Family & Relationships - 13 August 2006

I don't get my husband. Everything else seems more important than me and our two boys, everything else comes first. He'll spend hours working on his car (most recently putting in a turbo kit) or playing this mutliplayer online game, but the boys and I never see him; he's always got something else to do. Lately it's been really bad. The kids are starting to feel neglected and r complaining to me. They miss him.

Most recently? He's on a business trip that took him near his hometown, so over the weekend, he drove down to see his mother (he's a big momma's boy, bends over backwards 4 her). No problem. Except that he's so busy doing things 4 "mom" that he couldn't be bothered to call and tell his kids goodnight for the last two nights. And doesn't understand why I'm so angry and hurt. He does stuff like this all the time. There's always something more important and we never get equal time. But he doesn't get it. So I thought Id ask

What do you guys say? *Am* I over-reacting?

2006-08-13 13:35:30 · 14 answers · asked by I'm just me 7 in Marriage & Divorce

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2006-08-13 13:34:48 · 12 answers · asked by Jan 6 in Singles & Dating

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2006-08-13 13:34:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My parents divorced when I was 18, I am now 29. My dad met and married my step mom 1 ½ yrs later. My mom has never remarried. She has had a few relationships, but 2 were with married men, 1 had kids still in high school that my mom didn’t want to deal with, and 1 lived 3 states away and my mom constantly complained about the distance (even though she knew it when she met him). The past year or so she has been meeting men online. She feels it necessary to tell me about every single guy she goes out with, including some of the intimate details, even though I have told her as nicely as I could that I really don’t want to hear about this. She is going out with at least 3-4 different men a week, and bringing quite a few home and having sex with them. She even went to some guys house and had sex with him, and left before his wife got home. If we have a family get together at someone’s house, she either leaves early cause she has a date with another guy or she gets on their computer to check her e-mail to see if she has had anymore guys contact her. She hardly ever spends time with her kids or grandkids anymore. She has actually forgotten plans that she had made with one of the grandkids, because she made plans with someone else. She made plans to pick my son up tonight and keep him till Monday night to spend some time with him. She called Friday to say she was picking him up that night instead, my husband and I thought that she just wanted to spend more time with him. No, it was cause she wanted to make plans for Monday. She would rather spend her free time going out on dates , than to spend it with her grandkids. She has made promises to them that she has forgotten about, but the kids haven’t forgotten. I can not keep track of the men that she is dating cause there are just too many of them. None of which she has wanted to introduce to her family.
Knowing all this, here is what happened to make me ask advice. I lost my temper after finding out the reason she changed plans with my son, and I bluntly told her what I thought about her lifestyle. I will admit, that I probably was a little to harsh and said some very hurtful things, but I had reached my boiling point with her. I told her that I was ashamed over her lifestyle, that I didn’t want a mother who slept with any guy who met, and I didn’t want my kids to have a grandmother like that. I told her that my kids had a right to have the same kind of grandma that I had (my moms mom) who wanted to be around her grandkids frequently, went around asking “Are you hungry honey? You want me to fix you something to eat?”, baked, sewed and quilted. (Ok, I know that was a little overboard.) Well, she handed the phone to my aunt who lives with her, and who knows first hand what my mom is doing, and wouldn’t talk to me anymore. My aunt completely agrees with me and has nicely tried to say the same things to her.
I know I probably got a little too upset and said something’s that I probably wouldn’t have said if I were not so mad. But can anyone see what I got so upset about? And what is your advice to do now?

2006-08-13 13:34:07 · 16 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

Who is the oldest member in your family, alive or dead?

2006-08-13 13:34:05 · 14 answers · asked by Maninblack 1 in Family

My husband has been given more chances than he ever would have given me.

2006-08-13 13:32:59 · 21 answers · asked by lastofseven 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a cousin. Let's call her C. We are close to the same age and were really close friends. The thing that bothers me is she is so 2 faced. C and I work together. We have gotton to know a coworker, J, but when C is around J she totally ignores me ans J has told me she acts like she dosn't even like me. I know she has a right to have other friends, but when C and I get alone, she talks bad about J and says I am her best friend. So basically it's like she is one way around me and another way around J. I don't want to be around her if she's going to be like that. I can't talk to C about it because she is my cousin and coworker. I want to confront her, but not if it causes family problems or problems at work. What should I do?

2006-08-13 13:32:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-08-13 13:32:40 · 10 answers · asked by kevin 2 in Singles & Dating

im starting high school and i want to start with a clean slate i want to make more friends than i had in middle school because you prolly already know theres a lot more people in high school. so i want to be the girl that everyone likes. and i know that not everyone in h.s. will like u but still. when i was younger my parents used to call me the sunshine girl i know its corny but its because when i was younger i was like what im trying to be again. when i was in middle school i became self concious and i lost that likeable vibe or w/e but i want to be like i was when i was a little kid. help please!

2006-08-13 13:32:17 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I know I do! I wish I could find someone to get to know and who shares similar characteristics as myself such as being mature, down to earth, trustworthy, and outgoing. Its hard these days to find "true friendship", hopefully God will bless me with someone. I really would like a female buddy! I am 23 years old and I really would love to meet new people! Is there someone out there like myself?

2006-08-13 13:31:27 · 10 answers · asked by lrmakeithappen 1 in Friends

Men or women? Or do you think they are equally jealous? And why.

2006-08-13 13:31:26 · 9 answers · asked by chica™ 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-08-13 13:31:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

she called me and told me that she liked another guy and that i was keeping her from doing her work at job corp,so she dumped me for this guy and i feel like ****...what should i do?

2006-08-13 13:31:22 · 13 answers · asked by aragorn596 1 in Singles & Dating

I got my G1 on my birthday in July, and I finally drove tonight. The thing is that I made a few mistakes and I feel really embarassed and I feel really bad about it. I hit the brake a little too hard when I was backing out of my driveway, and I forgot to signal when I was going around a turn. Is it normal to feel that way the first time? And if anyone's made any mistakes their first time driving, would you like to share it with me? It's just so that I know that I am not the only one who screwed up!

2006-08-13 13:30:38 · 2 answers · asked by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 in Friends

It seems ever since I got married I receive more attention from women. I am quickly coming to the conclusion that women seemt o cheat just as much as men to fulfill their wildest desires. Regardless if the woman is in a relationship or married they still seem out on the prowel adn just as ready as any given guy to have no strings attached sex. Any ladies care to respond with their opinion? Any ladies willing to admit this is somewhat true?

2006-08-13 13:30:09 · 8 answers · asked by legguy2003 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My best friend puts me down alot [Insults me] She stole a crush from me. [Her ex, whom she was over] And she's the biggest attention grabber, and liar that I know. Hell, she hangs on any guy she can get her hands on. Even if they already have a girlfriend. Does anyone else have a best friend like her? If so, why haven't you killed her yet. [Hypothetically speaking of course.]

2006-08-13 13:28:58 · 31 answers · asked by Read the nametag, Duh! 4 in Friends

2006-08-13 13:28:08 · 12 answers · asked by Jan 6 in Singles & Dating

Every sermon I hear on wedding days at our church, makes me wish I didn't hear it because it makes me feel bad. Everything they say how a husband should be, my husband is not. To love his wife as Christ loves the church is far from my husband. In fact he reproaches anything I do does not care about my feelings he just gets angry at me all the time and treats me like a worthless person. and he acts like i'm against him and gosh i'm not sure how to describe this but i feel so alone so sad and cry so much i don' thave money for counseling and i do not know how to deal with this. The Bible says to turn the other cheek and yes I do but he's my husband! :( He doen'st think he needs to work on anything in our relationship and blames everything that has gone wrong with our not even 2 yr long marriage is my fault. :( please I need Christian insight please. I feel like I just can't take anymore..i've had more emotional pain in this so far marriage than i've ever had in my life.

2006-08-13 13:27:59 · 8 answers · asked by Ultrabrite 1 in Family

my husband and i have been married for quite a while [5yrs]. I still hate it when he watches porn. it makes me feel less attractive. i'm not stupid, i know they[the women he looks at] look a hellofalot better than i do. he says it's just to 'relieve it'. i think its a load of sh**. I’ve told him many times how I felt about it, but still continues to do it. He says he’ll stop [as a promise], but then I catch him. How do I trust him and believe him? how do i know that he's not picturing that 'other' woman while we do our business. why are we even married if he looks at these other women. we have sex like everyday, so it‘s not like he really “NEEDS“ it. And sex is very un-emotional. i know his sex drive is high, so how do i know that he's not going to cheat on me. i consider him watching porn a form of cheating. [cheating visually and mindfully, if that‘s even a word or makes sense] thank you all who answers… just need some outside opinions…

2006-08-13 13:26:59 · 64 answers · asked by noname 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Should judges assume mothers make better parents, as they do now, awarding them sole custody in 84% of all divorces in the US, or should fathers who are sharing childrearing be given joint physical and legal custody when they ask for it?

2006-08-13 13:26:00 · 12 answers · asked by I Wanna Know 3 in Marriage & Divorce

We haven't been out yet, so this would be our first meeting.

2006-08-13 13:25:12 · 13 answers · asked by TheSkeptic 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-08-13 13:24:59 · 33 answers · asked by jason b 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-08-13 13:24:45 · 12 answers · asked by Cozmik 2 in Family

what the /zell does that really mean and what does it take to be girlfriend material?

2006-08-13 13:24:13 · 4 answers · asked by Flafibopsicles 3 in Singles & Dating

She is dark black 4'11,wavy black micros,and is skinny,andn talkative.

2006-08-13 13:23:00 · 1 answers · asked by Brianna S 1 in Singles & Dating

being engaged for more than 2years, & fiance is postponing the marriage re financial reasons, and ask his girl to wait, should she wait more?

2006-08-13 13:20:04 · 14 answers · asked by Totti Frotti 2 in Marriage & Divorce

how do u make a myspace layout page

2006-08-13 13:19:04 · 3 answers · asked by Jessica 1 in Singles & Dating

I only have about $5k to spend on our wedding. Should we use our beautiful scaped 3 acres of land and cater it our selves...? Expecting about 100 people and have about 1 year to plan it.

2006-08-13 13:18:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2006-08-13 13:17:42 · 12 answers · asked by Paul 3 in Singles & Dating

I lost the love of my life today, and theres no way of getting her back. She left on a plane to Colorado, and I've done nothing but cry and lay in bed. I don't even want to smoke weed like I always do, because I don't even feel like being happy. Someone please help me get over her. Thanks

2006-08-13 13:17:16 · 7 answers · asked by Tommy D 1 in Other - Family & Relationships