Psychology - October 2007

I have asked this sort of thing before, but this time it is for a term paper.

I was forced to raise a learning challenged little brother when I was too young to deal with that sort of thing. I was done parenting when I was about 10 years old. I sought, and succeeded in getting a vasectomy when I was 21.

Since then, I have been asked why I never had children, thousands of times. I have been accused of being “gay”, “communist”, "baby hater", "pervert" and so on, in the name of not wanting children around. This has been the case, even though I have dated at least a dozen women that have children over the last 20 years (since I had my vasectomy).

Of the people that know I have no children, I think I can count the number that didn’t “challenge” me (with rude questions) on my fingers. Why do you think they ask me in some “rude” manor, or label me?

The number of "challenges" have reduced in recent years. Do you think this is becuse the world has changed since 9-11?

2007-10-22 00:59:36 · 6 answers · asked by Marvin 7

Let me tell you something about me.

I am very concerned about the way my friends behave with me/treat me. I make quick decisions, so if i feel that any of my friends is doing anything wrong with me then i just break the relation right there.
No more confusion. That's the way,i am
I don't let my friends make multiple mistakes. One big mistake or two & you're gone & i usually don't take a backward step.

But now i have one girl in my life (right now the best friend) which is making mistake after mistake & i am letting it go everytime.
I don't know why. I am forgiving her everytime. Though she's good but she does lots of things that i don't like.It seems to me that i just don't want to leave her.
That's very un-like my character.

I have never shown that much patience ever in my little life so far in any form of relation especially with my friends.

What's going on with me?

2007-10-21 21:15:35 · 16 answers · asked by The Great Montitude 7

How can I change my behaviour?

2007-10-21 20:40:20 · 4 answers · asked by armita a 1

i am never consciously thinking about it when i take them off

2007-10-21 16:54:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

when taking constant criticism will try to either change the subject or get the criticizer's approval

constantly sides with the criticizer even when they are defended and never sides with the defender.

always has an excuse when it's time to keep a promise, even if it's kept it's almost always never when promised on.

2007-10-21 16:41:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

hi, i have been some sort of personality disorder since i was 8 i have had therapy until i cant stand it anymore, i have gone over the same crap over and over. when they put me on clonipine i have no memory of those two years, but the withdrawal was six months and awful. now im on trazdone,seriquel,zoloft. and im getting my mind somewhat back, i can take out the garbage, bath more, and force my self to go to the bank without throwing up. i think i cant put my finger on what the heck i have, i tried a lot of meds how can i make my body respond to my mind? all replies answered.I

2007-10-21 16:07:20 · 1 answers · asked by sheilasays 3

Could this defy the trust that one has put into certain individuals that has made one become this way ? Granted, we choose who we wish to be and consequences are expected but, should one deviate from anti-socialism to live in a common society where it's only going to be rendered useless because of just the way people talk ?

2007-10-21 15:29:27 · 2 answers · asked by !~"Fish On"~! 5

2007-10-21 15:19:57 · 4 answers · asked by girlyyygirl 2

like you can't stop arguing with yourself or you hear things like someone telling you to do something. Serious question here, I am not drunk or on drugs

2007-10-21 15:14:03 · 10 answers · asked by whata waste 7

this has been happening to me in the last week. I amjust about asleep, totally relaxed then suddenly i will hear a loud noise and wake up thinking something has happened and when i investigate theres nothing? just now i was just asleep when i heard an almighty crash, i woke, my partner carried on sleeping and i realised this has been happening a lot recently? if you have any suggestions i would be grateful

2007-10-21 14:32:47 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

when u trying to sleep and its like really dark does it ever feel like something there...im not buts but im serious like i always feel something there and am scared to pic my head up and look in fear of something stand in my room or something??does anyone else get this

2007-10-21 14:20:17 · 8 answers · asked by Est.1992 6

When someone makes you angry, how do you not RE-ACT and go off on that person?
i seriously would like to know!

2007-10-21 13:59:22 · 5 answers · asked by 100% ♥Creole♥ 7

business on my own...have no friends....have a stern, miserable expression.....even though i use it as my coping mechanism to say ' im ok jack ' ' im soldiering on '.....i may appear to people very aloof and cold.....because i have alot of pride....want to not admit im vunerable and hurting inside......

i call it the wounded lion syndrome......because a wounded lion wont tell you hes hurt..

im 30, have borderline personality disorder, and ptsd and aggrophobia to.. i go out only when i have to and have to force myself i live in a small place in england, and i was thinking people probablly see me coming and going on my own......this guy with an aloof, serios expression on his face..

and i was fearing how people might percieve me....as this sad loner guy, troubled...somebody to avoid.
ive suffered greatly in my life with bullying and abuse....but until i build my life up & accomplish my goals of emigrating from britain to build a new life......this is how people might view me

2007-10-21 13:51:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-21 13:45:06 · 4 answers · asked by fatimah s 1

My ex continues to blame me for our breakup and is not accepting that we BOTH had parts in our separation. Furthermore, she refused to communicate civily, so I had to move on. What are your thoughts?

2007-10-21 13:32:49 · 3 answers · asked by Lois 3

I don't want answers like "just do it", I want real plans on how to overcome myself.

My mother died about 5-6 years ago, and I have been feeling sad lately about her death especially because I may be heading off to college next year (depending if I am ready), a separation from my family. A psychologist, who I have met with a few times said that I may be in a state of chronic depression (I think that is what he called it, well, it means long term depression). The symptoms don't really appear, but he said that I may exhibit the signs of not caring about my work, and then getting angry with myself to "make up for" not doing my work. Also, he said, that because my father had ADD/ADHD (whatever it was) I may also have the attention disorder. This truely devastated me and I am angry and refuse to take the medicine, believing the medicine demeans me WAY too much, I am not normal, and I really want to be normal, but I WANT TO FIGURE IT OUT MYSELF, not with some stupid medicine, well those are

2007-10-21 13:20:39 · 12 answers · asked by anonymous 3

I'm interested in how everyone else is. My male friend (in another part of the country), says that he has never had a female friend without "messing around" with them.

Myself, I have more best friends that are guys for some reason.

2007-10-21 12:59:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-21 12:40:51 · 7 answers · asked by Prof Fruitcake 6

Is it some type of bored geek crank who has a deep hatred for the internet? I can just imagine them sitting there in a filthy grotty flat probably all fat greasy and sweaty living off microwave meals and junk food staring into his/her computer screen. These people seriously need some counciling and a life long prescription of chill pills to bring them down to some acceptable level of normality!

2007-10-21 12:24:46 · 7 answers · asked by GSGREEN1978 2

or is it impossible

2007-10-21 12:24:43 · 20 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7

basically,
i would like to know what makes people hate another person or group of people.

2007-10-21 12:24:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am almost 100% sure that my boyfriend has antisocial personality disorder. every possible symptom of it, he shows. and some days he is completely fine and others, it can be very hard to communicate with him. he gets angry pretty easily and i think he has a hard time expressing emotion of any kind, other than anger. i care about him deeply, and have been with him for several years. i am wondering if anyone has had a good relationship with someone with this problem, or if you know anyone who has or if there are any good ways to communicate with them or get them to show emotion better. anything, really.

2007-10-21 12:11:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

a lot. I'm really depressed.

I've never even considered suicide because I know it's not the answer.

But I don't like where things are going. How do I deal if they won't change?

2007-10-21 12:05:24 · 12 answers · asked by live*laugh*love 4

I'm in the middle of depression and I have to go to work (which is the source of my major stress) and I feel on the verge of having a major breakdown (even now). How do you handle being in the mist of a stressful environment and making decision during that time. I'm a first year nurse.

2007-10-21 12:03:51 · 4 answers · asked by kay 1

First question; when people talk about this girl, they always call her Genie, because she disappeared from society, right?

Another question; what is her real name? I tried researching it, and it wouldn't tell me anything except that it was kept private. But I would still like to know; anyone know?

Also; what is your opinion about how she was treated?

2007-10-21 11:32:52 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-21 11:21:09 · 8 answers · asked by Edmund 3

2007-10-21 10:16:25 · 17 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7

and they say that they love every one of their lovers and all of them in the end. Are they really loving? Is there a kind of desiese?
.......(sorry about my english)

2007-10-21 10:12:32 · 2 answers · asked by Claudia A 2

I do have ALOT of insecurities about myself and I think she knew I had them. But is this why it's so damn hard for talk to someone? I feel like breaking down and crying right now. I want to be a good friend and a good person to be with. Please help me!!! =( Will yoga or meditation help me? Thanks.

2007-10-21 10:07:07 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are constantly provoked by our surrounding and other people, but most of the time we can't allow to react even though we feel right and need to express ourselves to defend our position. We are suppressing our anger keeping our frustration, knowing that when we react that this can cause a counter reaction which might escalate into violence. Having suppressed our reactions over a long time, these accumulate and we are moving around like pressure cooker or time bombs: The moment comes when the tension is getting too much and then even a slight provocation might make us explode, loosing all control over ourselves.
The solution might be that we do not react out of anger and that we find out in the first place why we are getting angry at all! Obviously one needs to become conscious about the root cause. How can we do this? There are various ways. For me 'meditation' works best and is the most effective. I do it since over fifty years and like to share it: http://falconblanco.org/release

2007-10-21 09:29:12 · 14 answers · asked by BeiYin *answers questions* 6