My fiancee had asked me a question pretaining an important issue "financial".....When talking to him about what I have found out and how I have come up with a few ideas he stated getting irritated and then cussing at me,....he never talks to me like that and also said I'm getting off the phone later. He always says he loves me and at that never called me back that night . He did write me a1 sentence email the following morning saying he was sorry and then texed me that evening at 12:30 A.M. that he was studing and again he was sorry but the thing is?,.......he has not called and i do not feel that after being verbal abuses that I should call him at this time giving him reason to think of what he did and his actions. Mind you we are talking about a 34 year old. So I guess I am confuses why he hasn't called and tells me sorry in other forms?
2007-01-19 03:19:31 · 7 answers · asked by vcaring 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems your fiancee seems very distant when it comes to communication. Now that we have heard your side of the story, its not really easy saying that he is wrong. He might have his own reasons for behaving the way he does. If he is stressed about something that can justify some of his behavior and if thats not the case you guys need sit together and discuss how you talk and behave with each other. A relationship is a two way street and sometimes small things make things go bad. BUT you can always start fresh and clear all the differences. Start talking to him and ask him if he has some problems or if he is going through something that you dont know about. Talk about your problems together and come to a conclusion which works out the best for the both of you.
2007-01-19 03:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by Cerebraltissue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thought he would try & get off easy,by sending you an email & a text. He knows he screwed up. I say... when he cussed you,he didn't do it thru email or text. His apology should be in person as well. We all get angry & say things we don't mean. I certainly don't condone his actions, but if he makes it right w/ you & understands you won't tolerate being treated that way & you can get passed it-& I really think you will,if he approaches you in the right way..Then give him a break, if it happens again...you know this is a pattern & only you can decide if that's the way you want to be treated for the REST OF YOUR LIFE...thats a LONG time, K? Good Luck
2007-01-19 11:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by weezie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are certain triggers that make men angry and in regards to their privacy. I had a hard time with my man regarding finances. Men are very prideful and protective of their finances they want to seem in control. And to also be strong and perfect for you.
You need to tell him you are only trying to help not control him or his finances. Just back up on it give some space. If he wants your help he will let you.
I now handle all our finances but still let him decide what amount and where.. it is hard but know you are open with him about yours. Accept his apology and move forward.
Mind you my man is the same age!
2007-01-19 11:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like most partner issues, communication is the key to resolving any problems. you wont work it out or realize that plain old differences truly exist without talking. since you are the one expressing concern, i would think you should initiate a call to him and just say that you are really bothered and upset and want to talk about the subject and his reaction to it.
2007-01-19 11:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by barn cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe what u said hit a nerve with him, and reminded him of something unpleasant in his past. maybe he is one of those men who can't say they are sorry, due to immaturity, insensitivity, and afraid of the outcome if he does call u. he may be a man of few words, and doesn't have the communicative skills u do.
2007-01-19 12:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immaturity and Pride. You sure you want to marry this guy? Here's your warning signs already...not even married yet and already getting verbal abuse. Think about this real good.
2007-01-19 11:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's just scared. my boyfriend's best-friend did the same thing this week. but he blocked his # and said, " I'm sorry Staci, OK, OK bye bye." and hung up the phone. so i waz mad @him 4 2 or 3 dayz, but we cool now. not AZ cool AZ we use 2 b.
2007-01-19 11:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋