My boyfriend and I are very close and we've dated for 2 years now. He sometimes makes me feel afraid, though. I don't think he would EVER physically abuse me! However, he gets very angry sometimes and yells at me. He hates his job and he always takes his anger out at me after work. He yells about the condition of the house, if I'm talking to him too much...he basically runs in the next room and downloads stuff on his ipod all night. He doesn't like my hair straight or down....so when i wear it straight he won't look at me or talk to me. He hates certain clothes i have and he hides them so he will still find me attractive. he says that i only look good a certain way and sometimes i try to appease him because when i don't he won't look at me.
is this normal?
2006-11-20 08:47:56 · 18 answers · asked by O.K. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not normal at all. It doesnt sound like he loves you for who you are. He loves you for who he wants to make you into. If you continue in this relationship then it will only get worse and he will get more controlling. You either need to get him to go to counseling or break it off and find a man that will love you no matter what outfit you wear or how your hair looks.
2006-11-20 08:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are very controlling behaviors. If these types of behaviors happen, you are already in a toxic relationship. You need to get out now--and prepare yourself for even worse behavior. If he becomes violent (which these behaviors often lead to) please get legal assistance. He doesn't love you--he is obsessed with you. Not the same things as love! Apologize to the people you have hurt and begin repariing those relationship. They obviously saw this way before you did. And that's usually what happens!
2016-05-22 01:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could be normal for him. If this is not the guy you originally got together with than no its not normal. Chances are he has things going on in his life that are unfavorable. You need to sort them out and work on changing things for the better. If this continues after everything is supposedly taken care of then he may have grown apart from you. Cut your losses and move on, someone will treat you like the princess you need to be treated like. In return you will treat them with the same respect and you will be happier in the long run. Sad but true. Good Luck.
2006-11-20 08:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Steve B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not normal at all. He sounds like a very abrasive, angry, demanding, controlling personality, which makes me question why you've stuck with him for two years. If I had to guess, I'd say that either he's supporting you financially, the sex is really good or you're afraid of being alone. But if your relationship is as bad as it sound, I can't imagine how it could make you happy.
2006-11-20 08:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out NOW! That is NOT normal. Just think about it..down the road maybe you will become engaged then married, and his control will only get worse. I know 2 years awhile, but its either he eases up or you deal with it. But im warning you, its easier to get out now then in the future. Good Luck
2006-11-20 08:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by Ash_082 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! This guy is an abuser. Hollering is a form of abuse. Not talking to you is punishment for not pleasing him. Get away from this guy the abuse will get worse, and you don't want to find out how.
2006-11-20 08:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by longroad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry honey that's not normal he shouldnt b taking his anger out on u its not ur fault hes had a bad day at work. its also strange that he wont talk to u. try sitting down with a nice dinner and talk to him calmly about how this makes you feel
2006-11-20 08:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not normal. He is crazy. Talk to him or leave him now b/c that is out of control. Don't let it develop to anything worse than what it already is.
2006-11-20 08:51:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok no thats call controling! LEAVE HIM! A) thats not right B) its not healthly C) make him see a councilor (i so didnt spell that right) he needs one for the sound of it! maybe some anger management!
2006-11-20 08:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by airforcebeauty06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. he is demanding, unhappy in his life, and controlling.
If you're not unhappy now you will be eventually.
sorry.
he made need counciling. Try to help him find a new job and some stress/anger management.
2006-11-20 08:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋