I am a 28 year old mother of 3 - two boys ages 4 and 7 and a 5 year old girl. Except for my 7 year old, we have not had any out-of-the-ordinary behavior issues.
In Kindergarten, his teacher was always telling me that he does not listen, does not pay attention, and often disrupted the other students. In first grade, we had the same problems, so I had him tested for ADD. My pediatrician all but laughed at me and said that he was just a normal boy. He was always complaining about being bullied and not having any friends in the 1st grade. However, I should mention that he is very, very smart. He was reading before Kindergarten and he now reads, spells and does math at a beyond 2nd grade level. He missed 6 out of 125 questions on the last statewide testing in school.
This summer, we moved to a different state with smaller class sizes so that he would be able to have more one-on-one attention in class. At first it seemed to help, but now things are just getting worse.
At home there are many issues. For example, every time he urinates, he goes pretty much everywhere but in the toilet - shower curtain, floor, side of toilet - you get the picture. He will wear his little brother's clothes if they are accidently put in his drawer, even though they are obviously too small. Today, he put on a button-down shirt, and put his head through an unbuttoned area instead of the head hole. When fixing his shirt, I also noticed that his jeans were unbuttoned and the top of them were folded inside.
At school, he does not pay attention. He received Unsatisfactory grades in "controlling himself" and "listening/paying attention". A few weeks ago, his teacher called me because he has been spitting on the floor during class, and while in line for lunch, he started picking up milk cartons and licking them.
I am really beginning to lose my patience with him, and it is also carrying over to the other children. Everytime he gets into trouble, I lecture him, and become increasingly frustrated while doing so, then will just start yelling at them for every tiny thing they do wrong. Over the past few months, I am starting to feel as if I dont even have anything nice to say to them anymore, I am always yelling at someone for something. It has reached the point where I feel jelouus when I see someone else being nice to them because I just feel as if I have lost that part of me.
Please help me. I dont want to be a horrible parent or make this behavior worse, but I dont know where else to look for support. I feel like the doctor doesnt believe me and the school just blames me for these problems.
2006-10-26
02:00:31
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