Men would this bother you?

Question

Quite often when my boyfriend and i go out he gets checked out by other women, and very often hit on the moment i walk off. So anyways I am a possesive person when it comes to the person i am with, but with these girls i never instigate a fight, or argument. I don't say anything rude to them or my boyfriend nor do i cling to my man to show her that he is taken.
My boyfriend said that it still bothers him some that he knows that even if i dont show it that it bothers me. Esp because i notice more of the women then he does (he can be oblivious).

Would it bother you men if you knew when women hit on you that your girlfriend was irked by it?
Oh and i never get upset at him, i just dont tend to like those women too much haha.

Answer 1

I have this problem as well. I let my girl know that SHE is my girl. She may get irked by the others but, like you, she notices it more than I do. Be glad that you're with someone worth looking at.

Answer 2

Yeah, if you act threatened it makes you look insecure and he will think the other girls must be hotter than you, or else you wouldn't be bothered by it.

No doubt he probably also likes the attention and is flattered when other girls check him out, even if he has no interest in the girls. But that doesn't mean at all that he is going to act on it or he is going to become interested in those girls.

I know it's hard but I think the best thing is to try to act like it doesn't bother you, even if you have to fake it. Then he will think you know you are the bomb and the other girls got nothing on you and he will be more attracted to you. I read somewhere that if a girl acts threatened by another girl, it automatically makes the other girl a 10 in the eyes of the guy, even if in reality she is only like a 4 or 5.

Answer 3

absolutly not, i think this is very natural that you obviously don't like it when a guy makes a move on yours, and i think the girls obvouisly don't realise that he is taken, i mean who does that on purpose, so its perfectly natural, although i have to admit i may be mildly annoyed by it after a while as i could kinda say, "your offer
is very nice but im not sure my girlfriend would agree there" its obviously no mistrust on your part, and he proberly doesn't feel that, he may be mildly annoyed that you keep trying to protect him and that you may seem a bit "clingy" but you proberly don't have to be because they are intersted in a relationship, but not if some one else is involved, they don't realise that, and he most likely isn't intrested, i've had a girl make a pass at me when i've been in a relationship but i didn't really care much i mostly sort of ignored i understand, a friend of mine goes absolutly nuts when a guy tries to hit on his girlfriend, he loves her a lot and when they do try, hes right over there being well rather protective, to a situation that she could deal with, and its not for lack of trust for her either he more doesn't trust them and just wants to know they arn't trying to do anything he wouldn't aprove of, and im sure its very much the same as you so maybe just backing off and letting him do the talking in these situations might be best.

Answer 4

I am flattered by the fact that other men find my girl attractive. My girl and I have turned this flattery into a game.

We both believe, "If a guys wants to spend the rest of his night buying you drinks, let him. Guys have even bought her friend (me) drinks. Vice versa, I have had women buy us drinks as well.. Going to a club is one big game and I can either go out have a good time or sit there angry watching other people have a good time.

If a dude wants to dance with my girl, the choice is hers. She has enough respect for herself and me to let him know how far he can go and I am the same way with women, besides there are times when I wanna be out, but not neccasarily to dance, so why ruin things for her.

Trust, trust, trust! You got to have it! The same way I know other men find my girl attractive, is the common sense to know I am not the only attractive man she will every see again in her life. She has never given me a reason to assume she is interested in someone else and unless she does, let the fella check her out.

Answer 5

Your feelings are absolutely natural. I think every woman feels this way. What you do about it makes all the difference.

If you are true to your word an are not jealous then I for one would love you even more. If you were clingy and fought every woman you saw I would not care for that.

While it bothers you you are doing the right thing and I think he appreciates it. It is a matter of trust. You are his girlfriend and you are his only girl so if you showed that it bothered you he will take it to mean you do trust him and that would be the problem.

Answer 6

I would not be upset but it is troublesome. I wouldn't want you getting mad at me b/c other women hit on me. However, if you don't get worried at all then I would start to think you wouldn't be too upset about losing me. Don't get mad but a comment here or there to show you want him to be your's alone wouldn't hurt.

Answer 7

its ok for you to be a little upset but think...
he is with you!!! you lucky girl! and he cares about you and thinks YOU are georgous thats why he is oblivious he isnt bored and he doesnt want anything else he is content so be happy with that and let him be. and it is ok that you feel that way. it means you like your man. haha

Answer 8

if u r possessive show it i don't mean go to an extreme but should show it, makes the other person feel more wanted, probably that is what your boyfriend wants to feel,

Answer 9

You're good to him, and the competition wants what you have. Keep it strong, they don't have a chance. Besides, you should be flattered that he's wanted by those who can't have what you've got.

Answer 10

i'm not a man, but i can see what u r saying. I think if he's that hott, it's natural for women to WANT him, but just remember...you're the one that's GOT him!