My fiancé and I are planning on getting married in March 2007 (small wedding, only 20 or so close family and friends and then a much bigger reception a couple of weeks later).
The problem is that my mum and step-dad (the only father I know) split up 4 years ago and haven't spoken since. My mother literally walked out on my step-dad with no warning leaving my step-sister, who was then 18 and my step-brother, who was then about 15.
I don't have close contact with either of them- I see my mum a bit more, but not much. I still see my step-fathers parents and I am very close to my step brother and sister.
The problem is, they are still my parents and I want them at my wedding, but I am terrified they will argue. How will they cope when they have not communicated apart from through solicitor's for the past few years?
Their impending divorce has got very nasty with both sides lying to get the upper hand and us kids trying to stay out of it. Although our parents do their best to drag us into it, relaying messages through us to them etc etc
My mother has a new partner, who I do not like and I feel may inflame the situation. Shall I invite him or not? I do not want to upset my mother by not inviting, him, but then it is my day.
Part of the reason we are having such a small ceremony is that both my fiancé and I feel it would be much harder for them to create a scene with only 20 or so people present. But now I am not so sure.
We are pretty poor, so it won't be a big do, but we are just on the verge of sending out the invites and I don't know what to do.
Neither of them has even bothered to send me an engagement card and they are not good parents at all, yet I am loathed to not invite them as I don't want any possible children I might have to feel the reprucussions of this, in say 20 years time.
I am so worried they will ruin my day- HELP!
2006-11-13
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emma l2
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