I'm 17 and I'll be 18 in 38 days. I get along with my mom but not here boyfriend. I told my mom that either he leaves or I leave. well he hasn't left. My friends and her parents both said that I could move in with them, should I move out on my 18th b-day or should I wait until after graduation?
2006-10-26 02:01:42 · 23 answers · asked by hardcore_carebear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are not happy then move. Your Mom has a right to choose her bf and you have a right to be happy. Get out and enjoy your independence! Good Luck.
2006-10-26 02:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a heavy burden you've placed on your mother. You should discuss your feelings in depth with her and perhaps you two could work out some sort of solution. You should stay and learn some positive ways to learn to accept her boyfriend. I'm sure he must have some good attributes or your mother wouldn't be with him. Running away from the problem is not a good way to deal with it. Are you going to college? If so, then it's only a matter of months before you'll be moving anyway. If not, then after graduation, get a job and find your own place. Don't shut your mother out and keep the lines of communication open.
2006-10-26 09:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it, you are a piece of your mom and will be forever. You can't just walk away from your mom, you're connected forever. If her BF can't get along with you then he doesn't respect your mom because you are without question the most important thing in your mom's life. She may not recognize that right at this moment, be she knew it in the past and she'll know it in the future. Stay with your mom, be strong for your mom, and wait it out. Do your best to get along or avoid him but whatever you do don't leave your mom until you're sure she is happy in the relationship. And whatever you do don't leave your mom on bad terms she will always be the single most connected person you will ever have in your life.
Once again, if he can't get along with and respect you, her daughter, whom she gave life, he won't last with her.
Always love and respect your family!
2006-10-26 09:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by white_yack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Graduating is the most important thing. I had friends move into my house with me and my parents on and off throught out my senior year for reasons that are simular to yours. Shame on your mom for pick a man over her own child, but then again, your mom deserves happiness too. You have to look at both sides of the story. If I was you and I just couldn't deal with it any more, than I'd go, as long as I didn't have to change schools and was able to finish out the school year. As long as you have the support you need to get you through, you'll be alright.
2006-10-26 09:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by puzzleraspie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't happy the best thing to do is leave. It is kind of dumb to ask your mom to choose between you or her man. She is a grown woman and she won't choose. You will feel better about yourself if you leave at 18 too. Just a word of advice though - don't expect to stick around your friend's house too long. I would start saving your money so you can get your own place and not wear out your welcome. It might like an easy solution to move in with a friend, but remember it is still someone else's house, they might expect you to pay some sort of rent, and you might not like their rules. Good luck!!
2006-10-26 09:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait til after graduation if you can. That way you are out of school and 18. If you have plans to go to college then I would consider living on campus. If not there are lots of opportunities out there for you. But as a mom it would hurt me if my child moved out before graduating school. That's just one moms opinion.
2006-10-26 09:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by MotherB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until grad day, if you can. It might be easier on you if you plan on moving out in your own place. If the father is not abusing you in anyway it might be smart to stay and save. But if you can move in with a family member and be able to save your money to then do that. You need to feel safe and happy. Do whatever your heart tells you to do. For real life is too short
2006-10-26 09:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rock ah About 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me you little brat, first of all you need to proof read what you write.
If thats all the respect you show your mother you have way to much to learn before you even think about moving out.
I could care less if you like her boyfriend or not, he' s not there for you.
Stay put and grow up, get some maturity. You will need it when you do venture out on your own.
And be nice to your mom, or you will regret it.
2006-10-26 09:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by vcrlobster 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably he wants you to move so thats why he is trying to get on your nerves so often. Just stay more at least til your graduation and when you find a job.
Why should you leave any how , your mother can find a new boyfriend but not a new daughter.just stay put you'll never know maybre they might split up
good luck
2006-10-26 09:07:46 · answer #9 · answered by MORTİCİA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. You can always move out, but you might not be able to move back in. Once you're gone, you're gone. Plenty of time to make what's possibly a non-reversible move. Living on your own sounds great, but there's a lot of issues, like having bills and bill collectors, not having enough money and worries like that. You have the rest of your life to deal with those things.
2006-10-26 09:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by Glennroid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋