Annoying sister in law...how should I handle this?

Question

My husbands brothers wife (my sister in law I guess) Has been one of the MOST annoying people I have ever met! Ever since the first day I met her she always got on my nerves for MANY reasons. She is lazy...she hasn't been working for 4 years now because she had a baby 4 years ago which is no excuse. I feel really bad for my brother in law (my husbands brother) because he works so hard and even does over time just to support her and their kid. She doesn't have any friends so she basically stays home and does nothing, she doesn't even clean the house and it's a MESS. She goes shopping every weekend buying herself clothes and NEVER thinks of her daughter. Multiple times I have gone out with them and it's ME who ends up taking care of their daughter...

she doesn't even feed her or give her water and shes only 2 years old. Another thing she does is copy me all the time...with ANYTHING...Like my hair styles my clothing etc. She even trys to compete with me trying to win the love of our mother in law and has also told me many times that she is jealous of me. She complains when our mother in law buys me something and doesn't buy her the same exact thing. She also talks so bad about my husbands family but expects SO much from them. What should I do?? I just can't handle having her around anymore and she ALWAYS bothers ME!!

I forgot to add...I'm 15 weeks pregnant and now I guess she is jealous so she is "TRYING" to get pregnant again when she can't take care of one kid as it is! I really think maybe she needs mental help? I'm not to sure.

Answer 1

I think it's all up to your husbands brother to smell the coffee
and open up his eyes. The ***** sounds like she is taking advantage of him. When she could be working her *** to help
support the children as well. You said she had their child 4 yr.s
ago there no excuse why her lazy *** can't go back to work.
When of these day's your husband and his brother should get
together and have a man to man talk, hopefully he can knock
some scene's into him. I just hope he doesn't get pissed off
at your husband, because some people take it the wrong until
they finally see the truth. I sure hope everything works out
for everyone. And as for her she needs to grow up and start taking care of her kids and help around the house. If she wants
to buy clothes then she needs to work for it and not to forget
that she has children as well. Feed the children before she feeds
herself. She sounds Selfish!!

Answer 2

Dear Keona, I can see how this would really be irritating, but maybe you can turn the tables and try compassion towards your sister-in-law? You might find that it's less frustrating for you that way. Instead of letting your teeth be set on edge by her sloppy, negligent, and lazy ways, you might practice gratitude, and be really thankful that you and your husband are responsible adults who don't have these issues. I found it rather sad, actually, that she copies you -- it's a sign that she wishes she could be like you but she can't, in spite of herself. And since she is friendless, you could try being her friend. You don't have to condone or accept her lifestyle, but just be friendly and polite -- you'll gain a berth in Heaven for your kindness! Lots of luck and best wishes.

Answer 3

You can report her to Child Protective Services if the child is not receiving adequate and appropriate care. number should be in government section of phone book. Good Luck! Prayers for the child and for you for caring.