I am a 40 yr old woman and I leave on my own, is it reallly a must for me to introduce my fiance to my father? My father travels in and out of the country and once in while stays in my apartment for a month or two, and when that happens, my fiance is hesitant to sleep over my place due to that situation.
2006-11-20 08:49:54 · 21 answers · asked by jinky l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no matter what your age, you will ALWAYS be daddy's little girl.
i think its a very beautiful thing to want your future husband to meet your father... they should be the 2 most imoprtant men in your life.
2006-11-20 10:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking one question but tipping your hand to another question, and something else you're feeling. GUILT.
1. There is no father that would want to be "surprised" that his daughter is engaged, long after the fact. If you're engaged, you're engaged. Tell him. Why sneak around ? He'll want to meet and approve of your man. (Or do you think Dad will notice something about your man that you already know and don't like ? Perhaps your head is telling you something your heart is ignoring). At least give him the opportunity to be happy for you and help you with the wedding plans.
2. Your fiance needs to honor your father and his relationship to you by not sleeping over at your place when your dad is around. That would be just too "in your face" with it. As you don't really want the details of your parent's sex life (it's creepy), for your parent, it's too personal, and embarassing--so you two, give it a break until the wedding comes.
3. That leaves the quandary--how do you guys spend "alone" time together when there is the one-month or two-month stay ? Well, have you heard of dinner dates? And hotels ? In essence, a bit of subterfuge here, but you tell dad you're going on a dinner date, and you guys hit the hotel instead. Have room service and tell your dad the dinner was fabulous !
2006-11-20 09:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel that it is necessary, then don't bother...you will have to introduce the two sometime though!! He s going to be family, and it is only right...its a little rude to not introduce the most important man in your life to your own father.
2006-11-20 15:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should introduce him to your father. I thought at first that you didn't get along, but since he stays at your apartment for as long as a month or two, then I think you would feel obligated to introduce them to each other. Is there something wrong with either one of them?
2006-11-20 08:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are 40, for the cripes sake! Introduce them, inform your father that your fiance stays over and if he is uncomfortable he can stay somewhere else then. It is your place, you make the rules. Unless of course Daddy is paying for your place, then forget everything I said!!!
2006-11-20 08:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by his temptress 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I realize you are older and all that jazz... but I think it's appropriate to introduce the two of them. You are going to be sharing your life with this man, why not make him a part of the family? I think it is especially important if your father stays with you. Good luck.
2006-11-20 09:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lax Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? Even if you are 80 and your dad is still alive you should! He is your father and regardless of him being there much or not it is out of respect. You should introduce him to your dad. Such a big part of your life that you should share... Does your mom know? Just asking.
2006-11-20 09:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by ahuga 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is your fiance that much of a creep that your father is going to hate him automatically?
He will be his son in law one day I think its a good idea to introduce them. They will be family whether you like it or not.
2006-11-20 08:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, if he is living with you one to two months at a time - pretty good chance they are going to bump into each other once in a while - especially after you get married! So, why not officially introduce them so it's not uncomfortable when they bump into each other:)
2006-11-20 10:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have decided to spend the rest of your life with this man; I am sure he will want to meet your dad and vice versa. You have said nothing that suggests there would be any reason not to introduce them.
2006-11-20 08:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by Specsy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have an absolutely horrible relationship with your father, why would you not want to introduce him to your fiance???
2006-11-20 08:57:19 · answer #11 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋