Once a cheater always a cheater?? I dated a guy for a little over a year he has asked me to marry him, my problem, he cheated on me a month or two after we became serious, how can I trust that he will not stray again? This was over 6 months ago, can a leapord change his spots? He said he learned a valuable lesson and never wants to lose me, he said I was his best friend and it hurt him to hurt me...hmmm?
2006-11-30 15:24:26 · 6 answers · asked by iluvpersians2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
marriage? marriage? marriage? well you get my point. If you're about to get married to someone who just cheated on you earlier in the relationship then you need to get your head checked! Second chances are good, but make sure you know what you're doing before you tie the knot.
2006-11-30 15:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by D-Will 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r the only one who can know if u should trust him or not.
i will like to help you but i don't him for me to say (oh u can trust him b/c he is a great guy or i known him for a while and i think u should trust him)
u r the only one who can tell.
let be honest, some guys u can trust and some u can't trust.
SOME MAY SAY ONCE A CHEATER WILL AWAYS BE A CHEATER.
my bf for 5 years cheated on me and i tried to let it go and stay in the relationship 4 the hell of it, just going with the flow, while i was still in the relationship, 2 to 3 months later after he cheated, i knew who he really was and who he will aways be.
so i broke it off b/c after the cheating i knew i couldn't trust him but he didn't show that anything so i could trust him.
i let nature took care of it, and when the time came i walk away like anything happen.
ACTION SPEAK LOUDER.
i hope i would help
2006-11-30 23:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to go online to ask complete strangers for advice, this guy is obviously not the one for you. You have enough doubt in your heart...that shows that it's not right. My mom's college psychology professor cheated on his wife with her. He ended up divorcing his wife, marrying her and they had my (half) brother. Then he cheated on her and she left him and eventually married my dad. She said she should have known better because he cheated with her and had cheated before her. Yes, once a cheater always a cheater. Plus, I don't think you love this guy anyway because you're asking complete strangers online and you don't trust him not to cheat...there is no love without trust...sorry for the cliche, but it's true. Good luck.
2006-11-30 23:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that he has change..everyone deserves a second chance sweet. Why dont you sit down with him, tell him that you love him (im sure you do), but you have a worry about what happened before and you are not sure. You were hurt ( might still be) & you dont really know how to go through this..and maybe..you need more time to think about what do YOU really want..
Guy doesnt propose easily unless he is sure that he loves you, you are his soulmate & yes..he doesnt want to lose you.
One thing that might help is..maybe you both can go to see a good counselor about this issue. It can really help to figure out if you are ready to be with him for the rest of your life. Good luck sweetheart..
2006-11-30 23:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone deserve a second chance.myb he has change now.ask yourself about this.do u believe him or not??to start a serious relationship,'trust' is really needed to make the relation work out.
good luck.
2006-11-30 23:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by i^am^me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cheated on you once and you are worried that he might do it again then why are you still with him?
2006-11-30 23:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋