i met up with a guy that i knew yrs ago, we both liked each other back then but i could't go out with him for reasons which are personal, anyway i bumped into him again in sept and we exchanged phone nos.
we met up a few times and txted each other during the week for about 3 mths, the only thing is he had just came out of a 3 yr relationship which he didn't end and i know his ex has moved on and is in another relationship he did not tell me this as he doesn't talk about the breakup all his says is that his had enough of relationships and never wants another. i pulled away from him sexually because i know his not over her and i don't want to get hurt but am happy to stay in touch with him, i am crazy about him. i txted him at xmas to see if he was out one nite and we met up but something happen to ruin the nite and he end up been upset, i txted him a day later to see if he was ok he said he was going away for few days and wld get me a txt sometime, should i give him time or what.
2007-01-19 03:11:25 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-19 03:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by M*K*H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give him up. Timing is everything in a relationship & it could take him a long time to get over his past one & move on to another one. The worst time to see someone is the 1st yr to yr 1/2 after the end of a serious relationship. He has a lot to work thru & any new relationship is bound to be so bumpy that it will never get off the ground. Tell him you're letting him go but if in the future he's ready to date again with all his excess baggage out of the way to give you a call. (That doesn't mean you have to go out with him. It could just mean that you care about him & want to know that he's okay again).
2007-01-19 03:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend to him, but do not expect a relationship with him
They say it takes 2 days to every one that you were in a relationship to truely get that person out of your system. Can you hold out for 6 years?
If you decide mutually to enter into a relationship with this person, you will feel insecure because you will always be wondering whether you are being compared to her, or if he is moody you will wonder whether he is thinking about her, or you know that he is not fully over her. Be a friend, the shoulder to cry on, and let that type of relationship develop.
If nothing happens, that is the way it was meant to be, but if it does, just be cautious and understanding.
2007-01-19 03:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by natasha * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone! He is still wanting his ex and will for a very long time to come yet. No matter how crazy you are for him, he can not come to terms with the fact that his ex no longer wants him and she has some-one else. Move on with your life, stop hoping and waiting for him.
2007-01-19 03:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by blue_sapphire07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life and don't worry about him. If you are supposed to be together he'll come back to you. If not you don't want to waste time mooning over him when you could be enjoying a more meaningful relationship.
2007-01-19 03:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time and tide, wait for none. Either you get the guy or you GET ANOTHER. Don't spend you life questioning intentions and approximately calculating actions of others. Achieve your aims first by understanding who they are, develop your strategy, work in fulfilling your own aim; achieve it. Get along with your life. Finally praise and thank GOD.
2007-01-19 03:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by Kool-kat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you really like this guy. and maybe life is giving you a second chance. i would say give him time. i was in a long term realtionship too. and i didnt end it either. and he moved on right away. but i didnt. it took me months to get over him. and i appreciate that my now boyfriend decided to give me time and space. well accidently gave me space. we lost touch for a while. and i dont regret taking that time because in the end if i hadnt i would just have hurt someone. so just give him the time and space that he needs.
2007-01-19 03:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by Daisy Carlos 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mary,
i personally would leave it for awhile. after all give him some space. if he is interested he will come back.
uve used ur head upto know, by not sleeping with him, as this would of complexed things.
just give him alittle time, you carry on going out and having fun with your friends.. lifes to short!
besides, getting with him so soon after a break up could mean u being "re-bound"
good luck
2007-01-19 03:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by geminially 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just txt him to let him know that you are always there for him to talk to and then if he dont reply then you know where you stand he may need time to get over his past realationship
but in the mean time still go out and enjoy yourself dont wait around for him
2007-01-19 03:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him time. Tell him when he is ready then you both can talk it over. If you keep txting him with no return you might lose him or he may see you as just a bed partner. He will come to you in time if he truly has feelings for you.
2007-01-19 03:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by jen19801976 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think he needs time. If he already knows you like him, you could tell him that you want to be with him - but only when he is completly ready and confident enough to move on.
Break-ups are hard. I think he needs a good friend right now more than a new girlfriend.
2007-01-19 03:15:35 · answer #11 · answered by Samantha 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋