Family & Relationships - 20 November 2006

i dont like that about her....should i tell her i dont want to be friends?

2006-11-20 08:50:41 · 9 answers · asked by Maria; 2 in Friends

I'm from Norway, and here there isn't much talk about black and white, but often I'll see something TV or the net that gets me thinking. I find some black girls very attractive (I'm blue eyed, blonde btw), but I've noticed that there are a lot of prejudices, at least in the US, towards white boys and men (and vice versa). I've read that some black girls think white guys only want them for sex. I think that is very judgemental. Also, I once knew this black girl who dated a white boy who she used because he gave her things. I hear about how some black girls say all white men think black women are irresistible. Sounds like white people in general are seen as dull, non-sexual (or too sexual), hateful etc. So, I wonder what people here (black girls in particular) think about dating white boys. Personally, I fall for a girl who's cute, sweet, smart, funny. I've never looked down on black girls for being black. That's just stupid! I think personality is a huge part of the attraction.

2006-11-20 08:50:32 · 18 answers · asked by norse04 4 in Singles & Dating

I am a 40 yr old woman and I leave on my own, is it reallly a must for me to introduce my fiance to my father? My father travels in and out of the country and once in while stays in my apartment for a month or two, and when that happens, my fiance is hesitant to sleep over my place due to that situation.

2006-11-20 08:49:54 · 21 answers · asked by jinky l 1 in Weddings

i am 15 years old, and i have only gotten to second base. so keep it clean!

2006-11-20 08:49:29 · 13 answers · asked by Donivan 2 in Singles & Dating

2 15yr olds.... My crush came new to my school and he asked me to show him around so idid.... we ended flirting and getting to know each other a lil bit... i gave him my number one day and he started calling me often,, we ended up having phone sex like the 2nd time he called me and i asked him if he liked me and he said i havent really thought about it but yeah i do like u.... we went to a baseball game together...then all of a sudden he stopped calling me and didnt even say hi to me in homeroom.. which is the only class iam in with him... so like 4 weeks passed and he says hi to me and i said oh such a long time u havent talked.. and he said that hes like that... then after school we walked home together cause he lives 2 streets away from me... and we started flirting ...... then he wanted me to walk him to his house and i said yeah as long as u walk me to mine and he said sure... so after he dropped his stuff at his house he went and walked me home and he said theres 2 choice go to my house or your house and i said his house ... but then he was like... my mom is home.. so i said k lets go to my house... so we went online and he said what else u wanna do and i said kiss.. so he kissed my cheek and then he french kissed me while he did that we grabed each other .. then he wanted to take my pants off and i didnt let him,, he asked why and i said b/c i dont know u that well and also b/c i dont know if your going to ignore me like before.. he stayed quiet.... but we still french kissed.... like 7 times in total.. he was like iam so glad i dont have football practice anymore..... then he had to leave ... ..
i heard he has a gf in north carolina and i asked him before this occured and he said its his ex.. but her myspace shows that shes infatuated with him.. and his says hes single.. and before he left my house i said call me and 4 days has passed and he hasnt called me.......and before he told me he doesnt talk to girls on the phone........
so do u think he just wanted to play... or does he really like me??
iam confused.........
well today my friend whos a boy in homeroom said to me he is def. not a pimp by the way he talks to you and walks.... and also b/c he was staringt at me when i wasnt looking... he also says he might just be waiting for the right moment too tell me... u think that might be true?

2006-11-20 08:49:15 · 4 answers · asked by jenna c 1 in Friends

Quite often when my boyfriend and i go out he gets checked out by other women, and very often hit on the moment i walk off. So anyways I am a possesive person when it comes to the person i am with, but with these girls i never instigate a fight, or argument. I don't say anything rude to them or my boyfriend nor do i cling to my man to show her that he is taken.
My boyfriend said that it still bothers him some that he knows that even if i dont show it that it bothers me. Esp because i notice more of the women then he does (he can be oblivious).

Would it bother you men if you knew when women hit on you that your girlfriend was irked by it?
Oh and i never get upset at him, i just dont tend to like those women too much haha.

2006-11-20 08:49:05 · 13 answers · asked by attila 6 in Singles & Dating

My sons father broke up with me when i told him i was pregnant. We kept talking until the baby with false promises until the baby was 2 days old. i have not heard from him since. I made several attempts to contact him for the next few months. The father is not on the birth certificate because he would have had to be present at the hospital on that day. I have been going at this alone for 3 years now. im a 23 year old law student with childcare bills that are 600 a month, i make too much money for help but not enough to keep us afloat. Everyone keeps telling me i should get him for support. But is it worth the risk of having that worthless excuse for a man have influence over my son? Of course i am in new jersey now and my sons father is in california.

2006-11-20 08:48:38 · 35 answers · asked by trikkikitty 2 in Family

My boyfriend and I are very close and we've dated for 2 years now. He sometimes makes me feel afraid, though. I don't think he would EVER physically abuse me! However, he gets very angry sometimes and yells at me. He hates his job and he always takes his anger out at me after work. He yells about the condition of the house, if I'm talking to him too much...he basically runs in the next room and downloads stuff on his ipod all night. He doesn't like my hair straight or down....so when i wear it straight he won't look at me or talk to me. He hates certain clothes i have and he hides them so he will still find me attractive. he says that i only look good a certain way and sometimes i try to appease him because when i don't he won't look at me.
is this normal?

2006-11-20 08:47:56 · 18 answers · asked by O.K. 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-20 08:47:35 · 23 answers · asked by Cookie 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, my long lost soulmate who has been gone for 4 years suddenly reappears in my life. (Just when I was getting to the point that I could think of him and not cry.) Well, he calls and says, "Do you think you could handle it if we 'hooked up' without 'hooking up'?" Naturally I'm not gonna say no and miss out a chance to see him and be with him, so... We agree to a date. Here's where it starts to get confusing: 1st: he picks me up for the date (he never did that before) 2nd He chooses a place for us to spend the night that we spent a CONSIDERAL amount of time when we were together. 3rd He informs me of his upcoming vehicle purchase which is my favorite vehicle and just like one that we shared when we were together. 4th He has pre-registered at the hotel and has bought a couple of things for me that are just to say "I remember" 5th He has candles in the room already AND acts nothing like this is a 'booty call' but is rather affectionate and loving BUT its been 2 days & no call...WTF?!?

2006-11-20 08:47:17 · 7 answers · asked by greeneyedbich 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-20 08:46:24 · 31 answers · asked by countrygirl2467 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-11-20 08:46:11 · 26 answers · asked by moi 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-20 08:46:09 · 25 answers · asked by Luis T 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-20 08:45:52 · 4 answers · asked by Rawkus 3 in Friends

I am so freakng happy. I'm a legal professional and a few months ago, a second chair came in to help us on a case. Well, after some light flirting and numerous emails, we got all crazy about each other. I've been in love before but in my heart I knew it wouldn't last, my fiance passed away after a long-term illness. Well now I have a second chance and I'm not scared the only thing is he is 55, I'm 32, My father is 60 and my mother is 57. He and I are so happy, age doesn't even exist so is my concern just vapid and silly?

2006-11-20 08:45:20 · 7 answers · asked by FoxyFoxy, Kickass Drama Queen 5 in Singles & Dating

My brother's girlfriend is a real b***. She told me last year just before Christmas that my brother told her that we are not related, and that we just act like it on holidays. On Christmas I asked him and he denied it, which I believe him because we always get along. She also told my mother one year that we were going to get her a T.V. for Christmas, and asked her if it had to be a Sony because she saw one on sale for $100. When my brother and I decided already that we were gonna pay half each for the Sony one we already picked out. I really don't feel comfortable around her at all, but my mom wants to see her son and grandkids and also me and my family, but I don't want to go to Christmas, but we only get together on holidays. I have not seen or talked to her since last Christmas (the one that I ruined because i told my brother what she had said). We are going to be at my mom's very small one bedroom apartment,, what should I do to get through the day? And am I wrong?

2006-11-20 08:44:55 · 8 answers · asked by besitos2610 5 in Family

will any one of you guys would travel from your place to your friends place ( 30miles away), in order to take your female friends(not your girl friend) out for groceries,malls,movies, restaurants etc every other day because they don't have a car and you do, even though they are in a better financial position than you are and can easily afford a car ? Also, since you being the man and you took them out will you end up paying there bills ?

2006-11-20 08:44:54 · 10 answers · asked by shark 1 in Friends

if someone is chasing you, is there a chance that they do really like you and its not all about the chase?

2006-11-20 08:44:27 · 32 answers · asked by Becky 1 in Singles & Dating

Why do most guys like long hair on a woman?

2006-11-20 08:44:24 · 17 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Singles & Dating

Why is it that when a guy has lots of girls hes called a pimp. But when a girl has lots of guys shes called a ho or a slut?

2006-11-20 08:44:21 · 13 answers · asked by LJ 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok so me and my friend were getting of the bus and she said ever since you entered the sixth grade you have been acting like alexis (my other friend she is also black) so that made me mad. so if i tell her i dont want 2 be her friend anymore than she will like talk about me and we have been freinds since the last day of kindergarten. SHould i be her freind or should i not be her friend

2006-11-20 08:44:18 · 11 answers · asked by Breezy 2 in Friends

sometimes my boyfriend makes jokes about me being needy or clingy, and im sure they're just jokes. I did ask him if he really thought those things and he said 'not in the least'. I know that his ex was both of those things and is one of the reasons that they're not together anymore.
So anyways when he makes those jokes it makes me feel uncomfortable about asking for things, or getting close. I told him this and he said i shouldnt because he's just joking because i'm not like that at all so when i do ask for things it's almost surprising for him.

Telling him didn't help too much (he doesnt make the jokes as often now) but can you all think of anything i could DO to make them stop?

2006-11-20 08:44:16 · 9 answers · asked by attila 6 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-20 08:43:47 · 19 answers · asked by Greek Chick 2 in Singles & Dating

I use to (keyword use to) push and smack my boyfriend whenever he said something verbally abusive. He doesn't believe what he does is verbally abusive. Saying things like (Your no halle berry, your dumb)... Afterwhile I stopped because I know its wrong and learned how to control my anger and just ignore him when he runs his mouth. Now that we argue he thinks hes entitled to push,smack, and punch me. His excuse is I did it to him, or I deserve it. Im 120 pounds hes 200. He doesn't realize his strength and I don't have any, cuz my hits are like pinches. He rammed me into a wall once for pinching him. Saying well I hit him first. Whos right?

2006-11-20 08:43:19 · 59 answers · asked by KrisTina Marie 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

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2006-11-20 08:43:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Do you think my girlfriend would like
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it can be in Platinum or gold... Should I put it around the wrist of a teddy bear?
Also, what can I do when I am kissing my girlfriend to make it more enjoyable for her... She sorta sucks on my lips, and sometimes bites them...

2006-11-20 08:41:33 · 13 answers · asked by Zach S 5 in Singles & Dating

I'm a single mother of two - ages 14& 15. I've been cheating on my husband with 6 different guys over the past 12 years. I'm currently involved with a guy that I think is really smart and who is in love with me, but I'm honestly only having sex with him because I know he'll be leaving for a job in another state in the next few weeks and he's "safe" to fool around with. I feel a little bad because I started the relationship (he was a perfect gentleman until I seduced him). I want to leave my husband - but I've never been in love with anyone and I'm not in love with the current guy. What should I do?

2006-11-20 08:41:25 · 4 answers · asked by wraith 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-20 08:41:06 · 2 answers · asked by maskmanmikep@verizon.net 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-20 08:40:37 · 19 answers · asked by Simply Me . 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have come to the realization that my boyfriend watches porn relatively often, and this makes me uncomfortable in a lot of ways. Its not good for my self-esteem, and makes me feel I'm not good enough for him, even though he's reassured me over and over that I'm great, he loves me, and it has nothing to do with me... We have a good sex life, and he is a great guy otherwise, so its a tough position for me to be in, especially because we've been together over 5 years so I have a lot invested in this relationship. I was wondering if some people who have dealt with a similar situation could give me some advice. How do you "get over" him watching porn? How do you deal with it mentally and emotionally by not letting it bother you? How do you put up with it when you don't like it- personally or for society? I'm certainly not uptight or a prude, but I just don't get it, what's so great about porn??? Please, don't suggest I try to get him to watch it with me, because he doesn't want to!

2006-11-20 08:40:00 · 19 answers · asked by neverneverland 4 in Singles & Dating