then when I have been openly happy, relaxed, looked forward to something, was excited about something etc, he does or says something to change how I feel, something snide, rude, critical, inappropriate. It has happened enough that I began to notice (for the last 5 years maybe) I hid how I really felt about potential plans, events, occassions etc., or used misdirection so he would he could be cold, rude etc about things that didn't matter to me. Whenever, we have discussed or mariage problems, he tells me, he just wants me to be happy.
I finally pointed all this out to him, and asked him if it bothered him when I was happy. He said "no". He just said, he wishes things would roll off my back and I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. We went to sleep. I feel to ignore or not take his words seriously, is unrealistic.., unless I choose to not have him as husband. What is happening here?
2007-08-29
04:57:08
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