Ok I am a girl who (so I am told) is pretty attractive. I hang out with mostly guys because I click there and I have a few girl friends but I find most girls petty and annoying. If you had a friend like me what would you like her to do to get your attention and seem less intimidating (that is what I am figuring it is)? I dress feminine I am known for not going many places without heels on. I have even asked a few guys out (they disappeared). What am I doing wrong and what do you think I should do?
2007-01-19 03:07:26 · 14 answers · asked by Erin B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have guy friends who feel the need to tell me that is how they see me and that is why they would throw me in a lake in a "fight." They don't feel the need to be polite around me (I don't really care). I am not asking out my friends. Other guys are intimidated (and have told me or my friends) by the fact that I am the way I am...I'm not sure what I am doing.
2007-01-19 03:14:39 · update #1
When you're interested in a guy, tell your guy friends to help you out. They can let the guy know that you're interested then the guy can ask you out if he's interested.
If you're hanging out with a pack of guys, other guys might not want to break into the protective pack, but if the pack lets the guy know that they aren't a threat, then he might cross the line and ask you out.
2007-01-19 03:13:22 · answer #1 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like I would like you a lot at this stage in my life whereas most people wouldn't.
You want to be less intimidating to the rest of those sods, but you know the answer already. Basically, you have to be petty and annoying, and perhaps add crying and helpless one moment and yet critical of your rescuer the next. You have to be what you hate because it works. I used to be a very typical guy. Years ago, one girl told me about the lingering pain of her Lyme Disease and told me I could see it in her eyes if I looked closely. I fell for her as I would an injured puppy. Try something like that with three guys, and you'll get one for sure.
Or you could wait longer until someone likes you for who you are.
2007-01-19 03:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by Benji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably think that your asking them out for the wrong reasons like to make someone jealous or somethings (might seem to good to be true), I turned down a really pretty girl who asked me out cause she did it with her friends around and they were giggling the whole time but later I found out she really did want to go out, I could personally never see a girl as one of the guys, getting into fights and messing aroung is what guys do and it may be their way of showing their uncomfortable with you around, if an attractive girl is not my girlfriend and won't introduce me to other girls then I see no point in even wasting my time with her
2007-01-19 03:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by thug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be the first one to ask the guy out. They might find that intimidating. Especially if they think first of all you are a feminine type of girl. Try to encourage them to ask you out instead. Continue to hang out with guys and take an interest in what they like and do. Men like girls who are one of the guys and can communicate with them. Take up the same nterest as the guy you like encourage him. See what developes.
2007-01-19 03:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by malcolmg 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why does it seem like every girl in the world thinks that they are one of the guys? There are more girls that hate girls than not. Are you asking out your friends? That could be a problem.
2007-01-19 03:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the guy in a group that the girl who was "just one of the guys liked". She started going to my basketball games to watch, she dressed up nicer when we went out as a group. She spent more time in conversation with me. She even talked to me about my crushes.
It never got through to me until she told me how she felt, then I was like "oh wow, let's try it then". She turned me down cold cuz she didn't want me to date her just because she liked me and because she put so much effort into getting my attention.
I'll always wonder what could have been. Hopefully, your crush isn't as dense as I was.
2007-01-19 03:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably aren't doing anything wrong... It's just that if you are with them all the time... They kind of look at you different... A friend of mine also hangs out with mostly guys... But that's kind of another story... But Don't give up... I'm sure that you're not that bad looking... But I'm no judge on that... Good luck!!!!
2007-01-19 03:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by Shadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but every high school has a girl that hangs out with the guys and has no girl friends. It's kind of creepy in a way.
2007-01-19 03:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being in a group (like a group of friends) is tough. Especially with guys, because guys usually try to make equal friendships with each other in a group - and if you are one of the "guys", then it is hard for the guy to "give more attention" to one of the friends in the group, Good Luck!
2007-01-19 03:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Warren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They see you as a guy.
That means they don't even look at your breasts or your legs or whatever in a sexual way any more than they'd look at their sister's breasts in a sexual way. It's a case of "Oh well, so that's what she looks like" reaction.
You'll have to hold back from them a bit and try and get ONE guy into a one-to-one situation more often.
2007-01-20 08:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋