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Question

I'm posting this on behalf of a friend who desperately needs help.
Well he is a reasonably good-looking guy with a good sense of humour, but he is still single. He has lot of friends who are girls and somehow he always tend to become their best friends, someone they tell all their secrets, fantasies, and crushes to. No, he is not gay and don't look like one.
It has happened a lot of times that these girls have fallen for all kinds of Tom-Dick-Harry, but not me, they will fall for his bestfriends, but not him. Even after they come to know that he liked them they continue their friendship with him, their boyfriends feel sorry for him and never seem to mind when these girls hang-out with him more than they do with them! He has been in love thrice now(He is 24), and all the times the girl he liked fell for his best friends. This leaves him hurt and depressed, and he is going crazy thinking about it. I don't understand that despite being so likeable and respect why he is still single?

He is my room-mate of 6yrs and one of the gals he really liked fell for me.. i feel a bit guilty, really need to help him out.

Answer 1

Well, since you slipped while typing this story (It has happened a lot of times that these girls have fallen for all kinds of Tom-Dick-Harry, but not me,) I can see that the guy you are talking about is in fact YOU. Maybe you just put out that friend vibe, stop being so friendly, let it be known when you like a woman, and ask her out before you fall into the "friend zone". Relax, don't try too hard, be yourself but make a move man! Girls like confidence, confidence is sexy, be confident and outspoken but not cocky! Have fun, I'm sure the right girl is gonna find you.

Answer 2

If his lady friends' boyfriends are not even worried that the ladies are with him, then without meaning too, he is sending signals that he IS just a guy to be friends with. He needs to take a completely objective look at himself to find out where his signals fail tolet a lady know of his romantic interest instead of staying friendly. Flirting is a learned thing...has he learned to flirt? He may have a thing about becoming too close to a lady, shyness, or it could be that while he may believe he has met the right lady....the right lady hasn't met him. A study released in the last month states that the average marriage age for men is 28 or 29 years. My dad married his first (and only) wife at age 45. Very likable and well known as an eligible bachelor, he met lots of ladies, some with "designs" on him, but the right lady ( my mother) hadn't moved to town, and when she did, no one else existed for him. He was smitten.

Answer 3

I have the same problem..but am female.

However, I was in a similar situation where a guy who I regarded as a "close friend", whom I told all of my secrets to, really liked me, and I ended up hurting him by liking other guys. In fact, he had many female friends. There was nothing wrong with him at all either..but I know that once one of his female friends starting dating another guy she felt conflicted about it, because he suddenly became "unattainable". Anyways, this guy that I am talking about seemed to enter "the friends" zone with women, and if he had been a bit less "accessible" so to speak, I'm sure more women would have chased after him...
Then again, your friend may have just not met the right person yet. He seems to be a nice guy and may have to wait for someone special for a meaningful relationship.

Answer 4

First of all don't be in such a hurry. Also if you treat a girl as a little sister ,she will be your little sister. Go some new places and meet some new people. If you find a girl you like, ask her out. Don't wait for another guy to sneak in and take her away. If you want a relationship, you have to develope it. Good Luck. By the way I'm Single and unattached.

Answer 5

There is nothing to do except find out what he is missing that the girls do this to him. Perhaps his communication with them is more friendly and such a nice guy in which most girls are not interested. He needs to get more serious with them in the manner that he shows affection that he likes and cares for them. Then when he is with his girl he should keep his male friends in the closet somewhere, meaning just him and his girl.

Answer 6

Because girls are stupid. They would rather date the bad boy and try to fix him than just find a nice guy who will be their friend and more and they dint have to change. How do I know? I was the nice guy more than once, who was friends with the girl but the girl would date and marry the jerk who slapped her around or controlled her every move and thought. How many girls marry guys in prison or communicate with them in hopes of "saving" them. These girls end up getting what they deserve, divorced and alone with kids because their "bad boy" husband ran off with some other bimbo because she was younger and cuter.

Answer 7

I accept as true with you. It is wrong. But there is rather not a lot you are able to do about it with out losing her as a buddy. Simply let her be aware of that you are there for her and inform her if she is indecisive then now's now not the first-rate time for intercourse. I feel it can be a stretch to have intercourse with a man even a month after figuring out him. Plus, let her know that she needs to be blanketed! STD's are powerful and scary to not point out the likelihood of a little one...

Answer 8

iwould have to say grow some balls i know being a SNAG sensative new age guy seems reasonable but sometimes its not so profitable gotta be a little brash sometimes and throw caution to the wind ask before they fall for the buddy don't be afraid to speek out a little rude lude crude whatever man toss it out there be a little macho ya know

these women are looking for a MAN

Answer 9

hi ,there is nothing wrong
there is wrong wth ur friends perception.
firstly i think 24 is nt the age to b worry abt that.he shudnt be so hypper abt that coz i think he is right now at the edge of tat age when he shud concentrate on his life ,his job,his standard if life.
no girl woud like to b the part of that guy who is nt financially so strong .
remember 1 thing no one cm to u if u r coming 2wards it,he shud ignore all girls&concentrate on his dressing & personality.girls will cm to him.dont u heard taht always two opposite poles attract each othert.good luck.

Answer 10

A think if he likes one of his friend's he should ask them out and not be so shy he sounds shy thats why i say this and he should tell his friends when he likes sumone and get them to set him up.