When I got pregnant, (it wasn't planned) my brother-in-law and his g/f decided to get preg. on purpose so they could get the same attention that my husband and I were getting. My brother-in-law is always asking his mom to help pay his bills but when she gives my husband and I money he gets all mad and says "they don't need help, you should have given me the money." etc.,etc.
2006-11-30 15:30:16 · 14 answers · asked by markettab1985 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think all siblings are in constant competition, even on a subconcious level. Although it may not be pleasant at times or may even cause large problems, I think jealousy is a natural part of life. At times, I think it sparks a fire in all of us to be motivated in certain aspects of life. Like most touchy feelings, I think jealousy is ok if it is handles correctly.
2006-11-30 15:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is acceptable. Especially with a baby on the way. He is going to set a bad example. It could be their parents faults though. If they always gave you B-I-N the attention, then of course he will get jealous when he's not the one getting all of the attention. Just try not to act bothered by this. Hopefully he will grow up.
2006-11-30 15:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by r_finewood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's absolutely ridiculous. I have in laws who have issues with me being pregnant because my husband has cerebral palsy and isn't supposed to be able to tolerate the stress of life as well as they can - because they have always thought themselves to be much better than him since they don't have a disability - such hogwash and pride. His brother has 2 kids and we're having 3 so - no they are talking adoption - because they have so much more money than we do - how can we handle more kids than they have? It's so ridiculous - all about control and trying to get us to live according to what they want - such nonsense. Why can't they be just happy for us like our friends are? They are relatives for crying in the sink - they are supposed to love us MORE right? Not be irritating, jealous, prideful and cruel. But that's what I've gotten from my in laws. I love them but it's like - come on people! Your in laws parents have the right to do whatever they please with their money - it's not up to siblings to have issues with the choices their parents make!
2006-11-30 15:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course its ok to be jealous of people in your family. My entire family is normally tall, like the men are always around 6'2-6'4, and my older brother turned out at 6'9, while i was JUST 6'4. He was amazing at every sport he ever played. And because of that, my entire family payed all the attention on him. Im here with nothing. Is ok to be jealous.
2006-11-30 15:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it okay...but I have family members that do that kind of silly crap too. We ignore them as much as possible. Its just how they show everyone that they are insecure and still have some SERIOUS growing up to do.
So far neither of them has done any growing up so....plan on this kind of crap for a long time. Sorry to be your downer but thats the long and short of it for most people.
2006-11-30 15:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by Loli M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a step-sister and brother that have 2 children each and both of them did the same thing to each other- one one time, the other the next....lol
it's a competition thing to some people i think and an attention getter. gotta love it !
2006-11-30 16:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by answers4questions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certainly not ,,, whenn yor brot. in law doesnt find himself capable of paying bill .. at some one has to pay .. it may be etither u or yor mother ... but try out that issues dont arrise .. u may give some money in advance to yor mother so that yor brother may not feel that u r paying for him... if he is coolll he will understand it later .. Afterall u are elder than him and it is your responsibility to keep the family intact and lovig
2006-11-30 15:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by amit m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy is a basic human emotion
it is in our nature to be jealous so yes it is perfectly fine to be jealous
but it is wrong to act on jealously and do something inmoral
2006-11-30 15:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think its not healthy and not right but why don't you try talking to them and maybe you guys can get along but at times its better not to say anything and just try to ignore them
good luck :)-
2006-11-30 15:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAPPENS ALL THE TIME!! Sorry to say! even in the movies.
2006-11-30 15:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋