When I get married I'm going to ask my cousin to be the Maid of Honor. The thing is, she's divorced with a little girl and isn't exactly looking for Mr. Right (more like Mr. Good-Enough-For-Right-Now) so I know she won't be married again by the time I get married. Since she's divorced is she a Matron or Maid of Honor?
2007-01-19 03:15:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just as a matter of clarification to BagPuss: A "Maid" of Honor is not married. A "Matron" is married (hence why I'm confused with divorcees). I'm surprised you've never heard of a Maid of Honor!
2007-01-19 03:23:13 · update #1
Since she has a daughter, "matron" is correct regardless of marital status. However, you might want to ask her opinion. She'll understand the confusion. She might prefer just "Honor Attendant".
2007-01-19 03:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Maid of Honor is a single women who has never been married. The Matron of Honor is a married, divorced or widowed woman.
2007-01-19 11:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by Renee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since she was married, she would be Matron of Honor. A Maid of Honor has never been married (and traditionally would not have any children).
Or you could just call her your Honor Attendant if you don't want anyone knowing her marital status.
2007-01-20 14:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Inquiring Mind 19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If her divorce is completely finalized at the time of your wedding than she is a Maid of Honour. My best friend is in the same situation and she understands that if her divorce is not finalized by the time I'm married than she is a Matron of Honour.
2007-01-20 19:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since she was married at one time, I would say Matron of Honor. I think it originally goes back to the virgin thing. Good luck with your wedding.
2007-01-19 11:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by Bev 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe she would be a matron of honor since she was married. You could also refer to her as the "Best Woman" since you'd have a "Best Man". Then there would be no confusion.
Never know, she may find a good catch before then.
Good luck
2007-01-19 11:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Coda2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think Maid would be best since she isnt married, but you can ask her what she wants to be referred to as.
Just and FYI though, I was MOH at my BF's wedding this past summer, when it came to my official title I chose to be called "Maid" instead of "Matron"(I am married) because I feel that matron is such an old sounding word. Like I should be 60 and fat and matronly. So its not unheard of for married women to be called maids, besides, you dont call married bridesmaids, bridesmatrons. I would ask her what she prefers.
2007-01-19 14:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her which she would prefer. Matron of Honor is probably closer to the truth, but these days you have to adapt old traditions to modern situations. Maid of Honor, though, may boost her self confidence. It also tells any interested wedding guests that she is available.
2007-01-19 11:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maid=has never been married
Matron=is married OR has been married
2007-01-20 19:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bridesmaid - unmarried and never been married
Matron of Honour - married or has been married
Never heard of a maid of honour, either matron of honour or bridesmaid
2007-01-19 11:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋