So here is my problem I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 5 months. The first 4 months were OUT OF THIS WORLD. I have never been happier, what I am starting to think was infatuation, obviously. 6 months before I started dating him I was in a TERRIBLE relationship with a man who brought out the worst in me. Emotionally abused me, etc. But here the problem lies, lately I have been dreaming about my ex and I don’t know why. Throughout our relationship I think I loved him but at the same time I HATED him. I feel like my love for him was stronger than my love for my current bf. Is it because it was a jealousy filled/hatred love? OR is it because I actually loved him more and still have feelings for the asshole? I want to be with this new guy 4ever. He makes me feel good about myself and I love doing nice things for him. Does anyone have any suggestions? Please anything will help! This is my first normal/non-dramatic relationship is that why? I just want my ex out of my head!
2007-01-19 03:16:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dreaming of him doesn't particularly mean that you are still interested in him. In fact, it probably means exactly the opposite. Your dreams are trying to tell you something, but, as dreams do, they do it symbolically as they are appealing to your subconcious. Consider exactly what is going on in the dream and, if you can't make the leap as to what the dream is trying to tell you, try a dream interpreter. Here are a couple of websites to get you started: http://www.newagedirectory.com/dream/dreamanalysis.htm http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/ http://petrix.com/dreams/
2007-01-19 03:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You often do this because you are scared of commitment with the new one and that they might do the same and also yuo might not have let go of the other even though he hurt you he had some good traits or you would not have been with him its like that and you was with him for a while and youwas use to him and all imean the only thing you can do is let him go and forive him you are probally still angry at him and you need to talk to him and tell him you forgive himand tell him that you know see hows hw doing also you need to open up more to the other and let him in more if you can do that and them just know he is better then you should be able to atart thinking about him at night and the good things you all do and soon the other will drift away you wont even notice but remember you have to forgive in order to for give are you really over him
2007-01-19 03:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by crystal b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dream about your wants and your fears. Either you want him back or you fear he will make a mess of your life now.
Dont worry about him. You have a good man now and those area hard to find. If you are that bothered about it, make a list of the pros and cons with the ex. If he was like u say, the cons outweight the pros in any case. Reflect on that list whenever you feel good about him and regretful. For some unknown reason, we always tend to think about the ex's at some point in our life, no matter how good it is. I think its human nature.
Maybe you were just so used to drama that you are somewhat used to it and feel uneasy without it. Trust me, you are much better off where you are, and you will forget about your past eventually. Drama is never good. Be thankful for what you have now, and enjoy it.
The dreams are just your subconscious. Maybe you fear he will interfere with the good life you have now. Go get a book on dream interpretations or look it up on here. There is all kinds of useful info on it. And its very interesting. Good luck to you. And keep the one you got!! ;)
2007-01-19 03:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha this sounds weird but this has happened to me.... It usually means that you are thinking about him during the day so I would advise just to stop thinking about him altogether, Remove things around your room that make you think of him... TRY to forget him alltogether.
Some people believe that dreaming is sorting out your minds thought processes which I often believe. Because whenever I have a difficult problem in school I think about it before bed and the next day I can ususally do it because (i know this sounds silly) my mind has sorted it out.
I don't know really how you can stop dreaming about him... maybe it will take time... but try not to think of him during the day.
2007-01-19 03:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Artemis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Dreams are just that, dreams. Not reality. Just be thankful for the wonderful relationship you have now. I guess you were just traumatized by your past relationship that's why it's haunting you in some way. I just hope you're not one of those people who always wants things to be so complicated. There are people who are just so addicted to tragedy that they are skeptical about anything positive. I say, enjoy what you have and don't worry about things that haven't happened yet.
2007-01-19 03:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by ponder2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have a wandering intellect seeing that there's whatever that your current bf just isn't fulfilling or perhaps he has been slipping slightly bit today. Try to dedicate all of that concentration into your present bf and make it as excellent as it may be. If you have not already, eliminate notes, stuffed animals, pix, and so on.. That he gave you. Do not hearken to sad "i miss you" songs. There is a motive he is on your past and failed to make it to your future !!!
2016-08-10 12:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the only thing I know that Might help you stay out of bad relationships..........
Tell yourself everyday as you look in the mirror..
I AM WORTH MORE
I DESERVE MORE
I WANT MORE
Keep telling that to yourself until YOU believe it!!!!
When you start to believe in yourself then you will begin to make better choices for yourself
Good Luck!
2007-01-19 03:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by LucySD 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sleep with your ex one more time to see how bad he is.
2007-01-19 03:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by trung l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't sleep.
2007-01-19 03:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by venom! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grow up...........get your *** scrubbing floors and mopping............
2007-01-19 03:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by wally h 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋