answers · asked by famososystems 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You speak about all that she does for you but what is it that you do for her. Do you send her flowers for no reason at all? When was the last time you made her a romantic dinner or took her and a relaxing vacation?
You have made this all about you. If you want more sex you need to start making sex about her. Sex for a woman always start in her head.
Treat her better and make her feel pretty and sexy and not like a object and watch how much better your sex life will become.
2007-01-19 03:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take this as a red flag that if you get married to her you will end up divorced. This can be a deal breaker for many relationships unless you are willing to live in a fairly sexless marriage. Otherwise it could be a phase or just a hormone imbalance. If not physical then this is a mental thing and there is something bothering her. Good luck.
2007-01-19 03:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to be loving and caring during the day and romance her with a little wine and dine if that doesn't work there is always the women's equivalent to Viagra on the market. Try looking into this maybe, Good luck
2007-01-19 03:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why she's no longer interested in sex. By sitting down and talking with her you should be able to figure it out. Maybe she feels guilty having sex before marriage, or perhaps it's uncomfortable for her.
Talk with her, just don't be confrontational.
2007-01-19 03:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by KL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sex is a deal breaker....better to find out now before you get married. There is more to it on her side which she is not telling you...try to find out the "why" if you get a truthful answer instead of an "I don't know"... you can go from there... but basically your relationship is doomed.
2007-01-19 03:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be more going on with her than you know. She needs to talk to you or see a doctor. She may have a hormone imbalance. Easily fixed. If you love her, talk it out, see what can be done. Good luck
2007-01-19 03:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pitty sex is not worth it
if sex is even remotly important to you, have her go to a dr or sex therapist or both
if the drive is way different, then you need to decide, is it worth staying with her, knowing this is a problem. perfection does not exist, here you know the problem, but can you solve it?
2007-01-19 03:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by head_banger_yyc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you add the problems and pressures of marriage and babies your libido will probably diminish also...unfortunately hers will, too. If a decent sex life is one of your objectives and hopes in marriage, good luck
2007-01-19 03:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away fast, sex matters in a relationship.
2007-01-19 08:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sad. This just happened to one of my best friends. As soon as the ink was dry on the marriage license, she stopped giving it to him. I guess it's very common. I personally don't understand it.
2007-01-19 03:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋