how can I right a wrong?

Question

I'm 5 months pregnant and have been hearing from many people that my boyfriend is cheating on me. I know who they think he is cheating with and have point blank asked him about it. He says there is nothing going on and that I'm being paranoid. I just had a gut feeling that he was lying so I checked his e-mail to see if there was anything there. I found some topless pics of the woman that she had sent him. I know that I was wrong to snoop through his e-mail and feel horrible about it. I have never done anything like that before. Now I don't know what to do. I want to come clean and tell him what I've done and after what I saw I know that I should probably end the relationship. I just don't know what to do though cause of the baby. I love him to death but I know that without trust a relationship will never work. I could justify my snooping by what I found but I know it's still not right. What should I do now??

Answer 1

OK soooooooo where do I start my hubby and I have been together for 8 years married for 4 and when I was 6 months preg with our third child...I had the same feeling now I did some snooping and found out that I was right...You do just know I say follow your gut...now what I consider cheating is having any type of relationship with someone of the opp sex where you feel you need to hide it for any reason from your sig other...if you are friends then you should be able to say you are and if you can not then there is something wrong ... Now with the naked pics is it someone you know? Or just him? I say print the pics out and ask him what he knows about them. Follow his lead and your heart ........a single mom has so many options now it is not that bad...it is as good or as bad as you want to make it....but if you do want to say with him you are gonna have to fess up your sneakin as well as he needs to fess up to his wrong doings relationships are based on trust with out it there is no relationship.

Answer 2

Sweetie why are u feeling bad for snooping? U needed to know this and if anyone should be feeling bad it should be him. I mean u carrying his child and he has email's of a topless woman. He should be perparing his self to be a dad, No don't say anything until u have enough to go on and also see if he will tell the truth. He's wrong and it's not fair that he should do this to u and the baby.


I hope things work out but don't get ue self worked out honey, keep ur self sane for the baby.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Its obvious that there is NO stage of pregancy where this level of stress is good for you or your baby. Love can affect our system just like any other addiction. We crave it, even when its damaging. I really think that you should spend more time with you and your child. Find a way to either temporary remove yourself from the stress. You need to resolve in your mind that he has cheated. Your email discovery 'felony as it may be' is not something you should be sorry for. You were brought to this place, you didn't ask to be here.

However, PROTECT the baby and handle this situation as calmly as you can muster. You are not only just eating for two, but your mental state during this time is also shared by this child as well.

- Be safe, and make good choices, but you must act.

Answer 4

You asked him if he is cheating on you with this woman, he said no. You found pics of same woman who is possibly making it with your man in your mans email after snooping.
And you think you did something wrong???? GIRL, Please!!! If you snooped and found nothing and all was a lie then yea, I would say feel bad but you DID find something. You shouldn't feel bad. You need to ask him WHY ARE YOU CHEATING ON ME AND YOUR CHILD WITH THAT PERSON? Don't worry about what you did until he can justify what he has. Not even saying he was cheating. BUT Why he got her naked butt in his email?

Answer 5

I hate to say this to you at a time like this, but reading other people's mail is a felon, even if it is your boyfriend.

Try telling him you know that he is lying, but it would seriously jeapordize your relationship. There is a very good chance it could fail, and he could turn you in.

If he is cheating on you, there is really no point dating him, but you are in a predicament. My advice: tell him what you did, apologize, tell him how much you love him and need him in your life, add anything that will make him love you even more.

I wish you luck.

Answer 6

If you had been wrong in your suspicions, he wouldn't have said you were paranoid. Only guilty people say that.
I suppose it was wrong to snoop in his email, but it was more a breach of good manners than of ethics.
It certainly doesn't compare to his cheating on you.

Answer 7

having a baby without the father in the house is tough. living with a man that lies, cheats and intentionally hurts and betrays you is another. remember staying with this man with teach your baby the same behavior when it grows up. if you don't deserve better doesn' the baby deserve a future with out a pitiful example of a "man"?

Answer 8

your snooping at his e-mail is not the issue, whats the issue is his lying and cheating on you..don't feel guilty about it...you just want to know whats going on and to end all his lying to you.

Answer 9

It's difficult to right a wrong of any kind, of your own, but it can be done if the person who was wronged, is willling to let you right it and to forgive you. But to right a wrong that someone else did, is nearly impossible. Your best bet would be to dump the guy, for a better one- perhaps one before him or a new one.

Answer 10

If he's busy running off with this other woman and ignoring your own personal needs; THEN lying about it, it's apparent he could care less. He may argue and rant, go on about loving you but it's pure bull if he's going cheat on you. You may love him, but no one deserves that kind of treatment.