I have a cousin. Let's call her C. We are close to the same age and were really close friends. The thing that bothers me is she is so 2 faced. C and I work together. We have gotton to know a coworker, J, but when C is around J she totally ignores me ans J has told me she acts like she dosn't even like me. I know she has a right to have other friends, but when C and I get alone, she talks bad about J and says I am her best friend. So basically it's like she is one way around me and another way around J. I don't want to be around her if she's going to be like that. I can't talk to C about it because she is my cousin and coworker. I want to confront her, but not if it causes family problems or problems at work. What should I do?
2006-08-13 13:32:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The best thing to do at this point is not get involved in any deception or lies she may have told J. You are more mature than her and by not falling for the game she is playing you become the better person. Take my word on this one, let's just say been there done that....lol
2006-08-13 13:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by faith m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you have made some observations and need to discuss a few things with her. The fact is she is two faced, maybe she thinks gossipping is ok. Personally I think its evil! Perhaps she thinks everyone does the same sort of thing. The fact is few women can handle being friends in odd numbers, women have a tendency to pair up...if there is an odd number someone always feels left out. I don't operate that way but I am very selective about my friends......its taken a lot of work to find other women that weren't like your cousin! I suggest you and J stick together on the basis that C is probably talking **** about both of you behind each others back! You don't need a friend like your cousin, thats what enemies are for!
2006-08-13 13:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to ignore her. She is getting energy off you and this J by playing you both off on each other, Ignore her for a day or two and when she asks simply say i dont want to talk about other people because they are not here to defend them selves. She will be stressy with you and probably run off to this J dude and hoepfully he will do the same and she will see that she cant do this. Either ways she has esteem problems
2006-08-13 13:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
C must be one of those people who can only have one friend at a time. i had some friends like that when i was younger. all you can do is just move on; find new friends. i know she's your cousin, but eventually, she'll stop being so childish and things will be okay.
2006-08-13 13:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without talking to her in an open and honest way, the only solution is to look for a new job. The issue is with HER, so you need to solve it directly, and politely.
2006-08-13 13:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how bout '' your hurting my feelings'' and what would posses you to work with your cousin in the first place
2006-08-13 13:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by shortyonwheelz2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask; L, P, B..and especially F & U. They should be able to help....If not; Q, W, Z and the EYE will help them...Becareful of____________E
2006-08-13 13:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by yahoooo reject 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just tell her if she isn't nice about it. I think you should just ignore it.
2006-08-13 13:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't kno what to say just tell her you don't like how she is acting
2006-08-13 13:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by ..<3.. Green_pixie ..<3.. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋