help me!!!?

Question

When i started secondary school i was fine. And then i got to know some of the people in my class pretty well. But then, out of all the girls in my class (it was a girls school), i thought that one was the prettiest:- jade** (not real name). I would often watch her, and look at her, not in a bad or rude way, but just stare at her, and i don't know why. She started noticing and was not very happy, about the way i stared at her, but i really just couldn't help it. i am now in college, and jade came on to do the same course as me, and for some reason, i still watch/look at her, in the same way as i did in secondary school. i think that there is something seriously wrong with me. Please help!! I don’t know what to do

Answer 1

I dont think there is anything wrong with you.

It sounds to me like you lack self asteem. You want to be like this girl.

That is not a bad thing.

Why dont you try to sit in front of your mirror and try to pick out YOUR good points.

This girl may be pretty but that doesnt make her perfect.

You are a beautiful person to you just need to realise this.

Good Luck

Answer 2

It is natural for a guy to notice a pretty girl and stare at her the way you describe, it does not necessarily mean that you have a problem and need help. Maybe the way she thought when you were in secondary school might not be the same way she feels about you now, although it does not means she does not have a boyfriend. If you really like her why don't you go up to her and caually talk to her and let her know that you have been interested in her for a long time, she will probably more than likely remember you, and if she is not dating anyone or would like to go for coffee sometime then you could find out somethings about her you did not know. If is wants to date you then you have free opportunity, if she not interested or dating someone else then you tried although you won't know what she will say untill you have talked to her. So the question to you is what are you waiting for?!

Answer 3

I can see why she got a bit upset, but that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you.
just try not to stare, but if you fancy her, then you should deal with the fact that you have feelings for someone of the same sex and then try to move on I guess

Answer 4

I have friends that I admire and sometimes do the same. I don't think it's strange but you should find out what intrigues you. Only true beauty can hold the eye for so long. She must be beautiful. Nothing is wrong with you...

Answer 5

Do you have a boy friend? and if not why not? Do you have any
sexually feeling for this woman? and suppose she should make a
move on you what would you say? To me it seems like you see
that woman as more than you are telling us! Have you ever been
another woman befor? I think you should go and get your self a
man and stop watchen that woman because you have other things in your head for that woman! I have never have that or any
crush for any one who looks like me. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER!
So there are other things in your head for that woman, and like I
say! if you do not, well go fiend your self a man &. stop Infatuated
over that woman. Hope this will help you and If you realy want help then you should be help with what I am telling you!>>>>>>.

Answer 6

u know maybe its a possiblity that u could be a lesbian perhaps or a bisexual u never know well or u could just change your class and look at guys because if u r turning into a lesbian then there is nuthin wrong with that but just beaware ok email me if u need help my mom is a siciatrist and i know alot about everything and everybody that has problems ok my email is [e-mail] okay

Answer 7

It is totally natural for us girls to compare ourselves to other girls. And to me, it sounds like you really want to either look like her or be her, but you can't live life like that. My ex has a girlfriend who is younger and prettier than I am but I can't sit around staring at her. Or maybe you're attracted to her. Either way, get your mind on your own well being instead of hers.......it would bother me too if I saw someone stare at me like that.......are you sure of your sexual orientation? Maybe you should strike up a conversation with her instead of staring.....sorry I couldn't really help........

Answer 8

It is pretty normal to wish to and look at that which is beautiful. If she is beautiful, then people will look at her regardless of her will. But I would think she is tired of all the stares, and just wants a blind friend.

Answer 9

This does happen to me
i look at them just because they are much prettier then me and i want to be just like them
it;s natural
there is this girl who wont stop staring at me.
it doesnt mean anything its just either they like ur outfit or they just want to be your friend.
dont worry about it and what i do is
i try to look away as much
sometimes things can get out of hand and you can be called a lesbian and obviously ur not
so just chill and just try focusing on other things.




gluck
SEK

Answer 10

Maybe u just admire her looks. She is pretty & part of you is a bit awed by that. Or maybe you are confused about your sexuality. You need to really give this some though to find your answer dear.