Family & Relationships - 30 November 2006

I'm 5 months pregnant and have been hearing from many people that my boyfriend is cheating on me. I know who they think he is cheating with and have point blank asked him about it. He says there is nothing going on and that I'm being paranoid. I just had a gut feeling that he was lying so I checked his e-mail to see if there was anything there. I found some topless pics of the woman that she had sent him. I know that I was wrong to snoop through his e-mail and feel horrible about it. I have never done anything like that before. Now I don't know what to do. I want to come clean and tell him what I've done and after what I saw I know that I should probably end the relationship. I just don't know what to do though cause of the baby. I love him to death but I know that without trust a relationship will never work. I could justify my snooping by what I found but I know it's still not right. What should I do now??

2006-11-30 15:35:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok i want to give me girlfriend roses with a gift and was wondering if the color of them mean anything like red for blah blah and white for blah blah cause i dont want her to get the wrong idea if like i give her a white rose and it means like death or whatever lol so please help!

2006-11-30 15:34:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm posting this on behalf of a friend who desperately needs help.
Well he is a reasonably good-looking guy with a good sense of humour, but he is still single. He has lot of friends who are girls and somehow he always tend to become their best friends, someone they tell all their secrets, fantasies, and crushes to. No, he is not gay and don't look like one.
It has happened a lot of times that these girls have fallen for all kinds of Tom-Dick-Harry, but not me, they will fall for his bestfriends, but not him. Even after they come to know that he liked them they continue their friendship with him, their boyfriends feel sorry for him and never seem to mind when these girls hang-out with him more than they do with them! He has been in love thrice now(He is 24), and all the times the girl he liked fell for his best friends. This leaves him hurt and depressed, and he is going crazy thinking about it. I don't understand that despite being so likeable and respect why he is still single?

2006-11-30 15:34:22 · 11 answers · asked by prashantpachauri 2 in Singles & Dating

Met this girl working on a community event. after the setup we went out to eat - not a full on date but felt like it and we had a blast.
few days later she came to a party i was having, once again TOTAL BLAST. as i was walking her to her car i asked her out to which she was into. went on the date last night....
Which had to be the best date ive ever been on with someone ive just met.
i walked her to the door she went in leaving the door open for me to follow.
i did.. DUH!!!!!!!!!
we talked on her couch for hours talking, laughing and making out, etc.
question is..... i happened to notice she still has her ring on.
while she IS seperated and tech still married.... wondering what i should take from that if anything.
i asked her out to a christmas party next sat which i got a yes to.
any thoughts, suggestions, personal experience........?

2006-11-30 15:33:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

hmmm???

2006-11-30 15:33:13 · 31 answers · asked by bosstastic<3 3 in Singles & Dating

If you have made a conscious decision to never again marry, but your total soulmate of the past nine years has decided that she needs that legal piece of paper to be fulfilled, what would you do? She's honestly the best woman I've ever known-I would feel lost without her, but it's beginning to feel like an ultimatum! My decision to not marry is non-negotiable, because after a failed marriage, I am completely against the concept for many reasons. And she has known this! But if I lost her, I would be heartbroken! Why is that piece of paper so important to some women?!

2006-11-30 15:32:43 · 22 answers · asked by Rebooted 5 in Marriage & Divorce

so i have been ith my boyfriend for 1.5 years. he is the love of my life. we have broken up several times cuz of my jealousy. i believe ive kicked the habit. i even back home to visit his parents this summer. he broke up up with me again and this time i think its for good. he said in the last couple months he never loved me, and wanted to take things slow purposely. he gets very angry and says he never wants to see me again but then later apologizes for what he says. a month ago, we booked an xmas holiday together for 3 weeks. we were shaky, but he thought things were good and so we booked it. now he doesnt even know if he can be friends.he once told me that i was the love of his life and that is the reason why he kept trying to give it so many chances.but now, its like he is strong and is ready to date other people. im absolutely crushed.i keep thinking that this holiday will recreate a spark but he told me i have to realize that there is no longer a we.i dont know what to do.advice?

2006-11-30 15:32:21 · 2 answers · asked by krushed 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend has been very unreliable, but lately it's been much worse than usual. It's now starting to cause problems in our relationship and is hurting my trust for him. I don't understand why it's so hard for him to follow through with what he says he's going to do. I've already talked to him a million times about this; we've even gotten into 3 or 4 arguments. What can I do to show him how it's affecting our relationship, and what can I do to help him change this?

2006-11-30 15:31:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

LIKE HOW WE KNOW THAT ITS LOVE NOT FASCINATION

2006-11-30 15:31:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

It's not urgent. I want to thank-you for setting this up first of
all. I really like this guy. I want to know if he likes me too, becuase I
have kinda got evidense.

He is really cute. He's got an emmo look going. We never talk to
eachother. I have heard him talking about his hair once around me, then
he stopped when my friends and I went away. I always catch him looking
at me. We do the eye-contact thing alot, but I always turn away after 5
secounds. He's not emmo he just wears dark cloths and his hair is long.
He doesn't cut himself. He got into trouble during PE today because he
didn't do an exercise. He had to sit out for the rest of the period. I
caught him looking at me tons of times and we made eyecontact, I don't
know if he looks away as well, I am normaly the first to.

I really like him, it's not an obsesion though. I knida want it to
go away, but I want to be his freind. I don't want to rush into dating
too soon. I have never dated and I am as my friends say a kiss-vergin. I
have never kissed anyone other than reletives. I have never gone out, I
am not poular and I have had multiple people like me. I have turned
them all down though. It seems that the people I like never like me back
but I thing this one might.

Could you tell me if he likes me or tell me how to get his
attention? I am too afriad to talk to him, the first time I saw him he was
looking at me. I became curious, and then pulled in. I am friends with his
friend. She is a good friend but she knows I like him. And her friends
knows. She keeps giving him clues and I think he may think I like him.
She teases me about it but other than that she is a great friend.

He is in 7th grade, I am in 8th. His friend told me that it's a big
problem and it will never work out. We see eachother in Pe and
inbetween two classes. Once I saw him going in circles around the spot where I
pass. He has his friend look behind him when I am around. He never
talkes around me, as do I. I have one friends that is in 8th grade, she is
really the only one I talk to when he is around. Once when he was
behind us, his friends said "hi dan!" and I turned and looked at him. He was
smiling but then we made eye contact and his smile went away but he
didn't go away. All the info is what I have gathered up in the last 3
months. I am wayyyyyyyyyyy too nervous to talk to him. Could you plz help
me? Some tips maybe? Thanx!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-11-30 15:31:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm in a play right now, and I have a crush on one of my castmates. When he talks, he's one of the funniest guys I know. He's also intelligent, attractive, and by all accounts a great actor. The problem is when he doesn't talk. Sometimes when the cast gets together, he keeps his head down and doesn't say much.

My question is, how do you ask a shy guy out? Do you wait for him to make the first move? I don't want to scare him by admitting my feelings. What do I do?

2006-11-30 15:31:06 · 6 answers · asked by frodosgirl15 3 in Singles & Dating

especially if you find out that you're not practically compatible in living with each other?

2006-11-30 15:31:00 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

When I got pregnant, (it wasn't planned) my brother-in-law and his g/f decided to get preg. on purpose so they could get the same attention that my husband and I were getting. My brother-in-law is always asking his mom to help pay his bills but when she gives my husband and I money he gets all mad and says "they don't need help, you should have given me the money." etc.,etc.

2006-11-30 15:30:16 · 14 answers · asked by markettab1985 2 in Family

I need to buy a gift for my best friend because i know she is buying me something. She said she was having trouble thinking of gifts, but knows exactly what to get me. What is a good gift from a guy to the girl who has everything?
What i am really looking for is something girls want that they would never buy themselves.

2006-11-30 15:29:23 · 12 answers · asked by bkeisel99 1 in Friends

He goes out every day of the week. Mostly nightime only. I will call him & sometimes he answers & others he doesn't. I found out that when he doesn't answer is when he's at the dance. Which he denies. If I call him too much then he will hang up on me or just not answer the phone. He sleeps alot on the living room couch. On the weekends he goes out at Friday or Saturday at maybe 6PM & does not come back till the next day @ like 2,3, or 4PM. I am so tired of all this. I have tried to talk to him. I have asked him why & he doesn't want to talk & why he goes out so much, he just gets mad & leaves again. He is always telling me CLEAN THE HOUSE, do this or do that. I have told him that we have 4 kids & the house can not be spottless 24/7. I work full time & sell AVON also. He never wants to help me clean. I had made dinner in the oven the other day & he said that he didn't want to eat sh** from the oven. So what do you think? Should I try to go to the dance & confont him if he's with someone

2006-11-30 15:29:06 · 11 answers · asked by tigrababy2000 2 in Singles & Dating

Pantyhose makes my legs look really smooth & silky & it drives my guy nutts. Other men always stare at my legs in pantyhose also. I even wear them durong sex- just cut out ahole in the
crotch . Any other women out there wear them alot?
I notice these girls at Hooters always wear them & guys love it !
I tease the men at work by slipping my pantyhose feet out of my shoes & they get all crazy- I just tease that's it.
Any other women out there tease guys with your stocking legs.
You should check out this website- there is this girl
called Sweet in pantyhose-& she supposedly wears them
24/7. What do you guys think of nylon covered legs vs bare
legs- does it get your engine running ???

2006-11-30 15:28:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my first boyfriend was in 5th grade and im still love him and i cant get over him i know im only 15 but i love him ALOTTT....why is that?

2006-11-30 15:28:09 · 13 answers · asked by **love_is_hard_2_find** 1 in Singles & Dating

there is this boy i like at my skool but he never tlks 2 me. he knows me but we jus dont tlk at least at skool & every girl likes him. my friends say tht they think he likes me and that we'd be a cute couple. what should i do?

2006-11-30 15:28:03 · 4 answers · asked by *~Choco~* 1 in Singles & Dating

I don't know if this is a modern trend or just poor taste. I thought invitations usually said you could bring a guest ( of your choice). not a date.The groom's mother said that you could bring someone if you were in a longterm relationship but not just a friend.Let me just clarify that the groom's mother said that it was to keep costs down but how does it cost less to have a male and female come versus two females who are just friends (and currently not dating anyone).

2006-11-30 15:27:21 · 17 answers · asked by gussie 7 in Weddings

I like asian men and would like to know if there is a website that's FREE. to meet asian men who likes black, latina or mix women.
I have seriously dated asian men before. We were together for two years my last relationship

2006-11-30 15:27:16 · 5 answers · asked by mcha212 1 in Singles & Dating

what do you do when your so used to being w/ someone and when your not w/ someone you hve your friends becuase they were ushally single. ok let me back up my friends and i ushually have boyfriends at the same time and are single at the same time. AND I BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRINED IN SEPTEMBER AFTER THAT MY FRIENDS HAD COMPLEATLY CHANGED ONE WAS ACTING MORE MATURE, IN THE WAY SHE WASNT BEING AS SUPPORTIVE. I FINALLY GOT OVER MY EX AND I HAVE FEELINGS FOR A NEW GUY AND SHES BEING COMPLEATLY NEGATIVE AND IT HURTS SINCE I FEEL LIKE MY 2 BEST FRIENDS HAVE CHANGED AND WERE NOT AS CONNECTED AS BEFORE.

2006-11-30 15:27:06 · 7 answers · asked by shygirl1124 2 in Singles & Dating

I have been seeing this guy for almost 3 months now and things started off slowly but good, suddenly he called less often like just once a week. Then 2 weeks ago he said he´d call me so we could go out but he didn´t so I emailed him and told him that I would have liked to get to know him better but that i guess he wasn´t interested, it was a sweet funny mail. The next day he called me and since I didn´t answer he emailed me and gave me a fair excuse and that he wnated me to give him the chance to show me he was interested in going out with me and he invited me to lunch the next day. The date went fine and we spent the day tougether but now it´s been 12 days and he hasn´t called me so I´m confused!!!! His email was really sweet but now he stopped calling me. What should I do I don´t want to call him!

2006-11-30 15:25:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I found out my husband sent a message to my best friend on myspace that said "If me and (my wife) ever got seperated would I have a chance with you?". When I confronted him about it he said that he didn't really mean anything by it and I have nothing to worry about cause he isn't going anywhere and he loves me. I was really hurt by this cause it makes me feel like in the back of his mind there is a chance we might not be together forever. It also made me feel like I am not good enough for him and he has found someone who he likes and is attracted too. He says that I am overacting and that i need to quit bringing it up (it happened a month ago) but I feel like I was wronged. Should I just forgive and forget or am I right for taking out my fustration on him?

2006-11-30 15:25:49 · 24 answers · asked by *ilovemybabyface* 2 in Marriage & Divorce

okay so heres my situation, i have known this girl for years now (im a senior in high school) and ever since we met we have always had chemistry together, were always flirting back and forth with each other and can always talk about anything. during sopmore year, i was about to ask her out, but never made a move and she went off with another guy, now during our senior year.. were startinhg to flirt again ( she stil has a bf) such as shes always in my face when were talking, always calling out my name when she sees me in the halls, and everytime she sees me she runs up and initiates the conversation, she makes the extra effort to walk with me in the direction that i go and whenever we hang out (in groups) she always texts me after asking me if i had a good time. also her feet always point towards me when we talk and other things. now heres my question... shes still with her bf and im inlove with her... what do i do?

2006-11-30 15:25:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

she left me three times,came back twice,if she tries to return should i give it another try,i've been with her for 7 years and i do love her

2006-11-30 15:25:00 · 6 answers · asked by Bwk 2 in Singles & Dating

How about,you see your Doctor,and he tells you,you me have six Months,what would you do?

2006-11-30 15:24:38 · 22 answers · asked by karl s 3 in Friends

Ok, so there is this guy. He is a huge flirt, and he liked me. Now we like never see each other anymore but I still like him alot. He is really outgoing and I am really shy, and whenever he sees me he comes up and gives me a hug. But thats usually in between classes, so its not like we really get to talk. I can't call him, because I would get way to nervous and wouldn't know what to say. [And he is really hott, which makes it even harder for me to talk to him. And very popular] Any ideas to renew our friendship? Or any tips to remind him why he did like me and to get him to like me again?

2006-11-30 15:24:35 · 1 answers · asked by Liz♥ 4 in Singles & Dating

This person I have been involved with a yr and half does not wont to accept my gift i bought for him. This friend is someone I have relations with once in a while. We arre just sex partners. I'am a married woman and he just recently is dating someone. I did buy him a gift something that would be only for us to know what the meaning is. I dont understand why he does not want it. He said he thanks but he cant not accept my gift . Why?

2006-11-30 15:24:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Once a cheater always a cheater?? I dated a guy for a little over a year he has asked me to marry him, my problem, he cheated on me a month or two after we became serious, how can I trust that he will not stray again? This was over 6 months ago, can a leapord change his spots? He said he learned a valuable lesson and never wants to lose me, he said I was his best friend and it hurt him to hurt me...hmmm?

2006-11-30 15:24:26 · 6 answers · asked by iluvpersians2 1 in Singles & Dating

My husbands brothers wife (my sister in law I guess) Has been one of the MOST annoying people I have ever met! Ever since the first day I met her she always got on my nerves for MANY reasons. She is lazy...she hasn't been working for 4 years now because she had a baby 4 years ago which is no excuse. I feel really bad for my brother in law (my husbands brother) because he works so hard and even does over time just to support her and their kid. She doesn't have any friends so she basically stays home and does nothing, she doesn't even clean the house and it's a MESS. She goes shopping every weekend buying herself clothes and NEVER thinks of her daughter. Multiple times I have gone out with them and it's ME who ends up taking care of their daughter...

2006-11-30 15:24:17 · 3 answers · asked by Keona 2 in Family