Family & Relationships - 10 January 2007

We were both so young when we met, and our relationship happened so fast. Fresh out of high school, we had a baby; and that's when life really started for us. Our relationship was great, I mean we were best friends; until our daughter came along.... We both felt the pressures of being young unmarried parents; financially, physically and mentally. On top of that I gained some weight and let myself go. Our relationship was on the rocks for about 3 months because I constantly caught him flirting/ trying to talk to someone else. I was so self conscious of myself and I became so frustrated with him because what ever we talked about; he constantly started hammering me about my weight. We finally broke up. He left me for someone else. I am hurt yeah, but, I am so motivated now to do my thang. I go to the gym 5 days a week workin it about two hours a day. I want to get this weight off by May. Do you think he'll be back, or is he just going to forget about me and move on?????

2007-01-10 10:46:31 · 2 answers · asked by Stefi13 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

There's a guy at my highschool a grade younger than me (junior. sophomore) He's always hugging me and grabbing my hands, and i've showed intrest back. I know he's a huge flirt with alot of girls, but he flirts with me more by far. I want him to completely fall for me. Should i play hard to get. Or keep up what i'm doing. Deets please!

2007-01-10 10:46:24 · 7 answers · asked by hill <3 2 in Singles & Dating

i dont no what to do cause there is this boy i like in my class and i dont no if he likes me and he always looks at me all the time

2007-01-10 10:45:54 · 65 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i'm 20 years old and my boyfriend is 39. i know him since i was 15 years old, but i only got with him four months ago. when i first met him and i was 15 years old he said he couldn't have kids(we'd have unprotected sex , but he wouldn't come in me) now that i'm 20 he's talking about having a baby and he wouldn't pull out when he ejeculating. but i issue with him is trust,can i trust this man enough to have a baby for him. i'm studying at university . and he doesn't have any kids.................................but i just feel like i can't trust him after the whole baby fiasco.

2007-01-10 10:45:51 · 94 answers · asked by candyprincess 3 in Singles & Dating

Hi everyone! im a guy and my best friend is a girl, her name is Ashley. We've known each other for about 2 years now. We met at a workshop program in 12th grade and since then we became very bonded. She had her share of friends and i had my own, but no matter what, we would always do many things 2gether and have so much fun. as time went bywe became very bonded, we never felt anything for each other beyond friendship, she became like a sister to me in the longterm. Everybody used to tell me that there was a natural bond between her and i, many even used to think she was my girlfriend(which she never was by the way) because we would get along so well. We used to hang out a lot and do many things together, even when she used to have a boyfriend, nothing changed between us. And whenever she would have a problem, she would come ask me for advice. she was the type of friend with whom u can be without sayin a word sometimes and still feel very comfortable. We later on moved to college, and our friendship continued the same way even though we had met new people. We used to go out every friday and talk on the phone for hours almost everyday. we made our group of friends but still our friendship was the same. But around the end of the first semester, she bonded with a group of girls, which werent bad people at all. She started hangin out more with them, something i wasnt against because i know that a girl always likes to hang out with other girls and do things they cant do with male friends. I was ok with it, because she would balance her time spent with them and with me, and we would still talk on the phone everyday and do our things. She would sumtimes invite me to go out with her and her other friends still, so everything was kool, until the last day of the first semester, were we all went in a group to a club, i had a couple of drinks and later that night i was very rude to her(verbaly). we didnt talk to each other during the whole break, even tho i asked to forgive me through a phone talk. So i got myself a girlfriend during that break and made new friends. When we came back to our second semester, we started talkin again and she told me the next day that she needed some help buying her textbooks online. That day i went to her house and spent the whole day with her buyin her books and playing around, we had so much fun and laughed so much, to the point that our friendship was pressumably restored. Then the next night she called me to talk to me about some problems she was having with her boss at her job and i gave her all the advie i could. I thought our friendship had gone back to normal, but apparently i was wrong. The next day she barely talked to me at college, and then the next day she started actin kind of indifferent towards me, even yesterday, i was sittin in the computer lab and some other guys we both know were around me, she started actin very friendly with them(just the way she used to act with me in the past) and ignored me completely, she didnt say a word to me at all. And she doesnt seem mad at me, she just seems indifferent, like she is trying to push me apart. Also, today she sat in another area in one of our classes with her other friends even tho she used to sit around me all the time. Now im worried about my our friendship.. where did the bond we used to have go? today i hearcd her talkin to her frineds about a gettogether they are having this weekend, and they invited some other gys to it, she would normaly invite me, but she hasnt sad a word to me about it yet.. what is wrong between us?? i need some advice on this. what can i do to bring our friendship back?? i miss her, i miss talkin to her on the phone, i miss goin to the movies with her, i miss makin jokes along with her, i miss the old Ashley.. i miss that special frinedship we used to have, i dont feel anything romantic towards her and i never did, all i want is my friend back. Is there something i can do?? i have my friends and all, but i dont care for none of them as much as i care for her, she is a especial friend to me, but it seems she doesnt realize that. Please! i need some advice!! am i doin something wrong?? And its weird, because despite her attitude, she still has me as her top friend in myspace, i dont get it, whats wrong?? this is so confusing!! please heelp me! thank u very much in advance, hope i didnt bore with my essay... :'(

2007-01-10 10:45:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

so i sometimes feel mad or sad . i don't know if i should tell someone. i am scared. please help me.

2007-01-10 10:45:00 · 27 answers · asked by sad problem 1 in Friends

I went out to a bar and had several drinks with friends. This one guy who I'd flirted with offered to give me a ride home, and I accepted. We walked in to my apartment and I immediately went to bed and passed out. The next thing I know, I woke up and he then penetrated me. I was too shocked to say anything or to tell him to stop. Since I didn't tell him to stop does this mean I consented? After about 30 seconds he got off of being on top of me, and I immediately went out of the room and came back and told him to leave. The next morning I laid on the floor for about 3 hours in the fetal position sobbing my eyes out (I had a boyfriend at the time). What should I do?

2007-01-10 10:44:47 · 41 answers · asked by Loose Cannon 1 in Singles & Dating

Do I need to have a shuttle bus or something like it for out of town guests from the hotel (also the reception spot) to the church for the ceremony and back to the reception/hotel? It's really out of our budget to do this... Should I make this happen?? I made a note on our wedding website to carpool. Was that in bad taste?? What do I do?

2007-01-10 10:44:34 · 18 answers · asked by Sue A 3 in Weddings

yourselves to see, or would you share those pictures with your male or female friends. 100% will
75% probably
50% maybe
25% would not
Can you answer this as honestly as you can?

2007-01-10 10:44:33 · 26 answers · asked by Boricua Born 5 in Singles & Dating

I'm 35. I'm seeing a young woman who's 17. She actively pursued me and after around 6 months, I fell. Now I think I'm falling in love. I don't think anything is wrong but I'm worried that others will, even though her and my families are completely fine.
Am I wrong?

2007-01-10 10:44:07 · 34 answers · asked by fettster 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm in love with a boy in my class with whom I've had a lot of experiences with, as a friend. But one day he acts REALLY hard to get and pulls away and another he's inseparable with me. My best friend says he likes HER, because he looks at her a lot, but I'm not so sure... he just has deep eyes! but maybe he does like her!. She says she dosen't like him, but I'm not that sure either about that. Nobody knows that I love him. But I'm so hurt because I know I will NEVER be with him!.
Please help!, what can I do???.
I try 2 b hard to get as much as I can.
He's soo special to me and I can't forget him!.
What can I do? Will I heal? HELP me! He's the man of my life. He's PERFECT 4 me.

oxox, thanks so much!.

2007-01-10 10:44:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im really frustrated at my boyfriend right now...it seems that he doesnt have any sense to help out with the chores around the house. Its not like i ask him to do much...for example. I do the cooking, cleaning up afterwords, laundary, cleaning around the house...shopping for the groceries, and i only ask him once and a while to do small favors. I dont nag him because i know if i nag he wont do anything and he will just get mad. So, i usually just ask him once and sometimes he does it sometimes he dont. He treats me well, he is a great boyfriend otherwise but im just tired doing everything and then askinging him for a favor to help out a little bit and it doesnt get done. Not only is he doing this for me to help out..but for the cleanliness of the aparment. I dont mind doing things like this for him to take care of him...he takes care of me well otherwise...its just frustrating to do all the household duties and and clean up after him as well. How can i get my boyfriend ..cont..

2007-01-10 10:43:28 · 3 answers · asked by magickitty0621 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

Im very independent, always have been,which has proved a problem in relationships,would like to find someone that can be manly but not a control freak,I dont need looking after,I dont want looking after...why do men seem to think that a women on her own with a child needs taking control of,please tell me all men are not like it?

2007-01-10 10:43:17 · 10 answers · asked by 1 2 in Singles & Dating

I met my husband when my duaghter was 9 months old and he is the only person that she know as her father, for personal reasons he does not want to adopt her to give her his name but she is 17 years old know and wants to hypenate our names

2007-01-10 10:42:53 · 3 answers · asked by DEANANATOR 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband of 4.5 years has a girlfriend. I found out about her in late September. We have a 20 month old son. I know he is in love with his girlfriend, and we are getting ready to file for divorce, but everytime he comes through town(he is a truck driver long haul), he comes over, and we do all our family things, including sex. He's told me he isn't in love with me, that he wants to marry her(she will be his fourth wife) and yet he stilld oes this. PArt of it I think is to get back at her, because she is married and hasn't left her husband like he left me. How do I say no, so that I can move on? I know that sounds like a stupid question, but its so hard, as I love him so much, and miss my family, and am reminded of what I lost, and what I could have had, everytime he comes home. He also tells me that he loves me everytime we talk. He also uses me as his confidant when he is having problems with his girlfriend. He actually asks my advise on what he should do.

2007-01-10 10:42:24 · 33 answers · asked by jiltediwfe 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Plz be honest but not pervy. Thx.

2007-01-10 10:42:14 · 23 answers · asked by prtty_patricia 2 in Singles & Dating

aperently he asked her out a year ago and she said no but she says she made a mistake and really likes him thats all she ever talks about and i want to give her some advice but i have none any ideas on what she can do because im tired of talking about him all the time!

2007-01-10 10:41:30 · 1 answers · asked by hockeylova#1 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

My girlfriend and I have recently been sending each other extremely naughty texts back and forth ... I guess you can call it phone text messaging. Lol

1. Is this healthy or good for a relationship? We both enjoy it very much.

2. Is it immature? Weird? Or Hurtful in any way? Thanks!

2007-01-10 10:40:47 · 10 answers · asked by Bobby_Bomberman 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay me and this guy have been goin out for awhile, We started out friends but then we just started to get attracted to one another so one day we were talking on the phone and he asked me out. And i said yes. So ever since we have not been apart he is all i ever thinnk about. LIke today when i didnt have a jacket he gave his jakcet to me while it was snowing do u think this can be the real deal? As in a keeper?

2007-01-10 10:40:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So I just broke up w/ my girlfriend a couple days ago. I started talking to this girl I just met for the past few days but I dont really know her. Whats an easy way to ask her to go grab a movie or something friday w/o looking like a jack@ss?

2007-01-10 10:40:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok this boy that i like is cute and i don't no if he likes me or not please help me i'm sad

2007-01-10 10:39:50 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

This guy and I have known each other for about 4 years, and I have mixed feelings. I am flattered by the fact that he asks different people about me or talks about me. When he is with my other friend he always asks the other friend to ask me something. I know it isnt what he is talking about, it is the fact that he makes effort to speak to or about me. So those are the good things, some of the bad things include gossip and basic immature behavior. He is best friends with my cousin and my cousin, or family would never approve. I am not worried about that, I want to know how to rock his world, if just once, I have got to approach him ( how?) and seduce him ( how?)

Help !

2007-01-10 10:39:25 · 2 answers · asked by Miss Green 2 in Singles & Dating

My cousins (I have tons and most are married and have kids) and I grew up seeing each other a lot and now that everyone has their own lives keeping them busy, we only get together at weddings or funerals. Sad. I saw a lot of my family on Christmas Eve and many lamented how we need to get together more often. Sooooo, I'm taking it upon myself to organize the first "family party" at my house. It'd be about 25 adults and 15 kids (ranging in age from 1 yr to 18 yrs) and I'd like to have everyone either bring a side dish or dessert to share but we still have to provide the main entree, drinks, utensils, and I was thinking of hiring someone to provide kids' entertainment for a couple of hours. I was thinking of asking for donations (not making it mandatory) of $5 per person over age 10 and that I'd have a jar placed in the house where everyone could donate anonymously to avoid awkwardness. What do you think?

2007-01-10 10:38:58 · 6 answers · asked by chnchita 4 in Family

Why then do women not get to the same? only it would be spread their eggs?In nature the female gets pregnant and has offspring by different males (usually the strongest male).Just as males get many different females pregnant.So should both sexes get to be equally as slutty?

2007-01-10 10:38:38 · 24 answers · asked by Nicole S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My bf has left again and he told me i`d always have a place in his heart as i`m the mother of his child and he`ll always love me.why did he bother saying all this crap as it certainly doesn`t make me feel any better,he says i`m better off without him and he`ll always only cause me heartache,which i know is true as he`s also said he can`t channge his drinking.

I wish he`d just told me hated my guts and never wanted to see me again.why bother to spare my feelings he never has b4??

2007-01-10 10:38:21 · 16 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Marriage & Divorce

One of my best friends (almost a brother) ended up hooking up and starting a relationship with the girl he knew I was pursuing (she knew that i liked her too btw and claimed that she liked me to and we were on the verge of starting a romantic relationship when this happened). They told me, but wanted to know if I would still hang out with them. This caused a lot of drama among my circle of friends, with people taking sides. After much thought based on the good times that we had and this new incident, I TOLD THEM NO. My main basis for the decision was, that if they betrayed my trust, what would keep them from betraying me in other areas. I have forgiven them and accepted what they did, but i want nothing to do with them and thus ended the friendship.

Would you have kept the friendship open (with both of them) or done what I did and ended it?

2007-01-10 10:37:55 · 24 answers · asked by tkd1master 2 in Friends

I think the whole personality, thing and senserity thing is all just bullshit? I want to know what a guy really wants in a girl, before he starts thinking about her personality. What is your type? What do guys really look for? BE HONEST. if there were 2 beautiful girls in the room, one black and one white which would u ask out. What are you preferences in color? Do u go for wild or calm girls? what about looks? I really want to know!

2007-01-10 10:37:40 · 11 answers · asked by the_chick 2 in Singles & Dating

I 1st noticed him when I saw him w/ his friend checkin me out. I was also w/ my friend Doris toatally blowing him off like "Go ahead look, I know I'm hot but u can't have it." Awhile afterwards when I saw him I started noticing how super cute he was and so like now I am going all bajiggity(lol) over him. He stands across the cafeteria every other day from me and always looks at me and smiles, silently say hi or what's up, or he simply looks at me while talking to his friends. I do the same. When I 'm sitting w/ my friends. I'll glance over and wow what do ya know he's lookin back at me so I smile and so does he. It's kinda like we'r talking to eachother w/ our eyes. My friends have also noticed how much he checks me out. But when we get near eachother or have a chance to talk he does that thing were guys start acting stupid n kinda immature. Like one day he knocked skittles out of my hand and i got mad and he did a playful laugh. hahaha not funy I was gonna eat those.

2007-01-10 10:36:44 · 8 answers · asked by coco_chic 1 in Singles & Dating

im nice to people very sexy and genius smart so why dont i have a bestfriend why is it so hard to get one. i would settle for a online bestfriend but i dont even have that what should i do

2007-01-10 10:36:03 · 5 answers · asked by ki-ki 3 in Friends

I want my ex girlfriend back. But it seems hopeless. She wont talk to me, and I havent talked to her in 3-4months, but I miss her. Last times we talked we had horrible arguments and insulted eachother. Now she seems to have mooved on, and wants nothing to do with me. Does anyone have any tips on what to do?

2007-01-10 10:34:23 · 4 answers · asked by andre_heggli 1 in Singles & Dating