My friends name is Whitney and just the other day she wrote me and said things are really changing huh since you have a bf and i guess thats normal for them because its all about them until they break up you will see soon enough Then she was al saying when she started going out with her bf she always made time for me and im like what the hell shes got issues i use to write her all the time saying how she never has time for me and she never even calls me i have to call her and everytime i call her shes never there shes hanging out with her bf. or something she sits there and thinks that my bf is changing mine and her's relationship but hes not its her bf because believe me i know i went out with him and he regrets going out with me because i broke his heart and then i moved and then they started going back out. im like wow we became friends again then i started going out with my bf jake i wrote her back telling her its her bf and everything and how maybe she should start callin me Help
2007-01-19 03:12:49 · 8 answers · asked by Pooh Bear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My advice to you BOTH is
Boyfriends come and go. A true friend will always be there for you.
It is cool you both have B/F
Why dont the 4 of you hook up and have a good laugh together. You could all become good friends.
2007-01-19 03:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a catch 22 situation and it can be fixed if your friend is willing to hear you out. It seems she is doing what she says you are doing, but does anybody really know?! it is time you and your friend had a sit down chat and let her know what your side of the story is and let her tell her side, then you and her can come up with a solution as to what do next, if she wants to be friend with you fine, be friends. If she does not want to be friends then you know what you have to do. When friends have significant others there has to be a boundary between the friendship and the relationship, like making time for your friends and time with the boyfriend. Since you and her don't have this kind of equalization then you and her need to set a date when you and her can hang out, so you and her can have time for the boyfriends. This is important if you and her still plan to be friends now and in the future.
2007-01-19 03:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a classic situation, Pooh Bear. If both of you had boyfriends, it would have been easier. But this always happens when one has a bf and the other doesn't. She'll just have to learn that priorities change, but that doesn't mean you love her less or your friendship has lessened in anyway. Tell her frankly. It'll work out. Perhaps you could arrange a double date occasionally to make her feel not so left out?
2007-01-19 03:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and Whitney need to sit down and have a very serious talk. True friendships last forever and you guys need to do whatever you can to make it work. Both of you guys felt left out when one of you has a boyfriend. You need to realize that both of you guys are growing up and trying to prioritize your life. Make sure that neither one of you lets a guy ruin your friendship. Just talk to her. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-01-19 03:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bleive you need to find a way to get together and solve your problems. Don't tried and blame it on each others' boyfriends. Understand each other and go from there.
2007-01-19 03:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jaguar16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if might be because
she like that person alot and she doesnt want him to like dump hi mor something just because of you.
just wait
things will get better
gluck
SEK
2007-01-19 03:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by emont_1029 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and ask her out. refresh yr friendship again.
2007-01-19 03:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by istina jap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave her if she cant take some of the blame
2007-01-19 03:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋